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#280: Why You Feel Jealous About Your Partner's Past (& How to Navigate It)

In today's episode, we're talking about retroactive jealousy — being an excessive preoccupation with a partner's romantic and/or sexual history, and feelings of intense i

Sep 8
15 min

#279: When an Old Love Resurfaces and Starts Pulling Away (Ask Steph)

This week's Ask Steph question comes from a 77 year old listener who recently reconnected with a man she loved 45 years ago, following the passing of her husband of 40 ye

Sep 1
13 min

#278: How to Navigate Being Triggered by a Partner's Moodiness

In today's Ask Steph episode, I'm answering the listener question of "How do I navigate being triggered by my partner's moodiness and irritability?" This is such a common

Aug 18
10 min

#277: What to Look For in a Long-Term Partner

Choosing who you're going to commit to is a life-altering decision — so it's little wonder so many of us feel the weight of that pressure, and experience doubt around whe

Aug 13
13 min

#276: Attachment & Conflict (Part 4): Repairing After Relationship Rupture

Learning to repair after conflict or ruptures is one of the most valuable relationship skills you'll ever have. But for many of us, meaningful repair isn't something we e

Aug 4
22 min

#275: Why You Can't Get Over Your Ex

In today's episode, we're talking about why you struggle to "get over" your ex. This is something so many people struggle with when it comes to break-ups — feeling like t

Jul 30
22 min

#274: Attachment & Conflict (Part 3): How to Experience Healthier Conflict

Join the Secure Self Challenge here Today's episode is part 3 of my Attachment & Conflict series, and we're talking all about how to transform the way you do conflict. I

Jul 21
32 min

#273: Attachment & Conflict (Part 2): Avoidant Attachment

Register for the Secure Self Challenge here In today's episode, we're talking once again about how attachment patterns shape our experience of conflict in relationships,

Jul 16
24 min

#272: How to Talk to Your Partner About Their Avoidant Attachment (Ask Steph)

Access the replay for the Anxious Attachment Protest Behaviour workshop In today's Ask Steph episode, I'm answering the question of: "How do I talk to my partner about t

Jul 9
10 min

#271: Fearful Avoidant Attachment: Guidance for Partners (Part 4)

Last chance to register for the free Anxious Attachment Protest Behaviour workshop Today's episode is the fourth and final instalment of my deep dive series into fearful

Jul 7
23 min

#270: How to Remain Hopeful After Heartbreak & Bad Dating Experiences (Ask Steph)

When you've had a string of heartbreaks, disappointments, and bad dating experiences, remaining hopeful can be a big ask of your system. In today's Ask Steph episode, I'm

Jul 2
12 min

#269: Stay or Go: How to Know When It's Time to Walk Away

Subscribe to my Substack For many of us who struggle with letting go (and tend towards relationship-fixing at all costs), walking away can feel like a measure of absolut

Jun 30
19 min

#268: When You're Not Attracted to Healthy Partners (Ask Steph)

Register for my upcoming live workshop here In today's Ask Steph episode, I'm answering the question of "How long to keep pursuing a connection with someone who's great

Jun 24
8 min

#267: Attachment & Conflict (Part 1): Anxious Attachment

Register for my upcoming free workshop on Anxious Attachment Protest Behaviours In this new series on attachment and conflict, we're exploring the deeper layers that mak

Jun 23
21 min

#266: How to Move from Understanding Your Patterns to Actually Changing Them (Ask Steph)

If you've been "doing the work" for a while now, it's likely you have a firm grip on why you are the way you are. But many of us find ourselves stuck at the "knowledge an

Jun 19
16 min

#265: Fearful Avoidant Attachment: How to Heal (Part 3)

This week's episode is the much-requested Part 3 of my deep dive on fearful avoidant attachment — and today, we're talking about what it takes to heal. We cover shame, se

Jun 16
24 min

#264: The One Thing You Should Never Do in Relationships (from Substack)

Subscribe to my Substack, Notes to Self I've recently launched on Substack, and today's episode is a read-out of a recent article I wrote there titled The One Thing You

Jun 11
8 min

#263: How to Stop Obsessing About Someone

"How do I stop obsessively ruminating about the person who rejected me?" is one of the most frequently asked questions I receive — and in today's episode, we're talking a

Jun 9
17 min

#262: How to Navigate Feeling Behind in Life (Ask Steph)

In today's Ask Steph episode, I'm answering a listener's question about feeling like she's fallen behind in life after going through a break-up in her mid-30s, particular

Jun 4
9 min

#261: Sex, Intimacy, and Attachment Styles

Subscribe to my YouTube Channel How do our attachment patterns influence our relationship to — and experience of — sex and intimacy? That's what we're exploring in today

Jun 2
21 min

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Most helpful and grounded content on how to have a secure attachment and self-worth! Calms my anxiety and makes me feel capable of change.

teal11 · Mar 2026

Thank you, Steph, for candidly sharing your thoughtful, positive (though realistic), actionable wisdom on this podcast. I first found you in the early days of my current relationship when I was working through feelings I knew were arising from old wounds rather than signaling real trouble in my relationship, and I honestly credit you with setting me on course for what has been my most fulfilling and secure connection to date. I look forward to each and every episode and have forwarded many to friends and family, who have likewise experienced true growth in perspective! You’re one-of-a-kind in this space and I hope you know your value to the community you’ve built.

dysplasianator · Feb 2026

These podcasts are precisely what I needed to start listening to. In recent years, I have listened to hundreds of podcasts by other often very qualified and good podcast entities. But the topics covered by Stephanie are front and center, exactly what I need in my space and in my life. After listening to my first two podcasts here, I can already see a movement in my healing. I highly recommend the “On Attachment” podcast and the clear and healing messages that are here.

venturesum · Feb 2026

I am a long time podcast lover, but this is the first time I’ve ever felt compelled to write a review. I have spent the last year learning as much as I possibly can about attachment theory and I feel this is the most clear and complete explanation of it that I have ever heard or read. Every new episode brings new insights and is delivered in such a meaningful and digestible way. I feel this has truly helped me navigate a difficult time. I have forwarded the show to so many people, including my ex and my therapist. Thank you from my broken but still beating heart.

adriengleason · Jan 2026

Basic and boring. Long intro sales pitch and not much in the short session afterwards. Difficult to listen to because of the echo. Good for those early in the self awareness process.

Fqamon · Apr 2025

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