The Calm Confidence Podcast: Social Anxiety and Being Yourself

How To Figure Out Who You Are

Don’t you hate when people tell you to just be yourself? “Just express yourself and you’ll find your people,” is what they tell you. The problem is you don’t know who you

People Are Judging You

When my social anxiety was at it's worst, people would try to convince me that it was all in my head; that no one was thinking about me as much as I thought they were. An

Stop Justifying Your Social Anxiety

In today’s episode we explore how our mind convinces us that avoidance is a good thing. When we are really anxious we start to truly believe that social interactions are

Stop Trying To Be Yourself

"Just Be Yourself." The worst advice known to man for social anxiety. Despite knowing how unhelpful this is, we can often find ourselves trying to be more "ourself." Howe

Overcoming Fear or Public Speaking w/Special Guest

In today's episode I talk about overcoming the fear of public speaking with Mona, who also goes by Babystepstothemic on TikTok and Instagram. Mona has amassed over 170K f

The Truth About Social Rejection (And Why You've Got It All Wrong)

What if rejection isn't actually rejection? In this episode, we break down why it feels like getting rejected is often just incompatibility that we've learned to take per

What To Talk About When You Have No Life

One of our biggest fears with social anxiety is that people will find out we have boring lives. We don't go out, don't have many friends and don't do much outside of the

Stop Trying To Be Cool

When we are struggling with social anxiety or confidence we try to project a persona of "cool" on "nonchalant" to the world. The problem is that the very act of doing thi

Navigating College With Social Anxiety

College is one of the most socially demanding environments you will ever be in; new people, new situations, and almost no time to ease into any of it. In this episode I t

The Uncomfortable Truth About Social Anxiety

We talk a lot about the fear of being judged. But there's a side of social anxiety that nobody really talks about; the fact that when we're anxious, we often become the m

Overcoming Fear Of Approach

You want to talk to more people, but you're afraid to initiate. This often begins with our expectations. We tend to believe there are certain social "rules" we must follo

The Regret of Making Progress

Sometimes making progress with your social anxiety can be painful. We are reminded of all the time and opportunities we lost for not making progress earlier. This can sto

Course Update and a Thank You

We’ve officially hit 1000 subscribers! What a journey it’s been, thank you for all your support, you motivate me every day to keep this going. Also, quick update, there

Feeling Exposed: Managing The Insecurities Behind Social Anxiety

There is a not so hidden driver of social anxiety, and that is our insecurities. Whether it is the way we look, the way we talk, our current place in life, our physical s

How To Stop Overthinking Before Social Events (Anticipatory Anxiety Explained)

Do you ever find yourself up all night worrying about a party, date or presentation the next day (or week or month). This is a very common symptoms of social anxiety. In

How To Do Exposure Therapy For Social Anxiety

When we have social anxiety it feels like we are doing exposure therapy every day and yet nothing gets better. Still people tell us, "you have to face your fears." But no

How To Actually Be Yourself

When you have social anxiety people give you really bad advice, like "Just be Yourself." It sounds good in theory, but what does it actually mean? No one explains it. Als

Why You Can't Make Friends

Making friends can be very hard, especially when you get older, and especially when you have social anxiety. In this episode I explore my own experience and struggles mak

Introversion, Shyness or Social Anxiety?

Are you introverted, shy or do you have social anxiety disorder? Thes are three terms that often get confused for one another but are actually very different things. I br

How To Actually Not Care What Others Think

I apologize for the background noise. It was beautiful out today so I recorded outside on my phone. I spent years trying to figure out how to not care what others think.