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3 Ways to Become a Calmer Parent (Without Becoming a Permissive One)

Send us Fan Mail Are you trying to break generational cycles but still find yourself losing your patience with your kids? If you've ever yelled, felt guilty, and i

One Easy Habit That Can Improve Your Marriage

Send us Fan Mail Want to know one of the biggest mistakes couples make during conflict? They assume they know why their partner did something instead of getting curious

How to Stop Living Around Everyone Else's Feelings

Send us Fan Mail Do you feel responsible for everyone else's emotions? Do you change your mood based on your partner's mood? Walk on eggshells around your par

The Biggest Mistake People Make When Setting Boundaries

Send us Fan Mail Think boundaries are all about finding the perfect script? Nope. One of the biggest mistakes I see people make is believing boundaries are supposed to

The Black Sheep: Why You've Always Felt Like You Didn't Belong in Your Family

Send us Fan Mail Have you always felt like the black sheep of your family? Like no matter what you do... you just don't fit in? Maybe you've been called too

Sibling Abuse Isn't Just a Sibling Problem (The Parent's Role No One Talks About)

Send us Fan Mail Your sibling may have hurt you... but where were the adults? We normalize sibling abuse all the time. "That's just brothers." "Sisters fight." "S

What Is Complex PTSD? (And Why So Many Adult Children Don't Realize They Have It)

Send us Fan Mail Think PTSD only happens to soldiers or people who have experienced one major traumatic event? Think again. If you grew up in a home where you constantl

The Truth About Going No Contact: I Think the New York Times Is Asking the Wrong Question

Send us Fan Mail Are therapists really encouraging too many people to go no contact with their parents? The New York Times recently raised that question... and I think

Dissociation Explained: Why Your Brain "Checks Out" (And How to Come Back)

Send us Fan Mail What is dissociation, and why does it happen? In this episode of Not Your Therapist Podcast, licensed therapist Kayla Reilly explains dissociation in si

What Is the Gray Rock Method? (And When Should You Actually Use It?)

Send us Fan Mail What is the Gray Rock Method, and does it actually work? In this episode of Not Your Therapist Podcast, licensed therapist Kayla Reilly breaks down the

How to Handle Passive-Aggressive Comments From Emotionally Immature Family Members

Send us Fan Mail Passive-aggressive comments from emotionally immature family members can leave you questioning yourself long after the conversation is over. In this epi

Emotional Parentification: When You Became the Adult in the Room

Send us Fan Mail Were you the "adult" in your childhood home — managing your parent's moods, mediating fights, or holding everyone else's feelings before you w

Do You Have Anxiety? Here Are the Signs Nobody Talks About

Send us Fan Mail Do you have anxiety… or are you just overwhelmed, overstimulated, and stuck in survival mode? In this episode of Not Your Therapist, licensed therapist

5 Things Your Parents Taught You That Secretly Fuel Anxiety

Send us Fan Mail Why are you SO good at reading the room? Why does conflict feel like an actual threat to your body? Why do you feel guilty resting, overthink every inte

The Mother Wound: 5 Ways to Deal With the Mom Stuff You’re Still Carrying

Send us Fan Mail Mother’s Day can bring up a lot more than brunch plans and flower deliveries. For many people, it brings up grief, guilt, resentment, anxiety, and the c

Why Friendships Feel Harder in Your 30s (And No One Talks About It)

Send us Fan Mail Friendships in your 20s felt easy. Friendships in your 30s?  They can feel confusing, inconsistent… and if we’re being honest, a little harder than you

Resentment in Marriage: The Slow Build That’s Hurting Your Relationship

Send us Fan Mail Resentment in marriage doesn’t usually come from one big moment. It builds slowly… quietly… and often without you even realizing it. In this episode o

Narcissism 101: What It Actually Is (And What It Isn’t)

Send us Fan Mail Everyone is a narcissist these days… at least according to the internet. But what does narcissism actually mean? And more importantly — how do you know

The Parenting Trap That Creates Entitlement (Without You Realizing It)

Send us Fan Mail Tantrums are one of the most triggering parts of parenting… and if we’re being honest, sometimes it feels easier to just give in and make it stop. In t

It’s Not About the Puppies: Why You Overcommit When You’re Already Drowning

Send us Fan Mail You’re overwhelmed.  Your schedule is full.  You’re already stretched thin… …and somehow, you still say yes to more. In this episode of Not Your Thera