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Relationships · Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu

The Psychology of Relationships

by Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu

Every couple has a story: the sparks, the late-night talks, the fights about nothing, and the moments that change everything. So why do some relationships thrive while others fall apart? The answer isn’t luck; it’s psychology. Join Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu, hosts of the hit podcast Dateable and authors of the book 'How to Be Dateable,' as they navigate this next phase of long-term committed relationships. Together with leading experts in the field, they'll explore what science really tells us about love, conflict, and connection — and translate it into tools you can actually use. 

Latest episodes

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Stop Trying to Be More Lovable: How Your Greatest Gifts Can Transform Your Relationships w/ Ken Page

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What if the parts of yourself you’ve spent years trying to fix are actually connected to your greatest strengths? Julie & Yue are joined by psychotherapist and Deeper Dat

Oct 1
49 min

Relationship, Are You Sure You Want One?: Why Partnership Should Be a Choice, Not a Necessity w/ Simone Milasas and Brendon Watt

We’re often taught that being in a relationship is the goal—but what if partnership isn’t something we need in order to have a fulfilling life? Julie & Yue are joined by

Sep 24
46 min

The Truth About Attachment Styles: Why You’re Not Just Anxious or Avoidant w/ Lauren Korshak

Attachment styles have become one of the most popular ways to understand relationships—but they’re often reduced to a few labels on social media. Julie & Yue are joined b

Sep 17
58 min

Money & Relationships: What Financial Compatibility Really Means for Couples w/ Joe Gavazza

Money can create some of the biggest tensions in a relationship—but the conflict usually isn’t just about money. It’s about what money represents: security, freedom, cont

Sep 10
38 min

Relationship Self-Sabotage: Why We Push Away the Love We Actually Want w/ Dr. Raquel Peel

Sometimes the things we do to protect ourselves from getting hurt are the very things that create distance in our relationships. Julie & Yue are joined by psychologist an

Sep 3
42 min

Marriage 101: The Relationship Skills Nobody Ever Taught You w/ Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Most people enter relationships without ever being taught the skills needed to sustain one. Communication, conflict, intimacy, and emotional responsibility are often lear

Aug 27
50 min

The New Science of Emergent Love: How to Build Relationships That Grow Instead of Collapse w/ Dr. Sara Nasserzadi

What if healthy relationships require more than simply falling in love? Many traditional relationship models teach couples to merge into one shared identity, but that app

Aug 20
1 h 01 min

Sex Talks: The Five Conversations Every Couple Needs To Transform Their Love Life w/ Vanessa and Xander Marin

Sex is one of the most important parts of a relationship—and one of the hardest topics for couples to talk about openly. Vanessa Marin, licensed psychotherapist and autho

Aug 13
51 min

How to Break Toxic Relationship Cycles for Good w/ Pharaoh Kyle

After enough painful relationships, many people start asking the same question: why do I keep ending up here? Pharaoh Kyle, spiritual coach and entrepreneur, joins Julie

Aug 6
50 min

The Science Behind Knowing Yourself: How Self-Awareness Changes the Way You Love w/ Dr Tasha Eurich

Most people believe they’re self-aware—but research shows we’re often far less aware of our patterns, behaviors, and impact on others than we think. Dr. Tasha Eurich, org

Jul 30
49 min

How To Avoid That Big Breakup or Divorce: The Relationship Warning Signs Most Couples Miss w/ Matthew Fray

Relationships rarely end because of one major event. More often, they slowly break down through small moments where one partner feels dismissed, unseen, or emotionally un

Jul 23
56 min

Creating Chemistry: The Hidden Signals of Attraction and Connection w/ Vanessa Van Edwards

Chemistry isn’t always something you either have or don’t – it’s often shaped by behavior, body language, and the subtle signals people send without realizing it. Vanessa

Jul 16
34 min

Love Factually: Debunking the Biggest Lies We’re Told About Finding Love w/ Paul Eastwick & Eli Finkel

Most of us grow up believing love should feel effortless if we meet the “right” person. But many of the relationship stories we absorb through romcoms and pop culture don

Jul 9
47 min

The 4 Communication Types in Relationships: Why You Shut Down, Lash Out, or Avoid Conflict w/ Sandy Weiner

Communication is often called the foundation of healthy relationships—but most people were never actually taught how to communicate effectively when emotions run high. Sa

Jul 2
50 min

The Hidden Parts of Yourself Running Your Dating Experiences & Relationships w/ Lair Torrent

The biggest factor shaping your relationships may not be the other person—it may be the version of you that shows up in connection. Lair Torrent, LMFT and author of The P

Jun 25
49 min

The Psychology Behind Infidelity: Why People Cheat w/ Dr. Nicolle Zapien

Infidelity is one of the most painful experiences in relationships—but the psychology behind why people cheat is often far more complex than betrayal alone. Dr. Nicolle Z

Jun 18
48 min

Love Is Not Enough: Why You Stay in the Wrong Relationships (Even When You Know Better) w/ Mark Manson

Love can make us believe that if the feelings are strong enough, everything else will work itself out. But lasting relationships require more than chemistry or attraction

Jun 11
47 min

Why Heartbreak Can Become Your Biggest Breakthrough w/ John Kim

Breakups have a way of forcing us to confront the patterns we often avoid seeing in relationships. Whether it’s a slow fade, an almost-relationship, or a breakup you neve

Jun 4
45 min

Breaking Free from Anxious Attachment: Calming Your Nervous System in Love w/ Kirstie Taylor

Do you find yourself overthinking, seeking constant reassurance, or fearing abandonment when dating or in relationships? These patterns often signal an anxious attachment

May 28
52 min

Life After Divorce: How Your Ending Can Actually Become An Exciting New Beginning w/ Alicia Roberson

Divorce. For some, it’s a lived experience. For others, it’s a quiet fear in the back of every serious relationship. In this episode, divorce expert and coach Alicia Robe

May 21
54 min

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What listeners say

A curated, balanced selection of Apple Podcasts reviews.

Rather professional, experienced, or unsure I enjoy this show because of the range of guests and topics discussed. I think people forget how many of us are given great advice or perspective without special credentials. Not everything in the show applies to me but I enjoy listening to different takes and pocket others for more thought later. Thank you for these interesting discussions. I’ve recommended quite a few episodes.

Briana-J · Jul 2026

I truly enjoy this podcast and the depth of the conversations that are shared. The topics are always relevant, thoughtful, and grounded in real-life experience. Without fail, I walk away from each episode with two or three real “gems” that I can immediately apply in my own life. What I especially appreciate is how practical and actionable the advice is. It’s not just theory — it’s insight that actually helps you grow. Their book Dateable has also been incredibly impactful for me. It’s been a meaningful part of both my healing journey and my dating journey. The clarity, honesty, and encouragement throughout the book made a real difference. If you’re looking for smart, honest conversations about relationships that actually help you improve your dating life and yourself, this podcast is absolutely worth your time.

The Gym Sherpa · Feb 2026

I’m so happy that Yue and Julie started this new podcast series. I relied on their Dateable episodes to help me navigate modern dating and its challenges. They truly shaped how I approached dating and relationships. Now that I’m in a long term relationship, I realize the work doesn’t stop. It just evolves. Being in a committed partnership required a different mindset, different skill sets, and intentional planning for the future. This podcast meets me exactly where I am in that journey. The episodes are thoughtful, practical, and engaging. My favorite so far is the one with Ram Sethi, especially as I’m currently navigating finances in my own relationship. It offered both perspective and actionable insights that felt immediately relevant. Highly recommend for anyone who wants to grow, whether you’re still dating or building something long term

itsatrap111 · Feb 2026

I’m loving this new podcast by the hosts of Dateable and watching them step into their next chapter! Julie and Yue continue to curate the most interesting experts and break down patterns in a way that’s super understandable. Such a great listen if you want to understand yourself and your relationships better.

Zara246 · Feb 2026

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