Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal

#175 The Separation Plan Guide: Navigating Time Apart After Betrayal Trauma with Shawna Meek, PCC, CPC-S

"Separation" doesn't have to mean divorce. In this episode, I'm joined by Shawna Meek of Living Stones Coaching to talk about the therapeutic separation — a structured, i

***BONUS Choosing Different Mini Series: What I Wish I'd Done Differently with my daughters, Mataia and Morgan

In this episode of the Choosing Different mini-series, Hali is joined by her daughters, Mataia and Morgan, for an honest conversation about betrayal trauma's impact on th

#174 It's Not Too Late: Healing an Affair You Thought Was Behind You

If the betrayal in your relationship happened years ago — and life moved forward, but the deepest layers of healing never actually happened — this episode is for you. Ma

#173 Betrayed Men: Why Their Trauma Looks Different — and What Actually Helps with Dr. Laney Knowlton

When we talk about betrayal trauma, the picture most people carry is of a betrayed woman. But men experience betrayal too — and their pain often goes unseen, misread as a

#172 Why the Right Words Aren't Enough: Embodied Empathy in Betrayal Recovery

You can say all the right words and still leave your partner feeling completely unsafe. If you're the partner who caused harm, that may be the most frustrating thing you

*** BONUS Choosing Different Mini Series: Three Words Every Parent Owes Their Child: "I Believe You" 

What happens when a child no longer has to convince their parent that their pain was real? In this episode of Choosing Different Mini Series, Hali sits down with her dau

#171 Elements of Healthy Relationships in Recovery with Randi Gray

What does a truly healthy relationship look like after infidelity and betrayal — and is it even possible to get there? In this episode, Hali sits down with Dr. Randi Gray

***BONUS: Choosing Different Mini Series: The Conversations I Wish Every Parent and Child Could Have with my 2 Adult Daughters, Mataia and Morgan

This is the first episode of the Choosing Different mini-series of conversations between Hali and her two adult daughters, who were both teenagers when their family was i

#170 "Why It Sometimes Gets Worse Before It Gets Better — And What Actually Helps After Disclosure"

You finally know the truth. So why do you feel worse? If you're the betrayed partner and your fear, anger, and grief have grown rather than shrunk since disclosure, the

#169 The Spiritual Intelligence Behind Real Change After Betrayal with Dr. Yosi Amram

When someone betrays a partner and then starts doing "the work," the person who was hurt is left with an exhausting question: is this real, or is he just saying the right

#168 Apology vs. Amends: Why "I'm Sorry" Isn't Enough After Betrayal

An apology is a moment. Making amends is a process - and confusing the two is one of the most common places betrayal recovery gets stuck. In this solo episode, Hali brea

#167 Masculine and Feminine: Why Getting the Balance Right in Your Relationship Matters with Tyler Patrick

There's a dynamic underneath a lot of disconnected relationships that almost nobody names — and when it collapses, it can quietly erode intimacy. In this episode, I'm joi

#166 Why Shame Is the Enemy of Accountability — And What to Do About It with Jacob Fletcher, CMCH, CSAT

One of the biggest obstacles to healing after betrayal isn't a lack of love — it's shame. When the person in recovery floods with shame, they lose the ability to truly li

#165 The Groundhog Day of Disclosure: Why the Same Questions Keep Coming

After betrayal, one of the most exhausting patterns couples hit is what I call the Groundhog Day of disclosure: the betrayed partner asking the same questions again and a

#164 The Children in the Room: Navigating Divorce and Betrayal Without Breaking Your Kids with Katie Padilla, Certified Family Law Specialist

When a marriage is in crisis, the conversation almost always centers on the couple. But what about the children sitting in the middle of it? In this episode, certified f

#163 Control Isn't Safety: Understanding the Parent-Child Dynamic After Betrayal

If you've been checking your partner's location for the fifth time in an hour - or waiting for your spouse to hand you a roadmap to your own recovery - this episode is fo

#162 When ADHD Meets Betrayal Trauma: Understanding Recovery for the Whole Family System with Monifa Ellis-Addie, LMFT, CSAT, CCSP and Morgan Ellsworth, LAMFT, CCSP

What happens when ADHD and betrayal trauma collide in the same family? This episode is one of the most important conversations we've had on the podcast — and it's one tha

#161 Why Can’t We Connect Deeper? Exploring the Hidden Struggles of Connection After Betrayal

One of the most confusing parts of healing after betrayal is that couples can do “all the right things” and still feel emotionally disconnected. In this episode of Choos

#160 When Your Body Decides the Relationship Is No Longer Safe" Understanding the Nervous System Trauma Loop in Betrayal Recovery

Have you ever wondered why you and your partner keep having the same painful conversations — even when you both want things to be different? The answer might be in what y

***BONUS EPISODE*** You’re Invited: Becoming Together Mother-Daughter Retreat with my daughters, Mataia and Morgan

What does it look like when a mother and daughter do the healing work together? In this special episode, I'm joined by my daughters to pull back the curtain on the Becomi