The Feminist Dating Show

284. Make dating apps optional: A roadmap to attract the right relationship IRL

You don't have to be on dating apps to be "trying" in your dating life. This episode gives you the alternative strategy that has worked for hundreds of my clients (and wo

283. My story: from people pleasing and settling in dating, to attracting more as the main character (and how you can, too)

In episode 283, I'm getting personal about how people pleasing made me settle in dating, friendship, and work, how it led to panic attacks on my lunch break, and the thre

282. "It's scary to want things." How to stop people pleasing and attract what you actually want, with my client Jackie

Jackie was burnt out to a crisp. She was in a job she felt trapped in, because the story was that she had to be of service no matter how she felt. She had taken a sabbati

281. When is the right time to have sex? (and why you keep asking everyone but yourself)

The way you do one thing is the way you do everything. So when you're stressed about the question "when is the right time to have sex??" and outsource your answer to a

280. The Sneaky Ways You're People Pleasing (and How to Stop)

The good, reliable, everyone-comes-to-me best friend. You've been praised for that role your whole life. What if it's the reason you can't get yourself to shoot your shot

279. Decide You're the One: How to Get Over the Fear That You're Not Enough

You've been waiting to feel ready. Ready enough to launch the thing, shoot your shot, ask for the promotion you've been researching and figuring out the pitch for for mon

278. Stop Demoting Yourself to the "Best Friend" Role

Here are 3 signs you're demoting yourself to the "best friend" role in love, friendship, and work... You're the designated listener in your friendships, always the one

Episode Spotlight: How to date in-person if you're scared to start

If approaching a cutie in the wild makes you nauseous… If you "aren't the type of person" to make eye contact with hotties in the wild… If the thought of asking someo

Episode Spotlight: Feel undesirable? Here's what to do.

If you've ever feared that you're not attractive or desirable because it's never happened before, this episode is a must-listen. Lily breaks down the internalized fears

277. The Flirting Ladder (from frozen with fear, to flirting irl)

You want to flirt IRL. But you're scared to start... The Flirting Ladder is exactly how you will build the skills to become an expert, confident flirter! This is the

276. The Impossible List: The Exercise That Proves Your Love Story Is Possible

Today we're talking about making the impossible happen. So if you think finding love is impossible for you, this is the episode for you. You've done it before. The

Episode Spotlight: Get over the fear of rejection (rejection resilience side quest!)

If rejection makes you want to hide under the covers and never date again—this episode is your roadmap back to brave action.   In this Episode Spotlight, Lily shares

Episode Spotlight: "How to move through hopelessness in my dating life?"

This episode of The Feminist Dating Show is a juicy one-- I'm responding to a listener's voicemail about feeling completely hopeless after being ghosted... And after v

Episode Spotlight: "I'm a late bloomer, will men think that's a red flag?" - Live Coaching Session

If you feel like a late bloomer, and you're fearful that will come off like a "red flag" when you start dating, this is for you. This is a live coaching session with Da

Episode Spotlight: The Most Anxiety-Relieving Dating Advice

You know that spiral where you replay a conversation for hours, convinced you said the wrong thing to the wrong person at the wrong time? Lily's got one sentence that end

275. If I Was Your Dating Coach This Summer, Here's What I'd Tell You to Do

If you've never been in a relationship before, or never been in a good one, and you identify with feelings of anxiety, hopelessness, or overwhelm when it comes to dating,

274. Three Reasons Finding Love Is More Possible Than You Think

Your brain is convinced it knows how your love story ends. It's gathered all the evidence from your past and decided: this is just how it is. But your brain is not a fort

273. How to become lucky in your love life

Okay, let's say finding love is 100% all luck. A few weeks ago I shared my take: finding love is proximity to opportunity plus courageous behavior in the face of it. I

272. The secret to magnetic dating? Unbothered CEO Energy.

You want dating to feel like something you're in charge of, that is going your way, not something that's happening to you. That shift-- from anxious hustle to magnetic mo

271. Why now is the BEST time to date

This episode gets into why now is the best time to powerfully date — and why how you show up in your dating life is already changing the rest of your life, whether you re