The Dom Sub Living BDSM and Kink Podcast

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Weird Things I Do as a 24/7 Submissive for My Dom

#156 What “weird” things does a 24/7 submissive actually do for their Dom? I’m sharing 5 things from my real-life D/s dynamic that even other people in the BDSM lifestyle

Sep 21
25 min

How We Handle Jealousy in Our D/s Relationship

#155 Can jealousy actually damage your D/s dynamic? Learn how we handle jealousy without letting it wreck trust, roles, or connection. We cover communication, boundaries,

Sep 14
12 min

8 Ways to Make Your Sub Feel More Submissive Every Day

#154 What if making a sub feel more submissive only took 10 seconds? In this episode, discover 8 surprisingly simple ways to deepen submission, strengthen your D/s dynami

Sep 7
21 min

10 Things Every Good Dom Does Differently

#153 Think being a good Dom means being stricter or more in control? Think again. Discover 10 things great Doms do differently – from how they handle rules and punishment

Aug 31
22 min

How Far Is Too Far? Exploring BDSM Humiliation Play

#152 How far is too far with BDSM humiliation play? Explore degradation and humiliation kink, from setting boundaries and using safewords to aftercare, communication, and

Aug 24
14 min

How to Get Your Partner Interested in BDSM (Without Nagging)

#151 What if your partner isn’t rejecting BDSM, they’re rejecting the pressure? Learn why nagging and hinting backfire, how to talk about kink without topping from the bo

Aug 17
18 min

How (not) to Train Your Sub

#150 What if the reason your sub seems "bratty" has nothing to do with them? Learn five common training mistakes that can create resistance instead of trust. Discover how

Aug 10
25 min

The Hard Truth About Inconsistent Doms

#149 How many times should you believe, 'I'll do better'? Whether you're the Dom struggling to stay consistent or the submissive wondering how much lo

Aug 3
5 min

10 BDSM Rules You Should Probably Break

#148 You've been told these BDSM rules are non-negotiable. But are they? We're challenging 10 of the most common BDSM "rules", revealing which protect you, whic

Jul 27
25 min

Free Use & Blanket Consent (Is Your Relationship Ready?)

#147 Free use sounds simple... until you actually try to build it. In this episode, We explain what free use and blanket consent really mean, how they work together, and

Jul 20
21 min

How to Avoid the Vanilla Rut in Your D/s Relationship

#146 Has your D/s dynamic started feeling a little... vanilla? In this episode, we sharing simple BDSM habits that help you stay consistent, build trust, strengthen your

Jul 6
16 min

5 BDSM Experts Share What Everyone Gets Wrong (But No One Says)

#145 What if the biggest mistake in BDSM isn't what you think? Five top BDSM educators reveal the most common mistakes in Dominance, submission, consent, communicati

Jun 29
25 min

How to Keep Your D/s Dynamic Alive When Life Gets Busy

#144 If your D/s dynamic only exists when life is easy, that might be why it keeps falling apart. What do you do when stress, illness, family obligations, or major life

Jun 22
7 min

How to Be More Dominant Without Being a Jerk

#143 Most new Dominants make the same mistake: they water themselves down because they're afraid of becoming the stereotypical Dom everyone rolls their eyes at. In t

Jun 15
24 min

The Secret Queer History of Kink Nobody Talks About

#142 Did you know modern kink culture has roots most people never learn about? In this episode, we're exploring the hidden connection between kink, queer history, le

Jun 8
17 min

5 Easy Dom/sub Protocols You Can Start Using Today

#141 Want a stronger D/s dynamic without adding complicated rules? Start here. I'm walking you through 5 beginner-friendly protocols straight from my own relationshi

Jun 1
27 min

What Should a Submissive Actually Be Doing in 24/7 D/s?

#140 “Am I supposed to just wait for direction… or take initiative?" If you’re new to a 24/7 D/s dynamic, this episode is for you. We're sharing advice for submissi

May 25
8 min

5 Stages of Subspace (And How to Get There Faster)

#139 Most subs think they've experienced subspace. They haven't – not really. In this episode, we're breaking down all 5 stages of subspace and how to get

May 18
30 min

How to Make Your Kink Life Kinkier

#138 When good becomes boring – that's the real threat to your kink life. Your dynamic works. Your scenes are comfortable. But comfort has a sneaky way of killing i

May 11
28 min

5 BDSM Mistakes That Keep You Stuck as a Dom or Sub

#137 I ripped up our D/s contract… more than once. If your dynamic feels off, it might not be your partner. It’s often subtle patterns that keep you stuck. In this episo

May 4
18 min

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What listeners say

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Alessandra is my “go-to” for all things D/s. In fact, it was her podcast that helped my wife and I discover that we were already living in a power exchange dynamic and just didn’t have a name for it. This podcast not only helped us find that out but also gave us a framework from which to work to further strengthen what was already an amazing relationship into something unbelievably wonderful!

ruebenky · Jun 2026

Me and my partner are already in Dom Sub Living’s program but this podcast is such an amazing addition! Love the behind the scenes content, and I’m picking up so many juicy tips along the way. Thank you!

PrincessPeach81 · Jan 2026

This is fantastic, from the positive yet honest tone with facts. It’s very encouraging for a shy novice that’s curious and had as experiences in the past. She has been so helpful with reminding me about integrity and trust in this wonderful lifestyle that encourages openness and freedom. Thank you Ma Lady.

The mak69 · Nov 2025

My wife and I began a dynamic 20+ years into our marriage. I found DomSub and starting listening to A. Quickly went through her whole POD. As a self-described vanilla husband and dad I appreciated the vulnerability, The honesty and frankly the candor that she has shared. It has immensely helped my marriage and our sec life. I am indebted to A for all she has shared and taught me.

The Vanilla Dad · Oct 2025

Podcast is okay, DomSub Living itself is awful. I signed up and paid- found the content to be unprofessional and discriminatory. When I brought this up with Alessandra she ghosted me. Refused to refund. A childish way to navigate conflict and deal with customer dissatisfaction. Don’t pay for any of their services.

RiseRoseRise · Dec 2025

Just got to the episode where the host asserts that you don’t need to be Christian Gray to be a Dom… then immediately goes on to talk about a guy who turned out to be a “fake dom” because he had lost his job and had to couch surf. Kink by its definition is alternative, so it would have been nice to imagine that a community of outsiders wouldn’t be so heteronormative. Alas that doesn’t seem to be the case, and it does make me wonder how fundamentally different a D/s dynamic ~really~ is from say a modern trad-wife relationship you’d see on TikTok. At the end of the day does it really matter whether you’re kneeling in a church or in a dungeon if your worldview is similar?

Dylan_B_ · Nov 2025

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