Two sex addicts in long-term successful recovery are ALSO world-class Counselors who specialize in porn and sex addiction recovery. Drawing on 40 years of combined personal and professional experience, Mark and Steve get RAW and REAL about HOW to overcome addiction, heal betrayal trauma and save your marriage. If you're struggling with addiction—we get it. Recovery is hard. We've been there. We'll help you take the fight to your addiction like never before. If you're married to an addict—we KNOW what it's like to nearly destroy a marriage! We'll help you understand the world of your husband's addiction and begin healing your betrayal trauma, regardless of what he decides to do. You don't have to stay stuck. You don't have to keep suffering. We've made all the mistakes so you don't have to. Take back your life. Take back your marriage. Let's do this together! This is the PBSE podcast.
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He Spent Decades Secretly Lusting—Now He Says Other Women Repulse Him—Should I Believe Him?
(Episode 351) A betrayed partner wrote to us about her husband’s roughly 33-year history of hidden lust addiction and a specific sexual fixation involving women’s bodies
Sep 22 44 min
"I Choose You" Means Nothing If His Eyes and Actions Keep Choosing Others!
(Episode 350) For a betrayed partner, few things are more painful than hearing, “I choose you,” while continuing to discover that her partner’s eyes, attention, sexualit
Sep 16 42 min
His Relapses Hurt, but Ongoing Lies and Manipulation of Reality are the Real Crisis!
(Episode 349) Relapse in pornography or sex addiction absolutely matters, but it is often not the most fundamental threat to a relationship. The deeper crisis is what hap
Sep 8 41 min
Is it My Job to Educate My Addict Partner about My Betrayal Trauma & My Boundaries?
(Episode 348) A betrayed partner who has a history of neglect, abuse, people-pleasing, or self-abandonment may find it especially difficult to identify and defend her ow
Aug 31 44 min
Can my Partner with 2 Decades of Porn Use & Years of Secrecy & Lying Genuinely Recover?
In Episode 347, a betrayed partner who recently ended a three-year relationship asks whether her former partner can genuinely recover after more than two decades of compu
Aug 25 43 min
If He Doesn't Think Porn Is Bad, Can He Still Truly Recover??
In Episode 346, a betrayed partner wonders whether her husband can genuinely recover from pornography addiction when he admits that lying, hiding, gaslighting, and hurtin
Aug 17 39 min
My Addiction Shattered My Wife; She Wants a Divorce, but I Don't. Now What?!
In episode 345, a couple is facing the enormous aftermath of pornography addiction, sexual betrayal, deception, failed disclosure, and trickle truth. The husband reports
Aug 11 42 min
After his Gaslighting, Betrayal and Integrity Abuse, My Intuition is Broken!
Episode 344—Long-term betrayal and integrity abuse can severely disrupt a betrayed partner’s ability to trust her own perceptions. After repeatedly sensing that something
Aug 3 38 min
He's Honest About Relapses, But His Spiraling Shame and Neediness Cycle is Exhausting!
The partner in this situation (Episode 343) recognizes that her husband’s honesty about two recent relapses represents meaningful progress after years of pornography use,
Jul 31 41 min
Why Do I Keep Lying to My Partner About the Stupidest Little Things?!
PBSE, Episode 342—Lying in addiction can take many forms, including outright denial, omission, minimization, exaggeration, deflection, gaslighting, and carefully construc
Jul 21 37 min
From Shame and Survival to Honesty and Wholeness—Is Real Lasting Change Possible?
A person who has struggled with addiction for many years may begin to believe that he is uniquely broken and incapable of lasting change. Repeated relapses, betrayal, dam
Jul 13 38 min
When His Recovery Journey Is Destroying Her Healing Journey
In this episode (340), we respond to a deeply painful submission from a betrayed partner who is trying to determine whether she can stay in a marriage where her husband’s
Jul 6 37 min
Sexualized Media, Movies & Other Content—Can They Ever Be Safe Again in True Recovery?
In this episode (339), we explore whether sexualized media, movies with nudity, provocative social media, and other triggering content can ever be considered “safe” again
Jun 29 48 min
When Porn Addiction Evolves into AI Fantasy Using the Partner as the “Character”
In this episode (338), we explore a new but increasingly common form of betrayal: porn addiction escalating into AI-generated sexual fantasy, including the use of a partn
Jun 23 38 min
What to Do When an Addict Uses Recovery to Avoid Caring About His Partner?
This episode (#337) addresses the painful experience of a betrayed partner whose husband claims he is “in recovery” after a relapse, but continues to severely lack empath
Jun 15 42 min
Betrayal Trauma, Childhood Trauma & My Own Addiction—Where Do I Even Start?
This episode (336) explores the painful and complicated reality of a young betrayed partner who is trying to recover from betrayal trauma while also carrying childhood tr
Jun 9 41 min
Healthy Sexuality or Pornified Performance? Navigating Lingerie, Fantasies, Kinks, & Authentic Intimacy in Recovery
In this episode (335), we respond to a courageous submission from a betrayed partner who is navigating early recovery with her partner after multiple discovery days. Both
Jun 1 42 min
Am I REALLY Recovering—Or Just Using My Partner Instead of Porn?
In Episode 334, we respond to a submission from a man in early recovery who discovered, with honesty and concern, that he may be relying on his partner sexually in order
May 25 42 min
"Why Do Intrusive Mental Images Still Hit Me—Even Years Into His Recovery?"
In this episode (#333), we address a question from a betrayed partner who is about three years into sex addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing with her partner. A
May 18 44 min
Half-In, Half-Out Recovery: He Says He’s Changing but Keeps the “Addiction Door” Cracked Open
In this PBSE episode (#332), we explore what it means when an addict says he is changing but continues to keep the “addiction door” cracked open. A betrayed partner may s
May 11 38 min
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Thank you so much for what you both do! For years my husband and I struggled with this heartbreak until one year ago when I discovered your podcast. It was your “What is Pornography” that opened up his eyes. I can’t thank you enough.
Kourtney_Erdman · Oct 2025
Thank you for showing there’s light at the end of the tunnel. When my husband and I are in a hard space coming to this podcast has been so helpful and reassuring for me. Truly love the honesty and truth -plus coming at things sometimes with a religious undertone. It’s been very helpful for me. Keep doing what your doing!
junehope2 · Oct 2025
I was in denial about my addiction until I listened to episode 1, “What is Pornography”. This podcast has helped me, and my Spouce, in ways I can’t even begin to explain. With so many important topics covered and the way Mark and Steve relay their information, I have incorporated this show into a part of my recovery program. The fact that the hosts are in recovery themselves helps, too. This podcast has changed my life, and saved my marriage. Thank you, Mark and Steve, for all the knowledge you bring.
-LifePath3- · Feb 2025
Your latest podcast that covered not being able compete really hit home for me. I often times have a hard time putting my feelings into words and hearing that women describe how she felt was exactly how I feel.
Mine craft 10253 · Jan 2024
While I appreciate the support for the betrayed partner is much greater than what you’ll find on other podcasts and platforms, the fact that sexual infidelity is not identified as abuse is extremely harmful to the betrayed partner. In order for there to be full validation, there has to be the recognition that the lies, gaslighting, coercive control, is - by definition - psychological abuse. It’s easier for an addict to shift blame for their actions to past traumas rather than to fully take responsibility and be held accountable for their entitled beliefs and abusive behaviors.
StephLC86 · Jun 2023
I have listened to several episodes of this podcast. The information is subjectively insightful, although it does not reference behavioral sciences.
The two gentlemen have a poor habit of not answering the questions asked. I have often thought they must be very religious or politically motivated men, because they reframe questions into topics or subjects they would like to a see or discuss.
Oh hey Kay · Aug 2026
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