Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast

When not knowing feels unbearable: A shadow work + inner child healing practice

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com Do you ever feel like you just need to know what’s going to happen before you c

When stress makes your partner feel like the enemy

Have you ever had a stressful week and suddenly everything your partner does starts getting on your nerves? In this episode, I’m sharing one of the hardest weeks Justin

The push-pull pattern you don’t realize you’re creating (and why it keeps happening)

Have you ever chased connection until you felt rejected one too many times... and then suddenly found yourself pulling away? In this episode, we’re exploring the push-pu

The cheat code that changed my relationship with myself

Have you ever had one of those days where you just don't feel like yourself? Maybe you're more emotional, more sensitive, or more irritable than usual, and your first in

When jealousy shows up (even when you trust your partner)

Have you ever felt jealous in your relationship... even though you genuinely trust your partner? In this episode, I’m sharing one of the most vulnerable stories I’ve told

The real reason you can't let go of your ex

Have you ever felt like you couldn’t let go of someone even though you knew the relationship was over? In this episode, I share one of the most powerful shadow work quest

What if the pattern isn’t the problem?

Have you ever caught yourself spiraling and thought, "Why am I doing this again?" This episode is about what happens when we stop trying to get rid of the pattern and sta

Why you feel the need to fill the space in relationships

Why does silence feel so uncomfortable in relationships? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I explore the hidden reason many of us rush to fill the space when our

The “loving” relationship pattern that’s actually hurting you

Have you ever done something “nice” for someone… but secretly felt exhausted, resentful, or unseen afterward? This episode is about the hidden relationship dynamic undern

Why it’s so hard to receive support (even when you need it)

Have you ever pushed away support… even when you really needed it? This episode is about why receiving can feel so hard and what changes when we allow it. This episode i

The trust-breaking pattern you don’t realize you’re doing in relationships

Have you ever wanted something from your partner but didn’t actually say it? This episode is about why we do that and how it slowly breaks trust in our relationships. Th

3 questions that turn conflict into connection

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “If they would just do this differently, everything would be fine”? This episode is about why that pattern keeps us stuck and the

Why you pick fights when things are going well

Why do we create conflict when life is actually going well? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I unpack the “upper limit problem” — the unconscious pattern of sabo

Knowing what you want but still not getting it? This might be why

You’re clear on what you want, so why aren’t you getting it? There’s a painful in-between many of us find ourselves in: knowing what we want, and still not receiving it.

When your partner says no (but you really wanted them to say yes)

There’s a moment many of us know well: your partner says no, and you really wanted them to say yes. In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I walk through a real-life m

Should you get back together with your ex? 3 questions to ask yourself first

Should you get back together with your ex, or is this just familiarity pulling you back in? Before you say yes, there are a few questions worth slowing down and asking.

Holding Polarity: How to stay grounded when two opposing truths exist

What if nothing is wrong with you, you’re just being asked to hold two truths at the same time? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I explore polarity: the embodied

My go-to life changing book list for winter

Check out full book list post on Substack here: My go-to healing book list for winter Thank you so much, everyone, for letting me walk alongside you this season. I have

How to get out of the thought spiral (in 3-steps)

Do you ever notice how one small trigger can send you into a full-blown spiral? Maybe your partner takes too long to text back, or a conflict makes you think the relation

Why fixing their mood doesn’t fix you

Do you ever feel like it’s your job to make your partner (or kids, or parents) feel better when they’re upset? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, we explore the cod