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Does Wearing My Collar “Force” Others to Participate in My D/s Relationship?

The title of this week’s episode is a “whoa” kind of question (at least to us). We discuss whether kink symbols (like collars) or subtle acts – that aren’t overtly kinky

Vanilla Creep in D/s Relationships

We’re very familiar with stressful events disrupting a power exchange relationships, but sometimes life just lifes. Someone online called it “vanilla creep,” and we agree

Kinky Q&A

This week, we’re answering your kinky questions asked on Instagram and Fetlife! In this episode: What inspired you to start your own kink podcast and selling handmade kin

Submissives Using Signals to Communicate Desire

I have no idea how to title this week’s episode, lol. But it’s a thing we kind of talked about in last week’s Reddit episode and a thing that we do in our power... The p

BDSM Reddit Response

For our first episode back, we knew it needed to be a fun one! We’re reacting to the kinky side of Reddit this week! In this episode: Today’s the last day to get the...

From the Archives: Unfair Expectations in Your Power Exchange

This week’s episode from the archives discusses managing unfair expectations in your power exchange. The original episode was published in 2018. This is a stripped down v

From the Archives: People Pleasing

As promised, while on hiatus, we’re bringing back episodes from the archives starting with people pleasing in power exchange. It was originally published in 2022. This is

Another Mental Health Episode and an Announcement

This week, we share some of what’s going on with our mental health as well as an important announcement (around minute 45). In this episode: Celebrate Kinkmas in July at

Responding to Your Comments

There was no mental bandwidth for a fresh topic this week, so we did something new(ish?). We responded to recent comments we’ve received on episodes! In this episode: We’

BDSM Reddit Response

In this week's episode, we answer questions asked on the kinky side of Reddit covering topics from upsetting a new partner to wanting to brat during aftercare to a submis

Submission vs. Surrender: What’s the Difference?

Some kinksters talk about submission and surrender as separate concepts – which is not something we’ve thought about before – so let’s talk about it. In this episode: Reg

BDSM in the News

This week, we’re talking about recent articles and news stories about BDSM and sharing our opinion on the situation. In this episode: June 26 is the last day of a sale at

Kink Terms Evolve

For better or worse, language changes over time — including the terms we use in kink. These are our chaotic, messy thoughts on those changes. In this episode: We’re no lo

No Topic, Just Chaos

We definitely talk about kink and sex in this episode, but it’s more of a bonus section kind of episode, so of course it’s chaotic AF. In this episode: We talked about a

Kinky Q&A

This week, we answer your kinky questions! In this episode: Diabolical sticks are available at the Kinkery! We added a new workbook to the Etsy shop: Communication in Pow

BDSM Reddit Response

This week, we’re responding to questions asked on the kinky side of Reddit. In this episode: Is it okay to not like the degrading messages I received? I keep meeting “Dom

Learning Lessons and Avoiding Future Conflict | Dealing With Conflict Series

In the final installment of our conflict in D/s series, we’re talking about what do to after you’ve resolved this conflict to learn from it and (hopefully) avoid future c

What to Do When Conflict Happens | Dealing with Conflict Series

In this week’s episode, we’re continuing our series on conflict on D/s and answering the question, “What do we do about it when it happens?” In this episode: No episode n

What Causes Conflict in D/s | Dealing with Conflict Series

This week’s episode is the first in a series on dealing with conflict in your power exchange, and we’re talking about what can cause conflict. In this episode: New live s

When a Dom Says No

Note: If you need to skip the part with a content warning, fast forward by about 7 minutes. In this week’s episode, we discuss the fact that Dominant’s may use their auth