Twenty Good Summers

Episode 21 • How to Get Married

Following on “Why Get Married,” we take on the topic of “how.” Specifically, what the ceremony means to each of us, and what ours in two weeks is going to be like. Along

Episode 20 • Why Get Married?

“Cher, do you believe in the institution of marriage?” “Yeah, but who wants to live in an institution?” In three weeks we’re getting married, even though when we met we

Episode 19 • Who Lives, Who Dies, Who Tells Your Story?

Prompted by an email from a peevish listener, we talk about the complexities of sharing one’s personal history in a public setting — and hope we’re discussing an issue ex

Episode 18 • On the Move

Friends, we’re getting kicked out of our apartment four days before our wedding — thanks, Unsympathetic Landlord! — which, along with some relevant emails from our faithf

Episode 17 • Dear P and J

Another dive into our bulging mailbag, featuring provocative (= sex) questions (about sex) from a slew of far-flung correspondents (who want to talk sex). And we are only

Episode 16 • Comin’ and Goin’, part two: Goin’

Our fearless inquiry into sex and travel uncovers unexpected links between the two! If you’re Good Giving & Game in bed, you’re probably equally so when you’ve missed you

Episode 15 • Comin’ and Goin’, part one: Comin’

We’ve often referenced Chris Rock's Two Rules for Being in a Relationship: “You should be having sex and traveling. Comin’ and goin’.” Well, in this long-requested episod

Episode 14 • Talking About Money Is Incredibly Uncomfortable

…But we do it anyway, in an episode about the rise and fall of male and female power with age, and differences in means, and prenups, and who picks up the check, and how

Episode 13 • Gilding the Lily Allen

We went to see Lily Allen perform West End Girl in its entirety at Radio City Music Hall, and boy, did it prompt some thoughts about anger and forgiveness! Is bitterness,

Episode 12 • Doing It for the Kids

One of the challenges of forging a relationship later in life? Kids! In this episode, we talk about parenting and step-parenting and also P’s birthday festival this past

Episode 11 • 20GS DGAF

Are you loved for who you are, or do folks selectively pick and choose the parts of you they enjoy the most, regarding the rest as at best a quirk, at middling an inconve

Episode 10 • Game

Road trip! This episode was recorded in our car on I-80 East between Kearney and Lincoln, Nebraska, after an impulsive trip to see the sandhill cranes and prairie chicken

Episode 9 • Guts and Glory

Bodies bodies bodies! They're getting older, and we're going to talk about 'em. About cosmetic enhancements and laser hair removal and varicose veins and shooting botulis

Episode 8 • I Love You

Spurred by an email from one of our listeners, we talk about “I love you” — when do you say it, why do you say it, when shouldn’t you say it, and what does it mean?

Episode 7 • Baggage Claim

Yes, folks, it’s part three of our continuing series of episodes about dating. In this one we talk about baggage, all the junk-in-the-trunk you bring to relationships for

Episode 6 • Knitting Sweaters Out of Sand

In this episode, filmed in the backyard in our bathrobes, we talk about male vulnerability. Do you want Chalamet or McConnaughey? YOU CANNOT HAVE BOTH! Lots of other stu

Episode 5 • We’ve Got Mail

A bonus episode where we read and react to some of your emails about dating. Have a great weekend!

Episode 4 • Is That a Red Rose or a Red Flag? (dating, part two)

By popular demand, more talk about dating! In this one, we walk you from app to appetizers: Like, what if you treat a first date as a job interview — does that make it le

Episode 3 • Modern Lovers (dating, part one)

Everyone wants to talk about dating! And not just how we met (on an app), but also what it’s like to put yourself out there in middle age. Should you lie about how old yo

Episode 2 • The Argument Clinic

Have we had our first argument? Are you kidding?? We’ve had many! In this episode, we talk about that first argument — which occurred mere days after our first date — an