Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast

289. What I Only Say on Patreon

Ali is away this week, so this episode goes behind the Patreon paywall. It pulls together four of her favorite Updates segments from the last few months: designing an eng

288. Hot Topics #24: The Half Full Glass on the Counter

Ali is back with another Hot Topics episode answering listener questions. She opens with a question about her own path toward getting evaluated for ADHD: what finally pus

287. What Everyone Can Learn From Kink ft. Amanda Dames, aka The Kink Consultant

Ali sits down with Amanda Dames, aka The Kink Consultant, a sex and relationship coach and former NYC dominatrix, for a conversation that might surprise you in its releva

286. What Your Jealousy Is Trying to Tell You ft. Ally Iseman

This week Ali sits down with relationship coach Ally Iseman, founder of Passport 2 Pleasure, for a full reframe of the emotion we love to hate. Ally's case: jealousy is n

285. Moving In Together, Part 3 ft. Skyline

Ali is joined by Skyline for part three of the moving-in-together series, and this time he is in the chair to answer for the version Ali told solo in parts one and two. T

284. Decentering Men When You're Already Partnered ft. Sam Showalter

Ali is joined by creator Sam Showalter, who went viral for a series about decentering her own husband. Eleven years into a relationship with her now-husband, she realized

283. Moving In Together, Part 2: The Emotional Side of Sharing a Home

We're continuing the multi-part moving-in series inspired by listener questions. In part two, Ali gets into the stuff you can't put in a spreadsheet: sharing a space with

282. Moving In Together, Part 1: Money, Chores, and the Mental Load

We’re talking all about moving in with a partner in this multi-part series I inspired by listener questions. In part one, Ali breaks down the practical side of moving in

281. Why Self-Sufficient Women Are Still Codependent ft. Esin Pinarli

Esin Pinarli, a psychotherapist with 18 years of experience, joins Ali to talk about people-pleasing, attachment, and what she calls modern codependency. Esin breaks down

280. Live a Longer Lonely Life: What Tech Is Actually Doing to Connection ft. Alex Wolf

Alex Wolf, the founder behind the original Boss Babe movement turned tech philosopher, joins Ali to explore what the attention economy is quietly doing to our ability to

279. Hot Topics #23: First-Time Manager Nerves, Single Mom Dating Apps, Timeline Anxiety, Dating Burnout, and the Talking Stage

Ali answers five listener questions that all share a common thread: the gap between wanting something and being able to follow through. A first-time manager grappling wit

278. Listener Storytime: Rebuilding Intimacy After Desire Faded

This week, Ali is joined by Sarah, a listener who reached out to share her journey with desire and intimacy. Sarah opens up about how her health anxiety quietly muted her

277. What If the Best Dating Profile Was Written by Your Best Friend? ft. Brooke Janousek

TW: This episode contains a brief discussion of cancer and loss. If you want to skip it, the guest segment begins at approximately minute 13. Brooke Janousek, founder of

276. Ali’s Guide To Getting The *Right* Job Offer (Parts 1 & 2 of 3)

You're being interviewed, but you're also doing the interviewing. Most people forget the second part. Ali shares two episodes from the Finding Mr. Height Patreon in this

275. When You Outgrow the Life You Built ft. Sarah Vacchiano

This week, Ali sits down with Sarah Vacchiano, author of Soft Launch, who got married at 21, divorced at 27, and moved to New York City to start over from scratch. Sarah

274. Listener Storytime: When Staying Felt Safer Than Leaving

TW: This episode includes discussion of grief, miscarriage and emotional abuse. This week, Ali is joined by a listener who shares her story of leaving a marriage rooted

273. Two Years In: The Anniversary Episode ft. Skyline

Ali and Skyline are celebrating two years together! Together from Italy, they go deep on what two years actually looks like, covering how they handle disagreements, how i

272. Designing a Life That Fits ft. Danielle McGeough

Danielle McGeough joins Ali to talk about what happens after you hit the goal you've been chasing your whole career and realize it doesn't feel the way you thought it wou

271. Dating Burnout and the Patterns Behind It ft. Jordanne Sculler

Jordanne Sculler, licensed therapist, joins Ali to talk about dating burnout from the inside out. Rather than pointing to apps or circumstances as the culprit, Jordanne b

270. The Relationship Advice You Inherited Might Be Wrong ft. Monica Tanner

Marriage coach Monica Tanner joins Ali to challenge the unwritten rulebook most of us absorbed about relationships without ever questioning it. Monica, the author of Bad