The Reality Between Us

What You Don't Feel, Someone Else Will | #12

We can avoid our feelings, refuse to talk about them, or convince ourselves they aren't affecting us. But that doesn't mean they've disappeared. Our feelings are still sh

What We’re Missing About Attachment

Attachment styles have become part of how we talk about relationships. We hear about anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, secure attachment, and often use those label

The Complexity of Feeling Safe

Safety is one of those things we think we understand. We know what it means to be physically safe, and we may even know what emotional or psychological safety is supposed

What Hope Won't Let You See

Hope is usually seen as a good thing. It keeps us going. It gives us something to believe in. But sometimes hope can also keep us in situations when everything happening

Wanting the Relationship Is the Easy Part

Wanting a relationship doesn't mean you're equipped to have one. We spend a lot of time thinking about the relationships we want, the kind of people we want in our lives

Validation Isn't the Problem. You Are.

Validation and agreement are not the same thing. Somewhere along the way, many of us learned that if we acknowledge another person's experience, we're saying they're rig

The Reality You're Responding To

How many times have you been absolutely certain you knew what someone meant...only to find out later that's not what was happening at all? In this episode, we're explori

Seeing What’s There

People often ask whether someone is the right person for them. But we don't spend nearly enough time asking whether that person has the capacity to meet us where we are.

You Say You Care. But Do You?

We use the word care all the time. We say we care about people. We tell people we care. But what does care actually mean? In this episode, we explore why care is more th

Good Intentions Aren't Enough

People tend to think that if their intentions were good then that should settle it. But relationships don't happen inside intentions. They happen in the impact we have on

Maybe It's Not a Communication Problem

Communication is one of the first things we point to when a relationship is struggling. But what if communication isn't the place to start? In this episode, we explore w

Before We Talk About Relationships

Before we talk about relationships with other people, we have to understand the relationship we're having with ourselves. In this opening episode, I share the experience

Introducing The Reality Between Us

New here? Start here. In this short introduction, I share what The Reality Between Us is about, why I created it and the conversations we'll be having about relationships