Undressing Intimacy

105: The Big Four of Erotic Connection: What Are You Actually Seeking in Sex?

When you want sex with your partner, what are you actually seeking? In Episode 105, we unpack author Emily Nagoski's "Big Four" motivations for erotic connection and expl

104. From Control to Connection: Why You Can't Force Your Partner to Choose You

Happy two-year anniversary to Undressing Intimacy! In Episode 104, we step back to celebrate two full years of the podcast by answering the single most fundamental questi

103. The Real Secret to Mind-Blowing Sex: Cultivating Your Capacity to Stay Present

We are officially one episode away from our two-year anniversary! To kick off this milestone episode, we are thrilled to announce Jacob Swanson as the official winner of

102. Our Story: Reclaiming Trust and Intimacy After a "Nuclear Explosion"

This week, things are a little different! Special guest host Tony Overbay turns the microphone around to interview us about our own raw, 28-year marriage journey. We pull

101. Why People-Pleasing Is Secretly Killing the Desire in Your Marriage

Are you constantly modifying yourself, walking on eggshells, or "should-ing" all over yourself to keep the peace? In Episode 101, we dive deep into the hidden cost of peo

100. "Who Said It?" — Amy & Greg's Ultimate 100th Episode Intimacy Showdown!

We made it to Episode 100! To celebrate this incredible milestone, Greg surprised Amy with a completely unscripted, highly competitive game of "Who Said It? Greg or Amy?"

99. Reclaiming True Desire: The Massive Payoff of Letting Go of Sexual Manipulation

Are you tired of intimacy feeling like a transactional chore or a high-stakes game of emotional chess? In Episode 99, we are doing a deep dive into what it actually takes

98. Neurodivergence in Marriage with Jodi Carlton: Navigating Different Operating Systems

In Episode 98, we are joined by master educator and neurodiverse relationship expert Jodi Carlton! We explore what it really looks like to build a thriving marriage when

97. Overcoming Insecurities: How to Feel Sexy and Embrace Sensuality

In Episode 97, we are diving deep into a topic that profoundly impacts our ability to be present during sexual intimacy: body image. How we feel about our bodies directly

96. The 5 Rules for Dealing with Narcissism and Emotional Immaturity Part 2 with Tony Overbay

In Episode 96, we conclude our amazing two-part conversation with licensed marriage and family therapist Tony Overbay. Building on last week's discussion about the differ

95. Is It Narcissism or Emotional Immaturity? Part 1 with Tony Overbay

Title: Is It Narcissism or Emotional Immaturity? Part 1 with Tony Overbay Episode Description: In Episode 95, we are thrilled to welcome licensed marriage and family th

94. The Joy of Intimacy: Escaping the Performance Trap and Owning Your Desire

In Episode 94, we apply the concept of fleeting joy directly to the bedroom and our sexual relationships. We discuss why sexual intimacy is often the place where we feel

93. Why the Word "Safe" Triggers Men (And How It Kills Intimacy)

In Episode 93, we dive into the core foundation of a thriving marriage by exploring concepts from Scott Austin Martin's book, Safe: The Minimum Standard for Intimacy. We

92. Breaking Free from Purity Culture: Autonomy and Healthy Sexuality

In Episode 92, we tackle the complex and sometimes controversial topic of purity culture. For many couples who grew up with a heavy emphasis on strict sexual behavior and

91. Marriage as a Mirror: Facing Your Blind Spots to Find True Connection

In Episode 91, we tackle one of the most challenging seasons for a relationship: rebuilding emotional and physical intimacy while raising babies and toddlers,. We answer

90. Unlocking Female Pleasure: Anatomy, Arousal, and 30-Minute Waves of Desire

In Episode 90, we take a deep dive into female sexuality, anatomy, and arousal. We explore the historical myths and shame that have surrounded female pleasure, explaining

89. Discovering Your Sexual Blueprint: The 5 Types of Arousal and Desire

Title: Discovering Your Sexual Blueprint: The 5 Types of Arousal and Desire Episode Description: In Episode 89, we dive into the fascinating world of somatic sexologist

88. Overcoming Pornography and Escapism: A Husband's Journey to True Intimacy

In Episode 88, we have the incredible privilege of interviewing our friend and coaching client, Jared. Jared openly shares his personal journey of confronting his use of

87. Rebuilding Attraction in Marriage: Overcoming Fear and Defense Mechanisms

In Episode 87, we dive into a deeply personal and vulnerable topic: what happens when you feel like you are losing attraction to your spouse. Amy opens up about a time wh

86. Digital Threesomes: The Dangers of Using AI for Marriage Advice

In Episode 86, we are tackling a growing modern trend: the emergence of technology like ChatGPT and AI in relationships. While AI can be a fantastic tool for organizing d