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184. Queer Coziness with McKenzie of Emtothethird Knitting

Who gets to be domestic and cozy at the end of the world? Say it with me… THE FREAKS!! This week, Lina is joined by her favorite knitting content creator to stoke the (w)

183. What's The Deal With Platonic Rope Play?

A caller wants to know what's going on with people who do rope play for non-sexual reasons and somehow Lina traces it back to Audre Lorde again with reflections on the er

182. Birth Is A Scene

Lina has surfaced from the liminal space of postpartum to get on the mic and share a Very Kinky Birth Story with you. No it was not a sexy, orgasmic birth but rather kink

181. Pervertibles For The People

A caller wants to know how to do kink on a budget so STRAP IN because Lina is fresh off a tear through the outer rings of reddit with vetted ideas and strategies not only

180. Chronic Kinkster Community In Action

A caller has just gone through a breakup and is facing down a new chronic illness diagnosis all at once, and wants to know how to incorporate kink into life when everythi

179. Grey's Journey Pt. 3: Break That Binary Open

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we're closing o

178. Grey's Journey Pt. 2: The Duality of Being Known

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we're catching

177. Grey's Journey Pt. 1: How Does an Adult Man F*ck?

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week we meet Grey, a

176. Kinky Rejection… Worse Than Death? (Sources Say Yes)

A caller wants to know why kinky rejection hurts more than any other rejection and wonders if maybe, possibly, there's a way to avoid it?? Asking for a friend?? Lina gets

175. M's Journey Pt. 3: It's That Slow Burn Bullshit

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we hear the fin

174. M's Journey Pt. 2: Sit With the Itch

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we're catching

173. M's Journey Pt. 1: The Worst Breakup Ever

Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we meet M as sh

172. A Beautiful Evil Pouring Out Of Me with Miss Gold

This month on the Deep Dive series, we're graced with the presence of one of London's preeminent kink queens Miss Gold — Dominatrix, photographer and creator of the iconi

171. You Can't Step In The Same River Of Pee Twice

A caller is doing trauma therapy and wants a good lens to explain the value of kink in their healing journey. In response, Lina checks in on how we're interpreting the wo

170. Daddy Is A State Of Mind

In honor of U.K. father's day we're getting into 'Daddy' as an honorific, whether it always implies age play (Sometimes? Yes? No?) and how nobody has to do anything they

169. Don't Throw The Therapist Out With The Bathwater

A listener wants to know what to do about their well-meaning but vanilla therapist, and in response Lina earns her gold star Therapist's Favorite badge by exploring the i

168. I'm Coming Out Of My Cage - Wait Put Me Back In The Cage

167. Lubing Up The Flirting Dipstick

This week we're doing a refresher on flirting so Lina can assist you all into getting into more trouble to keep the questions coming for the pod — vertical integration!!

166. High Volume Orgasms: Blessing Or Curse?

A caller wants to know whether their miraculous gift of nonstop orgasms is hindering them from long term partnership — really goes to show one person's dream scenario (Li

165. Quick Hits: "Straight-Passing" Queer Couple Spring Is Here

These week callers want to know how to welcome the springtime, how to enjoy/not enjoy the Met Gala, hack quiet sex, and, of course, see Lina lose it over exclusionary pri