Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast

The “Fine” Mask

You say it a dozen times a day. Somebody asks how you're doing, and before you've had a chance to check, you've already said you're … fine. In this conversation, we pick

Approach Motivation, Round Two with Ari Tuckman, PsyD

Are you doing the thing because of what you'll get, or because of what you're afraid of? Both get the task done. Only one of them is sustainable. This week, Dr. Ari Tuck

Misattunement: The Through-Line of ADHD Relationships with Dr. Dodge Rea

Last time Dr. Dodge Rea was here, we set up a conversation in two parts and only got through one of them. This week we finish it, and the half we left hanging turns out t

What Recovery Actually Looks Like (Beyond Sleep)

Rest, relaxation, recuperation. Three words we reach for when we're empty, and all three have collapsed into the same meaning: stop doing something. The older meanings po

The “But I Have To…” Trap

You look at the list. You look at the calendar. You already know there isn't enough day for what's on there, and somehow the first thing out of your mouth is still "but I

The Gap Trap!

There's the version of you that exists right now, and the version you're pretty sure you should have become by this point. In this conversation, we get into the space bet

A Revisit: Breaking Down an ADHD Challenge

We're on summer break, so this week is a Revisit: a favorite conversation pulled back out of the archive. In this one, Pete and Nikki put on their detective hats to break

A Revisit: Change Your Vocabulary, Change Your Mindset

We're on summer break, so this week is a Revisit: a favorite conversation pulled back out of the archive. In this one, Pete and Nikki dig into the words we use and how mu

A Revisit: Celebrating What We Do

We're on summer break, so this week is a Revisit: a favorite conversation pulled back out of the archive. The idea takes after Dr. Kurosh Dini's concept of the visit, sho

A Revisit: Attacking the Gremlins with Jane Massengill

We're on summer break, so this week is a Revisit: a favorite conversation pulled back out of the archive. The idea takes after Dr. Kurosh Dini's concept of the visit, sho

How to Notice Progress Without Measuring It

At the end of the day, when your brain starts tallying everything you didn't finish, where's the credit for everything you did? In the Season 32 finale, we close out the

You’re Not Broken. You’re Contextual.

You can lose six hours to the thing that lights you up, then completely stall on a task that takes three minutes. Same brain, different room. In this conversation, Pete a

Self-Trust Is a Nervous System Skill with Dr. Tamara Rosier

You can have the perfect planner, the right system, and the best intentions, and still not follow through. It isn't a caring problem. After enough broken promises to your

Rewriting the Rules You Inherited About Worth

There's a rule most of us signed before we could read it. It decides whether we're worth anything, and it tends to set the same terms for everyone who carries an ADHD bra

What It Means to Be “Good Enough” With ADHD

"Good enough" is a phrase that can land like permission or like an accusation — and for ADHD brains that have spent a lifetime being told we're not trying hard enough, bo

Permission Slips You Keep Waiting For

There's a kind of waiting most ADHDers know well — waiting for someone, somewhere, to say it's okay. Okay to rest. Okay to stop masking. Okay to take the accommodation. O

Why Advice Stops Working When You’re Tired

We've all been there: someone offers a perfectly reasonable suggestion, and instead of taking it in, you bristle. You're tired. You're cranky. The last thing you want is

Why “I’ll Deal With It Later” Is an Energy Leak with Ari Tuckman

We've all said it. "I'll deal with it later." And somehow, later never comes. The thing just sits there — not in your calendar, but in your head. It pings you in the show

The Schedule That Bends Without Breaking

You've heard it before, probably said it yourself: time blocking doesn't work for me. Every block that slips becomes one more piece of evidence that you've failed the sys

What to Look For in a Planning Tool

There's a moment every ADHDer knows: you open the task manager, see the sea of red, and close it again. This week, Nikki and Pete sit with that moment — and with what it'