Mother Mayhem: For Daughters of Narcissistic or Emotionally Limited Mothers

157. When Your Family Needs You to Stay Who You Used to Be

What happens when you change, but your family keeps holding onto an old version of you? This week on Mayhem, a conversation with my family brought me face-to-face with a

156. Why Your Boundaries Disappear Around Your Narcissistic Mother

Why can setting a boundary with a narcissistic or emotionally unsafe mother feel completely different when she is actually standing in front of you? This week on Mayhem,

155. Why Do Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers Feel So Much Shame?

Growing up with a narcissistic or emotionally limited mother can leave daughters carrying shame into places they don’t even recognize as shame. In this episode, we’re ta

154. When Your Narcissistic Mother Is Different in Public

What do you do when your narcissistic mother can look loving, supportive, or generous in public, but your private experience of her keeps telling you something very diffe

153. When Your Narcissistic Mother Turns the Family Against You

What happens when your narcissistic mother turns the family against you and everyone starts treating you like the problem? This week on Mayhem, we’re talking about what

152. Guilt and the Narcissistic Mother: What Do I Actually Owe Her?

Guilt can be one of the hardest parts of healing from a narcissistic or emotionally limited mother. How do you know when guilt means you’ve actually done something wrong

151.Why Ordinary Things Can Feel Threatening After Narcissistic Abuse

What happens when something ordinary in your life suddenly makes your body feel unsafe, even when you know there’s no real danger? In this episode, we look at why trauma

150!! How to Take Up Space After a Narcissistic Mother

What does it actually mean to "take up space" after growing up with a narcissistic or emotionally limited mother? We’re talking about why taking up space feels so vulner

How to Stop Feeling Like a Burden

Do you feel guilty asking for help, putting yourself first, or even having preferences? If you've spent your life feeling like a burden, I’ve got you.  In this episode,

148. Why Making Friends Feels So Hard After a Narcissistic Mother

Why does making friends and finding community feel so much harder after growing up with a narcissistic or emotionally immature mother? This week, we talk about how chil

147. My Narcissistic Mother Started Therapy. Now What?

What happens when your narcissistic mother starts therapy? What if your emotionally immature or narcissistic mother seems to be changing after years of hurt, manipulation

146. Word Salad, Love Bombing, Gaslighting & DARVO: How to Stop Getting Pulled Into Narcissistic Mind Games

If you've ever walked away from a conversation with your mother feeling confused, doubting yourself, or wondering how you somehow ended up apologizing...I've got your bac

145. When Healing Advice Doesn’t Fit: The Mother Wound Across Families and Cultures

What happens when healing advice doesn't fit your life? What do you do when family, faith, culture, or loyalty seem to pull you in a different direction than the healing

144. Why Am I So Hard on Myself? Healing the Inner Critic After a Narcissistic Mother

Why are daughters of narcissistic mothers often so hard on themselves? In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we’re talking about self-criticism, confidence, self-worth, and

143. How to Have a Relationship With a Narcissistic Mother Without Losing Yourself

Many daughters of narcissistic and emotionally immature mothers struggle with the question of whether to stay in contact or go no contact. While there is plenty of advice

142. Healing While Still in Contact with a Narcissistic Mother

In this episode, we explore the hidden cost of contact, why daughters often doubt their own experiences, and how healing can happen without going no contact. We also disc

141. Healing Trauma Isn’t About Calming Down

In this episode, I’m taking a do-over. Over the last few years on Mayhem, I’ve talked so much about trauma, nervous systems, hypervigilance, emotional regulation, and he

140. How to Set Boundaries When You’re Afraid of Losing People

You know what you want to say. You can feel it in your body. It doesn’t feel good. Something is off. You want something different. And then… you don’t say it. Not becau

139. When Your Mother Chooses Chaos: Attachment Trauma, Toxic Family Systems & Breaking the Cycle

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we meet a daughter navigating emotional chaos, triangulation, and repeated attachment loss caused by her mother’s unstable relationships

138. When Your Body Remembers Fear: Daughters of Abusive Mothers

This week, we meet a daughter who grew up in a home marked by fear, hypervigilance, emotional instability, and domestic violence. Although her childhood looked “good” f