Own Your Identity

It's Time to Dream Again

Have you put your dreams on hold until you finally overcome your struggles? Evan joins Jason to share his journey with unwanted same-sex attraction (SSA), pornography rec

What a Relief!

Being in the presence of an attractive man could make me exhale. Why?In this episode, I explore the relief I sometimes felt around confident men, the difference between e

SSA, Marriage & Male Friendship: What Does Healthy Connection Look Like?

How much should you tell your wife when you’re struggling with same-sex attraction? What does healthy accountability look like? Can deep friendships with other men—in

Your Story is a Gift

What changes when you stop wondering how others will respond to your story and decide in advance that your story is a gift? This episode explores how owning the meaning

Presence and Curiosity

Have you ever walked into a room and immediately started comparing yourself? Maybe you're scanning for the "right" person to talk to. Maybe you're wondering if you measu

Take You with You: Don't Abandon Yourself

Have you ever left part of yourself behind? Many of us are moving through life carrying invisible instructions: "Stay here." "You're too weak." "You're too emotional."

The Power of Meaning and Focus

What does the Pride flag mean to you? In this deeply personal episode, I share why the Pride flag has represented grief, permission, deception, and opportunity throughou

The Power of a Mentor Mindset

What if the best time to adopt a mentor mindset is when you feel least qualified? Most of us think of mentors as successful, confident people who have already overcome l

Don't Let SSA Color Your Future

Chuck was 73 years old before he shared about his same-sex attractions. For decades, fear, shame, and silence kept parts of his story hidden. But when he finally chose to

If Muscles Could Talk

Why did a muscle magazine have such a hold on me? For years, I found myself drawn to images of strong, muscular men. I thought I was looking at bodies. Looking back, I t

Shirts vs. Skins: Uncovering Body Shame

What if the shame you carry about your body is actually tied to a deeper story you’ve believed about yourself? In this deeply personal episode, Jason shares vivid memori

You've Got What it Takes

“You’ve got what it takes.” That’s what my friend Noah writes to Timothy—a young man experiencing same-sex attraction (SSA) and feeling alone.In this episode, I share Noa

Don’t Die Wondering: Interview with Bent on Men author

What are you avoiding that you don’t want to die wondering about? In this conversation with Harrison Bly, author of Bent on Men, we explore a simple but confronting rule

We Honor You

What happens when the story you’ve been telling yourself about your attractions begins to change? In this episode, Jason talks with Kevin, a graduate of the Own Your Ide

The Attraction Scorecard

What if you’ve been measuring the wrong thing? For years, I defined success in my SSA journey by whether I felt more drawn to women than men. In this conversation, I shar

There's Nothing Wrong with You

Living with shame can make life so much harder than it needs to be. My friend Lare and I invite you to choose a greater future than what shame offers. You are not broken

Trade Dead-Person Goals for Legacy Goals

Are your goals helping you become more alive—or just more controlled? This episode invites you to move beyond avoidance and into legacy, asking a simple but challenging q

Remember Wonder

What if part of our healing isn’t just honoring what hurt, but remembering what made you feel alive? In this episode, I reflect on wonder as a practical posture—one that

There You Are

Do you brace yourself when someone says, "there you are"? In this episode, I discuss how this phrase can feel like pressure. But what if you let it be an invitation to

Reclaim Power Over Attractions

You don’t need to eliminate your attractions to be free. This episode reframes same-sex attraction as information rather than identity and offers a framework for respondi