Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate Osborn

He has ADHD. She doesn’t. What actually helps this real couple communicate

Your partner has rehearsed this conversation 10 times. You’re walking in at one. No wonder it goes sideways. Dani Burford doesn’t have ADHD, but her husband, Sean, does,

When intense feels normal: ADHD and abusive relationships

Research shows that girls with ADHD are significantly more likely to experience intimate partner violence. Dr. Emily Rothman, who recently published a study on dating vi

The ADHD safety net hiding inside a kink power dynamic

Kink isn’t required to get something real out of a power dynamic. And for ADHD brains, it might be more than you’d expect Sex and relationship coach Amanda Dames — The K

I’ve never felt like a good woman: ADHD and femininity

In this episode, a complex conversation about ADHD, femininity, gender, and why talking about the hard stuff is important. Cate sits down with Rae Jacobson, host of Unde

An Emmy winner’s trick for ADHD idea overload (Live show!)

We recorded our first-ever live show in front of a studio audience! Emmy Award–winning writer, director, and producer Adam Reid, co-creator of “Tiny Chef,” joined Cate to

Your ADHD brain loves a good argument. Here’s why that’s a problem.

Ever notice your ADHD brain gets a little too excited during an argument? Like you’re not even mad anymore, you’re just... having a really good time being right? Yeah. Th

Why money fights are never really about money

Money is one of the biggest sources of conflict in relationships — and for people with ADHD, it comes with an extra layer of shame most people don’t talk about. Cate sit

Parentification: The hidden pattern in ADHD relationships

Ever feel like you’re the “parent” in your relationship — managing everything while your partner just... coasts? You’re not alone. And it’s not just you being controlling

ADHD and impulse control: The science behind why willpower fails

Does ADHD really mean poor self-control? Or is that the myth that’s been making everything harder?  Dr. Polaris Koi is a philosopher who studies ADHD and self-regulation

Why good sex can make your ADHD brain spiral

Do you feel almost manic after really good sex — craving more, making impulsive decisions, fixating on the next time? In this episode of Reddit reactions, Cate and Jessam

Why neurodivergent women can’t stop reading smut and romantasy

Did you know that women with ADHD consume explicit fiction at dramatically higher rates than neurotypical women — and there’s a neurological reason? Dr. Erika Miley is a

ADHD, AuDHD, and self-diagnosis: Is it valid?

Is ADHD self-diagnosis valid? According to clinical psychologist Dr. Elizabeth Kilmer, that’s the wrong question entirely. When access to diagnosis is limited by cost, in

Why ADHD makes decluttering so hard (and how to fix it)

If your home has ever felt like it’s working against you, this one’s for you. Certified professional organizer Alison Lush joins the show to unpack the ADHD relationship

How online community is saving (and breaking) my ADHD brain

Laura Mears-Reynolds, founder of ADHDAF and an award-winning community organizer, joins Cate to talk about online communication, building connection, and staying in touch

Writing the ADHD guide we wish we'd had

Content warning: This episode discusses self-harm.  What does it actually take to finish a book with ADHD?  Cate sits down with Erik Gude, her co-author of The ADHD Fie

ADHD gaslighting and chasing new relationship energy (Reddit Reactions)

As we know, Reddit is full of messy love stories, and we have thoughts.  From gaslighting and age gaps to the weird magic of “new relationship energy,” we read posts tha

When ADHD turns chores into conflict

Division of labor between partners isn’t easy for anyone. Add ADHD and suddenly dishes come with shame. Trash becomes a crisis. And rest starts to feel sketchy.  Cate si

Decisions, decisions: ADHD and the trap of analysis paralysis

Have you ever stayed up all night replaying a meeting in your head? Or obsessed over an email? Or questioned every instinct you have? If making decisions feels like a ful

How menopause and hormones impact ADHD symptoms in women

If your ADHD symptoms seem to have leveled up out of nowhere, you’re not losing it. Hormones play a much bigger role in ADHD than most of us understand, especially during

Stuck in your head? ADHD, overthinking, and getting “unstuck”

Ever catch yourself spiraling over a decision and feeling like your brain won’t stop replaying every possible “what if”?  Dr. J is joining us to talk about rumination, o