Sexuality · Vanessa & Xander Marin
by Vanessa & Xander Marin
Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
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Ageless & honest info delivered in a serious manner with a touch of humor. Do yourself a favor and listen with your spouse or significant other - no matter your age, you will learn something.
Love this show! I listen myself and with my partner. It is hugely validating and so informative! Their dynamic on the show is fun and really cover a variety of hard to talk about topics with ease and approachability. Has improved our relationship in and out of the bedroom!
Me and my wife weren’t having much time together physically but then I listened to scheduling sex. It was a game changer now we are consistently having sex 2-3 times a week. It’s really not awkward and gives you something to look forward to all day long at work!
Vanessa and Xander do a most excellent job in highlighting some of the more common relationship struggles that are found out there with their own unique brand of wisdom and levity! Thank you both for asking the questions and discussing the topics we’re often too scared or too shy to do on our own!
I came into this therapy-focused podcast intrigued by its promise of approachable, relatable conversations around creating a health relationship - led by a couple who claim to be the kind of people you’d “want to grab sushi with.” Unfortunately, that charm never really came through for me. Xander, billed as the “regular dude,” doesn’t quite fit that label. He frequently dominates the dialogue, often cutting off Vanessa mid-thought. It’s frustrating, especially since Vanessa is clearly the one with the clinical expertise and real insight. When she does manage to get a word in, her commentary is thoughtful and grounded—but it’s hard not to feel like she’s fighting for airtime on her own show. Xander’s tendency to steer the conversation back to himself makes the episodes feel more like a platform for his musings than a true exchange of ideas. It’s disappointing, particularly for listeners hoping to get genuine, informed advice on relationships and mental wellness. If the dynamic were more balanced—if Vanessa had the space to truly lead—this could be a very different podcast. But as it stands, it falls short of both its therapeutic promise and its casual charm.
So much giggling and filler talk. The actual content is good but you have to fast forward quite a bit to get to it.
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