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241: The Holidays are Swiftly Approaching

If you don't want to experience another holiday season the way you experienced the last one, what are you actually going to do differently?   The holidays can be a pa

240: One of the Many Ways to Resolve an Infidelity Situation: Jane's Story

What if an infidelity situation didn't have to mean the end of your life as you know it?   In this episode, I'm talking with Jane, a woman in her late 60s who found h

239: After the Affair: When Infidelity Becomes the Beginning of a New Life

So many stories about infidelity focus on the devastation, the shame, and the belief that an affair means your life is ruined forever. But that is not the whole story.

238: After the Affair: What Happens When You Finally Choose Yourself

Most stories about infidelity end with heartbreak, regret, or destruction. But what if that isn't the whole story?   In this episode, I'm joined by Scarlett, a longti

237: Change Can Be (EXTREMELY) Strange

Have you ever made a change you knew was right for you, only to wonder why it felt so unsettling?   If you've found yourself grieving a life you chose to leave, quest

236: Taking the Agony Out of Major Life Decisions

What if making major life decisions didn't have to be so agonizing?   Many people assume that the bigger the decision, the more time, uncertainty, and emotional turmo

235: Emotional Affairs

What exactly is an emotional affair, and how do you know if you're having one?   Despite how often the term gets used, there is surprisingly little agreement about wh

234: Resisting the Urge to Contact Your (Ex) Affair Partner

What do you do when you've decided you don't want to continue your affair, but you still desperately want to contact your affair partner?         So many people assum

233: How to Have Better Sex (Part 3)

What does better sex actually require once you've clarified your desires and started rebuilding a connection with your partner?   If you want better sex in a long-ter

232: How to Have Better Sex (Part 2)

What if having better sex has less to do with what you do in bed and more to do with how you show up with your partner every day?   If your sex life has been unsatisf

231: How to Have Better Sex (Part 1)

What does better sex actually mean to you, and have you ever really stopped to define it for yourself?   So many people say they want better sex, but when we look clo

230: When Your Infidelity Situation Takes Over Your Life

When your infidelity situation starts to take over everything, it can feel like it's the only thing that matters, the only thing worth thinking about, and the only thing

229: Radical Un-Shaming with David Bedrick

Radical un-shaming sounds lovely in theory, but what does it actually look like when you are dealing with desires, behaviors, or parts of yourself that other people insis

228: Podcast Greatest Hits: When You Love Your Partner and You Still Want to Cheat

Is it possible to deeply love your partner and still want to have sex or romantic experiences with someone else?   If you're in a committed relationship that was supp

227: Love, Sex, and Romance: What Do You Really Want?

Have you been so immersed in your infidelity situation that it feels impossible to think clearly about anything else, let alone what you actually want from your love life

226: Recovering From a "Bad Decision"

Have you ever been paralyzed by the fear of making a "bad decision" about your infidelity situation?   Maybe you're terrified that you'll leave a good-enough marriage

225: Drunken One-Night Stands

You had a drunken one-night stand while in a committed relationship, and now you're out of sorts about it.   Maybe you're torturing yourself with questions like: "Do

224: Going All-In On Your Desires

Do you want to be lying on your deathbed saying, "Oh yeah, I'm really glad I didn't take that risk"?Or would you rather say, "Thank God I went all in on my desires"?  

223: Whose Job Is It to Change the Conversation About Infidelity?

Have you ever found yourself keeping silent when someone makes a sweeping judgment about infidelity?   Maybe you've sat through conversations where people say things

222: Dating for the First Time in a Long Time

The fear of dating again after a long period of not dating is definitely a factor that keeps some people from thinking clearly about what they want to do about their infi