The Regulated Parent

Ep. 60 How Do I Know If I'm Accommodating My PDA, Autistic Child the Right Way?

Am I accommodating my PDA, autistic child, or am I giving in? If you swing between the two and can't tell which is right, this episode is for you. Part 4 of a four-part

Ep. 59 Will They Ever Learn to Be Okay Without Me? How to Help Your PDA, Autistic Child Separate From You

Your PDA, autistic child can't let you out of the room, not even to go to the bathroom. Here's what's actually happening inside them. If you're in the thick of this, sta

Ep. 58 The 7 Moves That Make Co-Regulating Your PDA, Autistic Child Who Can't Leave Your Side So Much Easier

You give and give all day, and then you snap, and then you feel horrible about yourself. Here are the 7 moves that break that cycle. If that cycle is your day, start wit

Ep. 57 When Your PDA, Autistic Child Can't Separate and You Just Want a Break

Your child can't let you out of their sight — and you're exhausted. Here are the 7 things happening in your nervous system that nobody tells you about. If this episode l

Ep. 56 Shouldn't I Be Teaching My Child That Hitting Is Wrong? (Part 3)

It's the fear so many parents of PDA and autistic kids carry: that today's aggression means something frightening about their child's future. In Part 3 of this series I g

Ep. 55 What to Do When Your PDA or Autistic Child Is Hitting You (Part 2)

You don't want to be hit — and yet every option feels wrong. You walk away, they follow. You close the door, they punch it. You stand there, and you're the one getting hu

Ep. 54 Why You Can’t Stay Calm When Your PDA or Autistic Child Is Hitting You (Part 1)

You’ve been told to “just stay calm” while your child rages, hits, or destroys things — and then quietly beaten yourself up when you couldn’t. Here’s the truth: you are n

Ep. 53 The Movements That Rewired Her Sons' Brains — and Kept Her Alive

It was 1 a.m., and Alma Galván was in tears. Both of her sons had severe autism, ADHD and sensory differences. Doctors told her to institutionalize her oldest son, and da

The #1 Regulation Tool That Cut My Autistic, PDA Child's Meltdowns by 95%

If I could offer you one tool that took my PDA, autistic son's aggressive behaviors from 5 hours of daily meltdowns and destruction, to less than 30 minutes a few times a

Ep. 51 Am I Damaging My Child? The 3 Shame Spirals That Keep Parents of PDA, Autistic, ADHD Kids Stuck

"I lost it on my child. I'm damaging them." "My child is still struggling. I must not be doing enough." "We don't fit in anywhere. Something must be fundamentally wrong w

Ep. 50 Reclaiming Your Joy and Aliveness — Even When Your Autistic Child Is Still Struggling

Have you lost your sense of aliveness? Your ease? Your feeling of well-being — that quiet sense of being at home inside yourself? If you're parenting a PDA, autistic, or

Ep. 49 The To-Do List Trap: Why Productivity Keeps Parents of High-Needs Kids Dysregulated

Do you often feel like you spend so much of your time taking care of your PDA, autistic, ADHD, or high-needs child that nothing else gets done? If you're carrying the gr

Ep. 48 Why Your PDA, Autistic Child Needs More Flexibility — And Why That Feels So Hard for Your Nervous System

Why does giving your PDA, autistic, ADHD, or hypersensitive child more flexibility sometimes feel so terrifying — even when you intellectually understand they need it? I

Ep. 47 Watching Your Autistic, PDA Child Suffer: The Grief, Guilt, and Helplessness Parents Carry

Watching your PDA, autistic, or high-needs child suffer can feel heartbreaking, helpless, and deeply overwhelming. If you're carrying the grief nobody names, start with

Ep. 46 How to Accommodate Your PDA, Autistic Child Without Fear, Burnout, or Losing Yourself

If you’re parenting a hypersensitive, PDA, autistic, or high-needs child, you may already know that accommodating them is what helps. If you're carrying the grief nobody

Ep. 45 When Mother’s Day Feels Hard: How to Feel Seen and Valued While Parenting a PDA, Autistic or High-Needs Child

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Ep. 44 Why 8 Core Childhood Wounds Make Parenting a PDA/Autistic or Hypersensitive Child Feel So Personal

Why does parenting your hypersensitive, PDA, autistic, or high-needs child feel so personal? If you react even when you know better, start with my free 7 Truths guide —

Ep. 43 Why “Holding It Together” Is Burning You Out as a Parent of a PDA/Autistic Child

We’re often told that when parenting a PDA, autistic, or high-needs child…we need to hold it together. If you're carrying the grief nobody names, start with my free Mean

Ep. 42 When You Want to Feel Hope With Your PDA, Autistic Child… But Can’t

When you’re parenting a hypersensitive, high-needs, PDA/autistic child, hope can start to feel complicated. If you're carrying the grief nobody names, start with my free

Ep. 41 When Your Child Swears or Says Mean Things And It Stings

When your child says, “I hate you,” or swears at you or says mean things, it can feel deeply personal—even when you understand they’re dysregulated. If you react even wh