You Are Not Crazy

Dating After Abuse: Why My Answer Is "Traumatized"

Someone recently asked if I'm dating, and my honest answer was "traumatized." In this episode I talk about why that word fits better than a simple yes or no, why a r

When Co-Parenting Isn't Safe: The Case for Parallel Parenting

I break down why parallel parenting is a communication strategy built specifically for high-conflict dynamics, not a failure of one. I talk about what it actually looks l

Why Closure Is a Myth with Najwa Zebian

Najwa Zebian returns for a second conversation, and this one picks up exactly where the first left off. Her new book, The One Who Broke You Can't Heal You, comes ou

Pattern Blindness: Why No One Believes You Until It's Too Late

In this episode I break down pattern blindness, one of the least talked about reasons survivors stay stuck in self-doubt. I explain why family court and even well-meaning

The Angry Daughter in Love

In this episode, I return to the angry daughter — but this time, I look at what happens when she tries to love someone. The survival skills that kept her intact in her fa

The Angry Daughter

In this episode, I reflect on what it actually means to be the angry daughter — the scapegoat, the truth-teller, the one who names what others refuse to see. Drawing from

Why You Keep Saying Sorry (Even When You Did Nothing Wrong)

In this episode, I'm talking about why self-blame becomes almost automatic when you've been in an emotionally abusive or coercively controlling relationship, an

You Were Never the Problem with Najwa Zebian

If you have ever walked away from a relationship, or a parent, or a childhood, and still found yourself waiting for the person who hurt you to finally acknowledge what th

How Coercive Controllers Use Timing to Keep You in Their Orbit

In this episode, I'm talking about something I call the Saturday text. It's never Tuesday at 10 AM when your coffee is warm and you're mentally ready. It&a

What Coercive Control Does to Your Time

There is a particular kind of loss that doesn't get talked about enough when you leave a coercive relationship, and it isn't the loss of the person. On some lev

I Didn't Know I Was Still Holding My Breath

Some healing doesn't come from therapy or from doing the work in the way you expect it to. Sometimes it comes from watching your team win the NBA finals. In this ep

It Shouldn't Feel This Confusing: Naming the Cycle of Abuse

You know something is wrong, you just cannot name it yet.  In this episode, I walk through the cycle of abuse — tension building, explosion, reconciliation, and the illu

When Love Feels Like a Hostage Situation

If you have ever felt like you were walking on eggshells, apologizing for things that made no sense, or grieving a version of someone who seemed to disappear, this episod

How Manipulators Use Words to Maintain Control

I break down some of the most insidious and subtle ways abusers use language to dominate the narrative and erode your sense of reality. I walk you through five distinct

The Underpinning of All Abuse: Coercive Control with Dr. Christine Cocchiola

Dr. Christine Cocchiola is back, and this conversation goes deep. Dr. Christine is a coercive control specialist, therapist, TEDx speaker, and author who trained under th

When Co-Parenting Becomes Coercive Control

If you've ever felt like you're doing everything right — showing up, advocating, holding it together — and still somehow ending up as the problem, this episode

I'm Not Fucked Up, I'm Detoxing

If you've ever thought "what is wrong with me?" after leaving a toxic relationship — this episode is for you.  I break down why the anxiety, hypervigilance, and pan

Walking on Razor Blades: Life with Someone with BPD Description

BPD is often misunderstood, reduced to stereotypes of moodiness or drama — but if you've loved someone with unmanaged borderline personality disorder, you know it fe

How I Actually Healed (And Why It Didn't Look the Way I Expected)

People ask me how I healed all the time, and the honest answer is that there is no clean framework I can hand you.  In this episode, I share the specific practices that

What I Did When I Couldn't Trust My Own Mind

Before I knew what a trauma bond was, I was hiding my phone under my mattress. I deleted his number, wrote it on a piece of paper, folded it into a journal, and made myse