The Ex-Good Girl Podcast

What Do You Say When... You Don't Want to Go?

What do you say when you don’t want to go? Your friends are making plans, everyone is excited, and you’re worried that if you say “no” this time, they’ll stop inviting yo

What Do You Say When... You're Unhappy With How it Turned Out?

What do you say when you’re unhappy with how it turned out? You get your nails done or have new bathroom tile put in, and the work isn’t what you expected. Still, you hes

What Do You Say When... Your Kid Wants the Money Before He Does the Work?

What do you say when your kid wants the money before he does the work? You know the lawn hasn’t been mowed, but when he comes asking for $40, it feels easier to say “yes”

What Do You Say When... You're Done Being the Family Peacemaker?

What do you say when you’re done being the family peacemaker? This pattern has probably been going on for years. You may tell yourself that someone has to do it or that i

What Do You Say When... You're the One Who Always Reaches Out?

What do you do when you’re the one who always reaches out? If you’re the one who always sends the text, makes the plans, and keeps the friendship moving, you may eventual

What Do You Say When... You Have to Tell a Client Something She Doesn't Want to Hear?

What do you say when you have to tell a client something she doesn’t want to hear? You know something isn’t lining up during a presentation, but you hesitate to point it

What Do You Say When... He's on His Phone During the Show?

What do you say when he’s on his phone during the show? Maybe you tell yourself it’s not a big deal, so you don’t say anything. There’s no argument and no chance of being

Episode 175 - Good Girl Math

Is it normal for you to spend several hours a day thinking about a conversation you’re avoiding? Three hours each day adds up to 1,095 hours a year, which means that’s mo

Episode 174 - Two Types of Hard Conversations

Most of us know when we need to have a hard conversation. It’s more difficult to notice the ones we’re quietly putting off because we think there’s always more time. Ther

Episode 173 - The Motivational Triad: Why Avoiding the Hard Conversation Feels So Good

Is there a difficult conversation you know you need to have but keep putting off? You may have noticed that every time you decide to wait, you feel a little better even t

Episode 172 - Are Your Thoughts Keeping You Stuck?

How often do you have thoughts like, "I hate doing this," "I'm bad at this," or "What's the point?" and brush them aside? We often push through our days without stopping

Episode 171 - The Small People-Pleasing Behaviors That Add Up

Most women are familiar with what people-pleasing looks like. You say yes when you mean no, avoid conflict, or never ask for what you need. But some of the most exhaustin

Episode 170 - The People-Pleasing Conversation I Had With My Teenager

People-pleasing tendencies start much earlier in life than many of us realize, and there comes a point when children need to begin unlearning those behaviors so they don'

Episode 169 - What I’m Working On Right Now: What Will They Think of Me?

We all assume other people have it more figured out than we do. But beneath so many of our struggles is the same familiar good girl question: How am I going to be perceiv

Episode 168 - What is Your Silence Teaching Your Relationships?

We often think of relationships as something we have: a marriage, a friendship, a relationship with our parents. But relationships are more like living things—they have t

Episode 167 - The Skill That Improves Every Difficult Conversation

Most hard conversations don't start with an invitation. They start with something that sounds more like a verdict: You never listen to me. You don't respect my time. You

Episode 166 - There is No Time Limit to Talk About It

How often do you finally realize what you want to say hours, days, months, or even years after a misunderstanding or disagreement? Some people need time to process, but i

Episode 165 - The Good Girl Rules are a High-Demand System

A high-demand system is any structure that requires a significant amount of your time, energy, and identity in exchange for belonging. We often think about high-demand re

Episode 164 - What I Wish I Would’ve Told You About Your Body

Most women learn to experience their bodies through other people’s eyes before they ever learn how to truly live inside them. I’ve had a few conversations recently that b

Episode 163 - The Hidden People Pleasing of High Achievers

There is a version of people-pleasing that hides behind competence, ambition, professionalism, and being the person everyone can count on. In this episode, I’m unpacking