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U Up?

by Betches Media

U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com Watch U Up? on YouTube: http://youtube.com/betches

Latest episodes

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Can Friendship Breakups Be Fixed in Therapy? ft. Esther Perel

#46 trending · Society & Culture

Esther Perel is back to join Jordana and Jared to talk about AI girlfriends, if using AI to write a love letter is dishonest, and the real reason we are choosing our phon

Oct 16
55 min

My Mother-in-Law Stalks My Husband’s Ex and Keeps Comparing Me to Her

#9 trending · Relationships

This week, J&J learn that Hinge is banning screenshots, and they question whether this is good for dating or helps cheaters get away with it! They Jordana and Jared see a

Oct 14
1 h 28 min

My BF Asked His Ex-Wife for Her Engagement Ring Back, What an ICK

Jared and Jordana are learning about Instagram’s new blur feature for “soft launching” couples in their new segment, Are U Up to Date? They then answer a listener’s email

Oct 9
51 min

I Thought We Were in Love, But Then He Listed 20 Reasons to Break Up!

Jordana and Jared are reading through a listener’s breakup texts, and the list of reasons to end it is long! A cozy cabin weekend in the woods was not as romantic as she

Oct 7
1 h 25 min

Can Your Marriage Survive Living With Your Parents? ft Heather McMahan

Heather McMahan joins Jordana & Jared to talk about living with her mom after becoming a newlywed and getting fired from the Ryder Cup! She talks about how meeting her hu

Oct 2
43 min

My Boyfriend Has a High-Conflict Baby Mama – Help!

It’s a rapid fire episode with 10 relationship questions from YOU, the listeners. Jordana and Jared answer questions about how long is too long to go without sex or a mar

Sep 30
1 h 00 min

She's Older, He's Younger: Is a 7-Year Age Gap Too Much?

It’s autumn, and Jordana & Jared are challenging their listeners to put down their phones, get out of the house, and talk to people! They then get into questions from you

Sep 25
35 min

My Husband Used AI to Write Me a Birthday Card!

Jordana discovers her husband used an AI chat to help him write her birthday card, and she has some feelings about whether a love letter still counts when chat gpt edits

Sep 23
1 h 19 min

Dumping Someone in Public: Is It Ever Okay?

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Sep 18
57 min

My Boyfriend Won’t Propose Until I Run 125 km!

Jordana tells Jared how her vacation ended up being the busiest and most unrelaxing, but also the most fun, due to Ronnie the dog getting kicked out of boarding for peein

Sep 16
1 h 36 min

Would You Be a Wedding Crasher If Your Date Asked You?

Jared and Jordana discovered that you can crash a wedding and think it’s the best way to spend a night out with someone you’re dating! From black-tie dress codes to open

Sep 11
38 min

I’m ICKed Out Over My Boyfriend Fangirling Over a Tennis Player

It’s Jordana’s birthday, Happy Birthday, Jordana! J&J debate wedding plus-ones, jealous partners, and how much texting is too much when you’re dating. They also dive into

Sep 9
1 h 14 min

Lauren Lapkus Has a Dating App Imposter

Lauren Lapkus joins Jordana and Jared to talk about dating actors, marriage, kids, and whether being good at acting makes someone too good at lying?? The three play red f

Sep 4
34 min

How Long Should Your Husband Wait to Remarry After You Die?

Jared shares about meeting his girlfriend’s friends, how he got questioned about his phone use, and how being in a relationship means meeting the friend group! Then J&J d

Sep 2
1 h 25 min

How Do You Start Dating Again After Divorce?

Jordana and Jared watch a TikTok of a groom zip lining into his own wedding and debate whether a groom spending $24K is a major ICK. They then answer a question from a ne

Aug 28
40 min

Does a Texting Lull Mean the Date Is Off?

Jordana and Jared discuss a dating app match who canceled a first date after there was a lull in texting and then sent practically a full dissertation explaining his comm

Aug 26
1 h 15 min

Would You Take a Sperm Donation From A Married Friend?

It’s a Friday Feels episode and J&J are questioning, "would you pay $5,000 to break up with someone"? The two then get into listener questions and discuss whether it’s pe

Aug 21
49 min

Your Crush Is Dating Your Friend. What Do You Do?

Jordana and Jared discuss what to do when your friend starts dating your crush, whether the way you handle getting roasted at a comedy show is an ick, and how to handle o

Aug 19
1 h 32 min

Harry Jowsey Wants to Be a Stay-at-Home Husband

Harry Jowsey joins Jordana and Jared to talk about how he was engaged to 20 women at once for his new Netflix’s show, Let’s Marry Harry, what changed for him after losing

Aug 14
33 min

Can You be Engaged for Years without Getting Married?

Jordana and Jared debate whether it’s okay for your boyfriend to go on a trip with his ex, especially when they still own an apartment together. They also decide if an ex

Aug 12
1 h 08 min

Chart trend

Position in the Relationships chart (US), last 90 days.

#2
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days in the top 3 since Nov 2024

Chart positions

Where U Up? ranks today in each Apple Podcasts chart (US, Oct 18, 2026).

#7 ▲ 1 Relationships US
#86 ▲ 7 Society & Culture US

What listeners say

A curated, balanced selection of Apple Podcasts reviews.

I guess you can only write one review for one podcast.. gotta delete my other very high rating but I REALLY liked this episode from sept 9. Idk why I’m surprised every time they have a super nuanced, open, honest dialogue where they aren’t afraid to disagree w each other/the writer, but this one stood out! The tennis conversation- I hadn’t caught all the red flags in the guy as Jared did, and as a woman that’s a wake up call! I also love the idea that scaring away a date shouldn’t be such a fear and that it will happen regardless. This podcast has been there for me since 2022 when I was dumped, I’m now in a relationship of a year but still consider this my absolute favorite.

paulmescalwife · Sep 2026

Just want to say I love the pod. Also, if you run away from a high energy puppy, they will think you are playing and jump on you. Jared moving toward Ron is actually what you want to do. You have to be assertive with what you want from a dog. Stay calm. Don’t pet or talk to him when he’s excited. Let him calm down and then reward the calm. A daily hour walk does wonders for high energy dogs.

literati4life · Jul 2026

The times I’ve listened to an episode and wondered if J&J have somehow stolen my own thoughts is extremely high. I love the real life perspectives, curiosity and empathy of the hosts, and pure gold comedy of both! The latest episodes intro “How do I date when I’m home for the holidays?” really resonated with me (btw I love the long intros- they’re my favorite part of the episode!). Dating in my 30’s and now 40’s can feel isolating and Jared and Jordana really validated my experiences. Good for all ages, all genders, and even good for those people who don’t know who you are Jared!

KeCORK · Dec 2024

I love this show so much. It always makes me laugh, provides solid advice, and has got me through some really dark times. Lately, however, it has become a bit repetitive with Jared’s dating concerns and inability to commit. At first I really felt for him but at this point it has become triggering in some ways. He sounds like all the men I’ve dated who bailed after date 5 seemingly out of nowhere. I no longer get what I came for with the podcast and may take a break. I hope Jared is able to find what he needs in a partner!

And_dav · Dec 2024

I’ve been a longtime listener and subscriber for years, and honestly, Jordanas recent response to listener feedback left a really bad taste in my mouth. I first noticed a growing lack of empathy on Oversharing, but hearing the response to concerns about the subscription price increase of essentially “We know times are tough but production costs money, & you can just leave” felt incredibly dismissive toward the people who have supported the platform for years. What’s especially disappointing is that there doesn’t seem to be any option for loyal subscribers who simply didn’t want or need the added video component to keep their existing pricing. Instead of acknowledging why longtime listeners might feel frustrated, the tone came across cold, defensive, and out of touch. Part of why I originally became such a fan was because Jordana always seemed level-headed, relatable, and thoughtful in the way she approached people and conversations. Lately though, the delivery, tone, and responses to feedback feel very different. As someone who genuinely supported and enjoyed the content for years, it’s disheartening. At this point, it may just be time to move on and find podcasts and hosts that still make listeners feel valued rather than dismissed.

Jmelfern08 · May 2026

UPDATE: Changing to one star. Cant believe Jordana told someone to get rid of their cat because their girlfriend didn’t get along with it. This is extremely irresponsible advice given the fact that our shelters are overflowing and cats and dogs often get killed when they’re brought to shelters because of the capacity problem. Pets are a lifetime commitment, not something you dispose of at the first sign of a fixable issue. You clearly have zero understanding of owning a pet. Old review: This podcast is a wonderful combination of solid, insightful dating advice and entertainment. This is the only podcast I won’t miss an episode of. As someone in a LTR, I love hearing them go deep on relationships. Jordana’s insights from her marriage are so helpful. I love her reflection on things like compromise versus settling and her honesty in discussing challenges in her marriage but also how she knew he was “the one.” Similar for Jared, it’s so helpful to hear how he knew past relationships weren’t it, and whether he has any regrets in ending things. Would love to hear more in these areas! One piece of feedback: please keep in mind that not all women in their mid-twenties and older are out to find a husband as quickly as possible. I know this was a huge priority for Jordana but some of the viewpoints come across as regressive. Not all women are on a mission to lock down a man and many women have the same fears and hesitancy around dating that Jared has!

Reviewer466290 · Dec 2024

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