Don’t Scare the Newbies!

They'll Hear You Screaming in Warsaw: 365 Days

Mx requested something that wasn't arty and pretentious for O/our next episode, and kirizal delivered. This week, W/we're talking about 365 Days. Is a movie with only one

It's Not your Mouth That's Salivating: Orgasm Control and Denial

After your first long, hard, two week wait for new DSTN!, W/we’re talking orgasm control and denial! kirizal and S chat about what orgasm control does for O/our dynamic,

Happy Birthday to U/us: One Year of DSTN!

In an extra lengthy, rambly special, kirizal and S reflect on one year of hosting an award winning podcast. From how Don't Scare the Newbies! started and S's anxious dog

Making an Impact: Impact Play

This week, kirizal and S finally get around to talking about one of O/our most essential kinks - impact play! W/we chat about why S finds hitting people with stuff fun, h

Enrichment in O/our Enclosure: Control in Power Exchange

Usually if kirizal asks S why They like something, the answer is “power and control”, so this week W/we dive into that favourite “conceptual kink”. What is control, and h

In O/our Slut Eras: Hookups and Apps

This week, kirizal and S go back to the beginning and talking about swiping right (or is it left? W/we get confused) on each other on Tinder back in 2021 and then again o

No Bigger Spatula Than The Bible: The Witch Trial Interrogation

In which the good Christian woman, Chastity, is horribly tortured by the cruel and unreasonable witch finder Jeffiniah. Well, maybe she's a good Christian woman. Maybe sh

Build This Universe With You: Roleplay and Gamification with Sunshine and Honeypot

This week, Sunshine and Honeypot introduce kirizal and S to the world of S.L.U.T - the international sexpionage organisation dedicated to saving the world from boring sex

Darker Than Dark: Pitch Black Romance with Ellie Sanders

Dark romance and pitch black romance author Ellie Sanders joins kirizal and S this week to talk about these often stigmatised genres, her writing, and lots more! Ellie te

Desire Without Empathy: The Piano Teacher

It's time for another kinky movie night, and for the second time in a row kirizal suggested something slow paced and arty that S isn't all the way sold on! This time it's

A Masked Assailant With a Store-Bought Penis: Planning for Public Play

What goes into planning for a public play event? In this episode, kirizal and S talk about the considerations for planning a public scene - fetiquette, rules, equipment,

The Full Bloody Experience: Period Sex

This week, kirizal and S are talking periods. While period sex doesn't necessarily have to be a kink, it can be - and W/we talk about what this does for U/us. S shares wh

Leather and Laces: Leather Community and Bootblacking with Duncan and Tea

This week’s guests are Duncan, one of the founders of Newcastle Leathermen, and Tea, a bootblack and Newcastle Leathermen’s first nonbinary member. Plus Tea’s partner pop

Are W/we Actually Quite Gay: Sexual Orientation

This week, kirizal and S are chatting about sexual orientation - from O/our coming out stories (one at 14, and one at 41!), kirizal’s multiple coming outs and the pan vs

Giving Up The Trappings of Adulthood: ABDL & Ageplay with Jenby Doll & Tealeaves

Adult babies Jen and Tealeaves sat down with kirizal and S this week to share their experiences - through all the noise of stigma and misconceptions, they share the authe

Can W/we Be Your Weird Cousins: Kink At Pride

It's Pride Month, so in the first of O/our queer focused episodes kirizal and S jump straight in with the annual discourse topic, does kink belong at Pride? W/we also cha

Just me And The Cat: Addiction, Recovery, & A Little Bit Of Kink

After the S-heavy long distance episode, W/we thought it was kirizal's turn to have the spotlight and dive into one of their specialist topics - addiction and recovery. k

Getting Very Very Sleepy: Hypnosis with Lana and Edward

Lana and Edward join kirizal and S to give U/us an introduction into the wild world of erotic hypnosis. Navigating censorship to find resources, what appeals about the cl

Just Hit me With Your Car: Crash (1996)

Once again kirizal and S are watching a movie, and James Spader is playing a pervert (with hair)! This week W/we're discussing the 1996 movie Crash - but if you haven't s

Thicker Than Water: Playing with Blood

This week, kirizal and S get into all the gory details of blood play. From the visual appeal to the perceived - if not always actual - intensity, W/we chat about what it