Nope! We're Not Monogamous

Rewind: Jealousy, Compersion & the Messy Truth About Non-Monogamy with Dirty Lola

Some of my favorite conversations on this podcast are the ones where we stop trying to make non-monogamy look perfect and just talk about what it's actually like. T

Rewind: How to Build Secure Polyamorous Relationships | Jessica Fern & David Cooley

Some conversations are just too good to stay buried in the archives. This week I'm bringing back one of my absolute favorite episodes with Jessica Fern, author of P

Growing Up in a Polyamorous Family | A Conversation with Koe Creation

What is it actually like to grow up in a polyamorous family? There are plenty of opinions about how non-monogamy affects children, but very few of those opinions come fr

Rewind: Wilder on Closed Triads, Poly Families & Living Authentically, EP. 161

Some conversations are simply too good to leave in the archives. This week I'm re-releasing one of my favorite early episodes with my dear friend, Wilder. Even year

What Nobody Teaches You About Polycule Dynamics with Red DeRooy and Stacey Smith?

Most conversations about non-monogamy focus on opening a relationship, navigating jealousy, or finding new partners. But what happens after that? How do you navigate a

The Courage to Show Up: Sex Positivity and Finding Your People with Jamie Love, EP. 159

What if the thing you're craving most isn't another dating app, another relationship book, or another set of rules? What if it's community? In this episo

Compersion Isn’t Mandatory, EP. 158

Do you ever feel like everyone else in polyamory got the compersion memo except you? Like you're supposed to be thrilled when your partner is excited about someone

How to Talk About Jealousy Without Starting a Fight, EP. 157

Have you ever rehearsed a hard conversation in your head… and then the second you try to have it, everything comes out wrong? Maybe you shut down. Maybe you get defensiv

How to Stop Spiraling When Jealousy Takes Over, Ep. 156

Have you ever noticed how jealousy can completely hijack your body? Your thoughts race. Your chest tightens, You start looking for signs something is wrong. And suddenl

Why Jealousy Hits So Hard (And What It’s Really Trying to Protect) EP. 154

Jealousy can feel overwhelming, shame-filled, and honestly… kind of brutal. A delayed text, a shift in energy, hearing your partner mention someone else, and suddenly yo

Jealousy, Boundaries, and the Things You’re Afraid to Ask For, EP. 155

Have you ever felt jealous… but underneath it was resentment? Maybe you said you were fine. Tried to be chill. Tried to be supportive. Tried not to be “too much.” But d

If It Feels Hard… You’re Not Doing It Wrong, EP. 153

Jealousy in non-monogamy doesn’t always look dramatic. Sometimes it’s not a big blow-up or obvious conflict. Sometimes it’s the slow build. A little comparison. A littl

Dating Someone Who’s Already Partnered… and Still Feeling Alone, EP. 152

There’s a very specific kind of loneliness that can happen when you’re dating someone who’s already partnered. The connection can be real. The feelings can be real.  And

Communication Triangles in Polyamory: The Subtle Dynamic That Creates Drama EP. 151

Have you ever found yourself holding feelings about a relationship… that technically isn’t even yours? Like your partner shares something about their other partner…and s

Showing Up Alone to a Swingers Event Changed Everything - Ep. 150 with Kate Heskett

What if the thing you thought made you “too much”… was actually the doorway to deeper connection, more honest relationships, and a whole lot more pleasure? In this episo

Metamours, Friendship, and the Myth of Instant Kitchen Table Polyamory, EP. 149

What are metamour relationships supposed to look like in non-monogamy? Do you have to be instant best friends… or even chosen family… with your partner’s partner? In th

NRE: Why New Relationship Energy Feels So Good (and Why You Should Slow Down) EP. 148

New Relationship Energy, or NRE, is one of the most talked-about dynamics in non-monogamy, and one of the most misunderstood. In this episode, relationship coach Ellecia

Resentment Is a Boundary Problem (And It’s Not What You Think)

If you’ve been feeling resentful in your open relationship, this episode is for you. In Episode 147 of Nope, We’re Not Monogamous, I break down why resentment in non-mon

Poly Agony: The Mistakes, Repair, and Reality of Raising Kids While Open with Candace Sogren

Non-monogamy isn’t just more love. It’s more feelings, more conversations, and sometimes… a lot more processing. In this episode, I’m sitting down with Candace Sogren, l

Needs vs Wants in Non-Monogamy: There’s No Prize for Needing Less EP.145

Struggling to tell the difference between needs vs wants in non-monogamy? If you’ve learned to be “low maintenance” and tolerate a lot, you might be minimizing your emot