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Parenting · Tash Gershfield & Carly Harris

Not As We Planned

by Tash Gershfield & Carly Harris

New episodes every Thursday, with exclusive bonus episodes every Monday on Patreon. Welcome to Not As We Planned, the honest podcast about relationships, dating, marriage, divorce and motherhood, and all the things no one really talks about. From becoming a mum and navigating divorce, to rebuilding life as a single mum and dating again in your 30s, we’re sharing the real, messy and unexpected sides of it all. Life doesn’t always go to plan, and neither do relationships. This is a space for open conversations, shared experiences and saying the things most people avoid. If you have a question or want to share your story, email us at notasweplannedpodcast@gmail.com Join Our Community Get our weekly BONUS episode: https://patreon.com/c/NotAsWePlanned Follow the Podcast: @notasweplanned_podcast Tash: @tash_blake_ivy Carly: @iamcarlyharris Get the Planner: https://notasweplanned.shop Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Chart trend

Position in the Parenting chart (US), last 90 days.

#25
all-time peak
1
day in the top 50 since Oct 2025

Latest episodes

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Young Parents, 3 Million Followers And Life Behind The Kern Family

Eight months into their relationship, Charlotte found out she was pregnant at just 20 years old. From becoming young parents and figuring out their relationship along the

Sep 2
1 h 26 min

I Gave My Cheating Husband A Second Chance… 10 Years Later I Regret It

She discovered her husband was having an affair, chose to forgive him and spent the next 10 years rebuilding their marriage… only to find herself right back where she sta

Aug 26
40 min

My Boyfriend Faked Cancer While My Mum Was Dying

Imagine watching your mum die from cancer while the man you trust tells you his cancer has come back too… only to discover he made the whole thing up. This week we hear

Aug 19
37 min

I Married The Wrong Person… But It Led Me To The Love Of My Life

What if your biggest heartbreak is actually the beginning of your happiest chapter? This week, we share some of the most uplifting listener stories we’ve ever received.

Aug 12
42 min

Hollie Dowding: Surviving Domestic Violence... How I Finally Sent My Abuser To Prison

When Hollie Dowding finally walked away from her abusive relationship, she never imagined the journey that would follow. In this powerful and emotional conversation, Hol

Aug 5
1 h 13 min

My Husband Is The Perfect Dad… So Why Do I Think He’s Cheating?

A listener tells us about the growing feeling she can’t ignore… her husband seems like the perfect dad, but she’s convinced something isn’t right. Is she overthinking it,

Jul 29
36 min

I Finally Left My Toxic Relationship… So Why Do I Miss Him?

You finally leave the relationship everyone told you was toxic… so why do you still miss it? This week, we unpack a listener’s confession about leaving a toxic partner o

Jul 22
41 min

Why So Many Boys Are Struggling Today & What Parents Can Do with Raising Boys 2 Men

Boys today are facing challenges that previous generations never had to navigate, but are we raising them in the right way? This week, we’re joined by Raising Boys 2 Men

Jul 15
1 h 14 min

My Best Friend Lied To Me For 10 Years…

What would you do if you found out your best friend had been lying to you for over a decade? In this episode, we unpack one listener’s shocking story, review another dat

Jul 8
43 min

He Faked Cancer While I Was Pregnant

She thought she’d finally found her happy ending. After blending their families and welcoming a new baby together, everything seemed perfect… until she discovered the ma

Jul 1
51 min

He Ghosted Me For 5 Weeks… Then Came Back Like Nothing Happened

He disappeared without a word for five weeks… then came back expecting another chance. This week, Carly opens up about the emotional reality of co-parenting, we help a l

Jun 24
37 min

My Husband’s Entire Life Was A Lie

A listener discovers that her husband’s entire life was a lie. After 14 years together, two children and what seemed like the perfect marriage, one tiny clue unravels ev

Jun 17
39 min

He Didn’t Forget My Birthday, He Ignored It

Tash opens up about her kids being around her boyfriend, the Snapchat message that wasn’t meant to be sent, when a break can help your relationship and the breadcrumbs th

Jun 10
44 min

He Left Me For a Man

Carly opens up about her grief, a story that will remind you that kids really do absorb the environment they are in and after 20 years together he left his wife for a man

Jun 3
38 min

Omg That’s NEW Information…I’m Terrified!!

You share the sluttiest things you’ve ever done, we give feedback on the first Hinge profile you’ve sent in, the separation after 20 years and the long-term emotional aff

May 27
47 min

I'm Always The One That's Left

We hear about a relationship where HE never wants to have sex, how drugs and alchohol ruined a relationship and wondering why you're always the one who's dumped. Watch t

May 21
50 min

I Trusted Him 100% Until I Checked His Phone

We discuss our most toxic traits in a relationship, when you get warned about your partner on your wedding day and when we discuss that two happy homes is better than one

May 13
44 min

How Many Red Flags Did I Ignore?

We discuss your pettiest reasons you stopped seeing someone, we hear about the suspicions of someone who thinks her partner may be sleeping with her former best friend an

May 6
50 min

I Was Ghosted 5 Years Into Our Relationship | Not As We Planned Podcast

We go down memory lane with all our previous relationships, you share the BRUTAL ways you were dumped, changing the way we date with the 3 men dating approach and when yo

Apr 29
40 min

I Found Out He's Been In Prison | Not As We Planned Podcast

This week, we discuss feeling like you have hit rock bottom, we have a look at the calibre of the dating pool and hear a story about a man whose little lies were just the

Apr 22
53 min

Chart positions

Where Not As We Planned ranks today in each Apple Podcasts chart (US, Sep 4, 2026).

#85 ▲ 114 Kids & Family US
#25 ▲ 33 Parenting US

What listeners say

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I’m truly grateful to have found this podcast. It’s helped me so much in the past 6 months since my separation. Navigating divorce, coparenting and returning to being single. I love the vulnerability, the laughs and not feeling so alone. Thank you. ❤️

deva0330 · Apr 2024

Real, raw, and brutally honest! Beyond excited for this podcast to go live! Love these two ladies who aren’t afraid to show the world you can be a single mum, go through challenges, and find the silver lining. In a world with so much grief these two are a shining light!!!

KDA_20 · Jul 2023

I came across this podcast last summer. I can’t tell you how much it has helped me and how much joy and laughter has brought me. I’m so grateful to Tosh and Carly.

Rickyb127 · Jul 2025

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