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From the Archives: Unfair Expectations in Your Power Exchange

This week’s episode from the archives discusses managing unfair expectations in your power exchange. The original episode was published in 2018. This is a stripped down v

From the Archives: People Pleasing

As promised, while on hiatus, we’re bringing back episodes from the archives starting with people pleasing in power exchange. It was originally published in 2022. This is

Another Mental Health Episode and an Announcement

This week, we share some of what’s going on with our mental health as well as an important announcement (around minute 45). In this episode: Celebrate Kinkmas in July at

Responding to Your Comments

There was no mental bandwidth for a fresh topic this week, so we did something new(ish?). We responded to recent comments we’ve received on episodes! In this episode: We’

BDSM Reddit Response

In this week's episode, we answer questions asked on the kinky side of Reddit covering topics from upsetting a new partner to wanting to brat during aftercare to a submis

Submission vs. Surrender: What’s the Difference?

Some kinksters talk about submission and surrender as separate concepts – which is not something we’ve thought about before – so let’s talk about it. In this episode: Reg

BDSM in the News

This week, we’re talking about recent articles and news stories about BDSM and sharing our opinion on the situation. In this episode: June 26 is the last day of a sale at

Kink Terms Evolve

For better or worse, language changes over time — including the terms we use in kink. These are our chaotic, messy thoughts on those changes. In this episode: We’re no lo

No Topic, Just Chaos

We definitely talk about kink and sex in this episode, but it’s more of a bonus section kind of episode, so of course it’s chaotic AF. In this episode: We talked about a

Kinky Q&A

This week, we answer your kinky questions! In this episode: Diabolical sticks are available at the Kinkery! We added a new workbook to the Etsy shop: Communication in Pow

BDSM Reddit Response

This week, we’re responding to questions asked on the kinky side of Reddit. In this episode: Is it okay to not like the degrading messages I received? I keep meeting “Dom

Learning Lessons and Avoiding Future Conflict | Dealing With Conflict Series

In the final installment of our conflict in D/s series, we’re talking about what do to after you’ve resolved this conflict to learn from it and (hopefully) avoid future c

What to Do When Conflict Happens | Dealing with Conflict Series

In this week’s episode, we’re continuing our series on conflict on D/s and answering the question, “What do we do about it when it happens?” In this episode: No episode n

What Causes Conflict in D/s | Dealing with Conflict Series

This week’s episode is the first in a series on dealing with conflict in your power exchange, and we’re talking about what can cause conflict. In this episode: New live s

When a Dom Says No

Note: If you need to skip the part with a content warning, fast forward by about 7 minutes. In this week’s episode, we discuss the fact that Dominant’s may use their auth

Kinky Pet Peeves

NOTE: The audio quality wasn’t so great for this one, but we figured out the problem and fixed it for next week! This week, we share some of our own kinky pet peeves and.

BDSM Reddit Response

This week, we’re responding to questions asked on the kinky side of Reddit. In this episode: Where we were last week Dom pushing too far Toy vs sub Punishment or play One

Can You Be Spontaneous in a Kink Relationship?

There’s no single right answer. This is a wide-ranging conversation where we try to figure out what we think about the idea of being spontaneous. Spoiler alert: Kayla doe

Feeling Disconnected in D/s

Let’s talk about what might make you feel disconnected from your partner in your D/s relationship – and how to reconnect again. In this episode: Get your FREE ticket to t

BDSM Q&A

This week, we asked for your kinky questions over on Instagram and YouTube! In this episode: Final donation totals to the Campaign for Southern Equality Questions: I’m a