Sex for Saints

Episode 437 – Six Patterns That End Marriages

After thousands of hours on Zoom with couples, I can usually tell by the second or third conversation which marriages are going to make it. It has almost nothing to do wi

Episode 436 - The Seven Deadly Sins in Your Marriage

Most of us have heard of the seven deadly sins, but I'd never heard them reframed quite like this. In this episode, I dig into Elizabeth Oldfield's idea that these old si

Episode 435 - The Paradoxes Running Your Sex Life

Most of the fights in your marriage aren't problems to solve. They're paradoxes, and we get stuck the moment we try to pick a side instead of accepting both. In this epis

Episode 434 - Emotional Safety: The Foundation Your Marriage and Sex Life Are Built On

What if the problem in your sex life isn't really about sex at all? In this episode, I'm talking about emotional safety and the powerful role it plays in both your marria

Episode 433 - Arousal Without an Agenda

Have you ever stopped yourself from feeling close to your spouse because you were worried about where it might lead? In this episode, I explore why arousal, or what the a

Episode 432 – The Natural Man Was Never About Your Sexuality

In this final episode of my five-part series, I challenge the idea that our sexuality is the "natural man" and offer a new framework for understanding what King Benjamin

Episode 431 - The Sin Next to Murder

What if one of the most familiar teachings about sexuality deserves a second look? In this episode, I take a careful look at Alma 39 and the teaching that sexual sin is "

Episode 430 - Sex, Worthiness, and the Rules You Inherited - What It Did to Him

What if the messages you received about sexuality shaped you more than you ever realized? In this third episode of my series, I explore how decades of cultural and religi

Episode 429 - Sex, Worthiness, and the Rules You Inherited - What It Did to Her

Have you ever wondered why intimacy can feel so difficult, even when you've done everything "right"? In this episode, I explore how the messages many women received growi

Episode 428 - Sex, Worthiness, and the Rules You Inherited - The Hundred-Year Story

What if the struggles you're experiencing in your marriage started long before you ever said "I do"? In this episode, I kick off a five-part series exploring the history,

Episode 427 – Why Your Spouse Gets Defensive When You're Just Trying to Help

What happens when "help" from your spouse starts to feel more like criticism? In this episode, I talk about why even well-intentioned advice can feel like an attack when

Episode 426 - When He Stops Initiating

How do you reconnect with your spouse after so much distance that you're not even sure you want things to go back to the way they were? In this episode, I talk about what

Episode 425 - Learning to Initiate Again After Rejection

When the higher desire partner stops initiating after repeated rejection, it sets off a painful cycle that neither spouse knows how to break. In this episode, we walk thr

Episode 424 – Getting Over Rejection: How to Stop Letting "No" Run Your Marriage

When sexual rejection builds up in a marriage, it rarely stays contained to the bedroom. It seeps into everything — the emotional atmosphere, the small daily gestures, an

Episode 423 - The Weight Men Carry Into the Bedroom

What happens when a man spends his whole life believing his desire could hurt someone? In this episode, I will explore how religious and cultural messages about male sexu

Episode 422 - Slow Down to Connect: The Science of Sexual Mindfulness with Dr. Chelom Leavitt

What if the key to a more connected, nourishing sex life is simply slowing down? In this episode of Sex for Saints, I will talk with sex researcher Chelom Leavitt about s

Episode 421 - Why Talks About Sex Keep Going Sideways

Hard conversations don't fall apart because of what's said, but often because of how they start. In this episode, I will show you why "ambush conversations" trigger defen

Episode 420 - Redefining Protect and Provide

What if "protect and provide" isn't outdated, but just misunderstood? In this episode, I will break down how these ideas have quietly shaped marriages and why the old def

Episode 419 - Sexual Integrity: Becoming Whole

What if the tension you feel around sex isn't about your relationship at all, but about being divided within yourself? In this episode, I will unpack what sexual integrit

Episode 418 - Your Wife Isn't A Problem To Solve

What if the very thing you're doing to improve your sex life is actually making it worse? In this episode, I'm breaking down the "fix-it" mentality so many men bring into