Love Over Addiction

Cookies in the Freezer: Little Joys for Big Holidays

In this deeply personal episode, Michelle shares intimate insights and compassionate strategies, for navaigateing family dynamics during the holidays when you love someon

What Happens After We Leave

We lay in bed at night and dream about what life would be like if we left the ones we desperately love who struggle with addiction. What would living without constant wor

Three Ways Addiction Makes Us Feel Like It's Our Fault

When we love someone suffering from addiction, we can often get into the bad habit of blaming ourselves for their poor behavior. Addiction is manipulative and cunning. Be

A Well Designed Happy Life With or Without Them

How would it feel if I said we need to live a life that isn't dependent on our loved one's sobriety? And if we can create that kind of life, we can have a happy future if

What To Do With The Kids If Our Partner Is Drinking or Using Drugs

Knowing what to do when our loved one starts drinking or using drugs around the children can be difficult. Here's one helpful tip: We don't need to stick around when they

Should We Leave?

"Should I leave my partner?" What a big question. And let's be honest, it's a question that many women in this community have. Let's first start off by saying thinking

If We Struggle With Codependency

Change is necessary if we want to move forward. Some of us enjoy changing, and others will avoid making the changes we know we need to because we're scared (I am raising

What To Do When We Feel Overwhelmed

When I was married to a good man who suffered from addiction, I was terrified of leaving him. I thought about leaving all the time; I think part of me always knew, we wou

The Truth About Trusting Them

When our loved ones who struggle with addiction choose to go to rehab or get help, it can bring up all sorts of feelings. We might feel hopeful that maybe THIS time, they

How To Detach From Our Partner

If you're familiar with the world of addiction or codependency, you've probably heard the word "detach". But, like many "self-help" words, it can be very hard to understa

What To Do When They Start Getting Mean

One of the core beliefs we have at Love Over Addiction is that addiction is a third party in our relationships. We view addiction as a separate entity from our loved ones

What's the Difference Between Good Boundaries & Poor Boundaries?

Having good, healthy boundaries in place versus poor, unrealistic boundaries can make all the difference in our personal, spiritual, and physical lives. Having boundaries

How to Really Surrender Control

The word surrender is used a lot in the world of addiction. One of the things that always bothered me was that I was constantly being told that I needed to "let go and su

Why We Keep Going Back to Them

Do you ever wonder: "Why do I keep going back to someone who hurts me so much?" There are many reasons we stay, but today, I'm going to be vulnerable and share with you w

3 Reasons We Don't Talk About Loving Someone Suffering with Addiction

Your loved one might seem put together on the outside. Most men and women who drink too much or suffer from substance abuse disorder hold good jobs and earn a good living

Valentines Day AND Super Bowl Sunday? Ugh.

It's almost time for Valentine's Day and Super Bowl Sunday (in America). One holiday can leave us feeling disappointed and unloved, wondering, "Why don't they love me eno

Normal Relationship Advice Does Not Apply To Us

Let's be honest, not many people know what to do with our feelings of deep loneliness or constant anxiety when it comes to our relationships. And very well-intentioned pe

3 Ways You Might Be Codependent

Being codependent can go hand in hand with loving someone suffering from addiction. Like two magnets attracted to one another, we connect with our partner by a force that

Why It's So Hard To Love Someone Suffering With Addiction

And addiction happens to really good people. I truly, truly believe that. I always said my ex-husband is one of the most talented human beings I've ever met. He had it al

Should We Throw Away Their Substances

When we love somone suffering from addiction, it can be hard to know if we should throw away their drugs, alcohol, or get rid of their pornography.  We hear this from p