Mother Mayhem: For Daughters of Narcissistic or Emotionally Limited Mothers

150!! How to Take Up Space After a Narcissistic Mother

What does it actually mean to "take up space" after growing up with a narcissistic or emotionally limited mother? We’re talking about why taking up space feels so vulner

How to Stop Feeling Like a Burden

Do you feel guilty asking for help, putting yourself first, or even having preferences? If you've spent your life feeling like a burden, I’ve got you.  In this episode,

148. Why Making Friends Feels So Hard After a Narcissistic Mother

Why does making friends and finding community feel so much harder after growing up with a narcissistic or emotionally immature mother? This week, we talk about how chil

147. My Narcissistic Mother Started Therapy. Now What?

What happens when your narcissistic mother starts therapy? What if your emotionally immature or narcissistic mother seems to be changing after years of hurt, manipulation

146. Word Salad, Love Bombing, Gaslighting & DARVO: How to Stop Getting Pulled Into Narcissistic Mind Games

If you've ever walked away from a conversation with your mother feeling confused, doubting yourself, or wondering how you somehow ended up apologizing...I've got your bac

145. When Healing Advice Doesn’t Fit: The Mother Wound Across Families and Cultures

What happens when healing advice doesn't fit your life? What do you do when family, faith, culture, or loyalty seem to pull you in a different direction than the healing

144. Why Am I So Hard on Myself? Healing the Inner Critic After a Narcissistic Mother

Why are daughters of narcissistic mothers often so hard on themselves? In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we’re talking about self-criticism, confidence, self-worth, and

143. How to Have a Relationship With a Narcissistic Mother Without Losing Yourself

Many daughters of narcissistic and emotionally immature mothers struggle with the question of whether to stay in contact or go no contact. While there is plenty of advice

142. Healing While Still in Contact with a Narcissistic Mother

In this episode, we explore the hidden cost of contact, why daughters often doubt their own experiences, and how healing can happen without going no contact. We also disc

141. Healing Trauma Isn’t About Calming Down

In this episode, I’m taking a do-over. Over the last few years on Mayhem, I’ve talked so much about trauma, nervous systems, hypervigilance, emotional regulation, and he

140. How to Set Boundaries When You’re Afraid of Losing People

You know what you want to say. You can feel it in your body. It doesn’t feel good. Something is off. You want something different. And then… you don’t say it. Not becau

139. When Your Mother Chooses Chaos: Attachment Trauma, Toxic Family Systems & Breaking the Cycle

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we meet a daughter navigating emotional chaos, triangulation, and repeated attachment loss caused by her mother’s unstable relationships

138. When Your Body Remembers Fear: Daughters of Abusive Mothers

This week, we meet a daughter who grew up in a home marked by fear, hypervigilance, emotional instability, and domestic violence. Although her childhood looked “good” f

137. Why You Still Feel Unsafe After Going No Contact With a Narcissistic Mother

What happens when your life finally becomes calmer… but your body still feels afraid? In this episode, I talk to a daughter navigating the aftermath of going no contact

Mother’s Day With a Mother Wound: Why It Still Hurts and What to Do

Mother’s Day can bring up a lot when you have a complicated, painful, or confusing relationship with your mother. If you’re a daughter of a narcissistic, emotionally imm

136. I’m 16. My Mom is Incapable: Still Living with the Mother Who Hurts You

***Note: This episode has been re-uploaded with the correct audio. This week’s episode is different. For the first time, we hear from a daughter who is still living at

135. Why Emotional Eating Makes Sense for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

Food didn’t become comfort by accident. For many daughters, food became the safest way to soothe themselves when feelings were too big, too inconvenient, or too unwelcom

134. Daughters, We’ve Got Ourselves a Broken Heart

Today, we are building the official Mother Mayhem Heartbreak Survival Kit. You know the drill. Pajamas Tissues. At least one song on repeat. And a movie you’ve seen so

133. Why Am I So Afraid of Being Left? Nervous System Healing After Trauma

If you’ve done the healing work… rebuilt your life… and still find yourself bracing for the next thing to fall apart, let’s have a chat today. Many daughters of narcissi

132. The Scapegoat Child: Family Silence, and Breaking the Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse

In narcissistic family systems, loyalty is redefined. It means: don’t disrupt the narrative. So when you speak up, name harm, or refuse to play along, the system reacts.