Mistakes Were Made

Shadow Alchemy: Season 6 Premiere! | Ep 80

Sarah and Alex delve into Jungian analysis and find out that sometimes it's our darker parts that bring us closer together with partners. If you've felt yourself struggli

Ep 79: The 3 Phases of Opening a Marriage | Season 5 Finale

Sarah and Alex outline how opening a het relationship is experienced differently by men and women... based on meticulously collected and analyzed scientific data, of cour

Ep 78: Coming Out as Poly with Tabitha Kirkland

It's Pride, and we're talking about coming out, parenting, and the nature of happiness, with poly psychology researcher Tabitha Kirkland. Mentioned in the episode: Ge

Ep 77: Stop People Pleasing with Calvin Burnap

Therapist and 'Crush Coach" Calvin Burnap returns to talk about the dangers of abandoning yourself, the importance of internal boundaries, and why being ice cold in break

Ep 76: Is Opening up harder for men or women? Part 1

In this mini episode Sarah and Alex try to figure out who has a tougher time in polyamory. Mentioned in the episode: Melt Music & Mutual Aid Fair | When women choose

Ep 75: Lindy West was right

Now that we've actually read the book…there's even more to say about Lindy West's Adult Braces. Spoiler alert: it is extremely fucking good. Follow us: mistakescast@g

Ep 74: Sarah's First Sex Party

Sarah and Alex explore the seven stages of playparties, from abject horror to skepticism to curiosity. And then Sarah recouts her first time getting in the mix.  Mentio

Ep 73: Relationship Care Plans with Karryn

It's like a prenup... for when your partner goes out of town. Poly therapist Karryn Satchell joins the podcast to explain how you can plan ahead for hard moments in a rel

Ep 72: Lindy West's Adult Braces Instant Reaction

Lindy West is "setting the internet on fire" again with a new memoir tracing her rocky path to accepting a poly relationship with her partner. Sarah & Alex pick apart the

Ep 71: Love or Limerence?

Sleepless nights. Intrusive thoughts. Gushing adoration. Is that obsessive feeling true love? Sarah and Alex unpack experiences as givers and recievers of limerant feelin

Ep 70: Community and Cancel Culture with Ramsey

Ramsey rejoins the podcast to talk about that thing everyone seems to be seeking more of these days: Community. What even is it? Why are so many of us lacking it? And is

Ep 69: New Models of Masculinity

Guess who's been missing from this new wave of political organizing: CIS dudes. Alex grapples with how critique of toxic masculinity has left a gap in men's identity. And

Ep 68: The Poly Bi Male Experience with Quinn

Bi men are having a moment, and we're jumping on the bandwagon! Sarah talks to Quinn and Alex about discovering their bisexuality while practicing polyamory. Warning: Hea

Ep 67: Taking care of your partner (and yourself) when they're struggling

What does Ai and folding laundry have to do with supporting your partner through a break up? Not very much, but both things sure did come up a lot in this episode! Sarah

Ep 66: Kin, Family and Community Love with Sophie Lucido Johnson

Author and Cartoonist Sophie Lucido Johnnson talks about the future of family structures, her new book "Kin," and, of course, global extinction.  Mentioned in the episo

Ep 65: Alone in a Crowded Polycule

Register for the Intentional Nonmonogamy Workshop on March 21st in Seattle with Sarah and Alex of Mistakes Were Made. Is polyamory a salve for loneliness? Or just a way

Ep 64: The Religion to Poly Pipeline with Tyson

Evangelical-turned-athiest Tyson returns to the show, this time to help us unpack why so many people from religious backgrounds like his find their way to polyamory, and

Ep 63: Jealousy, Anarchy and Psychedelics with Dr Nicole Thompson

Sarah & Alex talk with Dr. Nicole, host of the Modern Anarchy podcast about jealousy, religious trauma and the first EVER study on relationship anarchy.  Oh, and the pa

Ep 62: MWM Live at Liberating Love Festival

It's an extra special live episode of Mistakes Were Made! Sarah and Alex are joined by Jessa Davis, Elizabeth Cunningham, and return guest Ramsey for a conversation all a

Ep 61: Trauma-Informed Poly ~ Season 5 Premiere!

Has a relationship ever made you feel like a scared little kid? You might be resurfacing trauma from an earlier life stage. In the Season 5 premiere Sarah and Alex welcom