Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal

#182 She's Not Coming At You — She's Coming To You

"Why is she coming at me?" It's one of the most common things men say after betrayal — when their partner's pain shows up as tears, anger, a raised voice, or questions th

#181 Emotional Infidelity: When the Affair Was Never Physical with Jill Pool

What counts as cheating if nothing physical ever happened? In this episode, Hali sits down with Certified Partner Coach, Jill Pool to name what so often goes unnamed: th

#180 Doing Recovery vs. Living Recovery: What Actually Heals a Relationship After Betrayal with Mike Tiede

You've done the work. So why does healing still feel like something you're performing instead of living? In this episode, Hali sits down with psychologist and partner spe

#179 - 5 Ways to Stay in Your Marriage Without Losing Yourself After Infidelity and Betrayal

When you're trying to heal a marriage after infidelity or betrayal, it's easy for recovery to become the center of everything. In this episode, Hali explores five ways c

#178 Understanding Intimacy Anorexia — with Dr. Janice Caudill, PhD

"Intimacy anorexia" is one of the most talked-about — and most misunderstood — terms in betrayal recovery. In this episode, I set out to understand it honestly, with one

#177 One Hour a Week Was Never Going to Be Enough

If you're a woman and you’re doing the work — therapy, coaching, reading everything you can get your hands on — and you're still white-knuckling it alone most days of the

#176 The Fight Under the Fight — Decoding What Betrayal Trauma Does to Your Everyday Arguments

If you're rebuilding trust after infidelity, you've probably noticed something strange: small disagreements can escalate way faster and way bigger than the topic seems to

#175 The Separation Plan Guide: Navigating Time Apart After Betrayal Trauma with Shawna Meek, PCC, CPC-S

"Separation" doesn't have to mean divorce. In this episode, I'm joined by Shawna Meek of Living Stones Coaching to talk about the therapeutic separation — a structured, i

***BONUS Choosing Different Mini Series: What I Wish I'd Done Differently with my daughters, Mataia and Morgan

In this episode of the Choosing Different mini-series, Hali is joined by her daughters, Mataia and Morgan, for an honest conversation about betrayal trauma's impact on th

#174 It's Not Too Late: Healing an Affair You Thought Was Behind You

If the betrayal in your relationship happened years ago — and life moved forward, but the deepest layers of healing never actually happened — this episode is for you. Ma

#173 Betrayed Men: Why Their Trauma Looks Different — and What Actually Helps with Dr. Laney Knowlton

When we talk about betrayal trauma, the picture most people carry is of a betrayed woman. But men experience betrayal too — and their pain often goes unseen, misread as a

#172 Why the Right Words Aren't Enough: Embodied Empathy in Betrayal Recovery

You can say all the right words and still leave your partner feeling completely unsafe. If you're the partner who caused harm, that may be the most frustrating thing you

*** BONUS Choosing Different Mini Series: Three Words Every Parent Owes Their Child: "I Believe You" 

What happens when a child no longer has to convince their parent that their pain was real? In this episode of Choosing Different Mini Series, Hali sits down with her dau

#171 Elements of Healthy Relationships in Recovery with Randi Gray

What does a truly healthy relationship look like after infidelity and betrayal — and is it even possible to get there? In this episode, Hali sits down with Dr. Randi Gray

***BONUS: Choosing Different Mini Series: The Conversations I Wish Every Parent and Child Could Have with my 2 Adult Daughters, Mataia and Morgan

This is the first episode of the Choosing Different mini-series of conversations between Hali and her two adult daughters, who were both teenagers when their family was i

#170 "Why It Sometimes Gets Worse Before It Gets Better — And What Actually Helps After Disclosure"

You finally know the truth. So why do you feel worse? If you're the betrayed partner and your fear, anger, and grief have grown rather than shrunk since disclosure, the

#169 The Spiritual Intelligence Behind Real Change After Betrayal with Dr. Yosi Amram

When someone betrays a partner and then starts doing "the work," the person who was hurt is left with an exhausting question: is this real, or is he just saying the right

#168 Apology vs. Amends: Why "I'm Sorry" Isn't Enough After Betrayal

An apology is a moment. Making amends is a process - and confusing the two is one of the most common places betrayal recovery gets stuck. In this solo episode, Hali brea

#167 Masculine and Feminine: Why Getting the Balance Right in Your Relationship Matters with Tyler Patrick

There's a dynamic underneath a lot of disconnected relationships that almost nobody names — and when it collapses, it can quietly erode intimacy. In this episode, I'm joi

#166 Why Shame Is the Enemy of Accountability — And What to Do About It with Jacob Fletcher, CMCH, CSAT

One of the biggest obstacles to healing after betrayal isn't a lack of love — it's shame. When the person in recovery floods with shame, they lose the ability to truly li