The Happiest Lives Podcast

E170: Why Am I So Reactive?

Why am I so reactive in my marriage even when I know what the Bible says? You can know your identity is secure in Christ, understand your emotional patterns, and still f

E169: Why Does Disappointment Shake Me So Much?

Why does disappointment affect me so deeply when life doesn’t go the way I hoped? Sometimes the hardest part of disappointment isn’t simply what happened. It’s the gap b

E168: Who Gets to Tell Me Who I Am?

Why do other people’s opinions affect me so much when I know my identity is in Christ? You know God loves you. You know your identity is in Christ. But then your husband

E167: The Want Match

Have you ever wondered if you and your husband actually want the same thing, but you’re just going about it in completely different ways? In this final episode of When L

E166: When Desire Turns Into Demand

What do you do when you want something from your husband, but it starts to feel like you need it before you can be okay? In this episode of The Happiest Lives Podcast, J

E165: The Scorecard

Do you keep a mental list of everything you do that your husband doesn’t? This week we’re talking about something most of us do without even realizing it — keeping score

E164: When Love Comes With A Manual

Why do I expect my husband to read my mind? In this first episode of a brand-new series, Jill introduces the idea of the hidden “manual” — the unspoken rules we carry fo

E163: The Conversation

Why does it feel like nothing actually gets resolved even after you've calmed down? You've named the cycle. You've caught the flood before it swept you un

E162: The Story You’re Telling

Why do you keep reacting the same way in conflict — even when you’re trying not to? Most of the time, the fight isn’t really about what it looks like on the surface. It’

E161: Flooded

Why do I shut down — or can’t stop talking — when things get heated? You understood the conversation before it started. You knew what you wanted to say. And then somethi

E160: Why You Keep Having The Same Fight

Why do you keep having the same argument over and over — even when you promise yourself it won’t happen again? If you’ve ever gone to bed after a fight thinking we’ve be

BONUS: What God Is Teaching Me Right Now

How do you trust God when everything in your life seems to be changing? This episode is a little different than my usual teaching episodes. Instead of continuing a serie

E159: Remain in the Spiral

What do you do when anxiety takes over, and you can’t stop the spiral? You know the pattern. Something happens — a shift in your body, a moment of tension in your marria

E158: God in the Laundry

Do the ordinary tasks of my day actually matter to God? You’re doing all of it — the meals, the laundry, the emails, the driving, the remembering. And somewhere in the m

E157: Stop Trying To Act Spiritual

What does it mean to abide in God when your quiet time feels empty and your spiritual life feels flat? You’ve been showing up — reading your Bible, praying, doing all th

E156: Simply Remain

Are you exhausted from chasing outcomes that never quite deliver the peace you’re after? Underneath every goal is a feeling — security, love, peace, worthiness. And that

155: What Church Hurt Is Forming in You- David and Absalom

How do I stop letting church hurt define me? You’ve probably spent a lot of time thinking about what happened. Who was wrong. What should have been done differently. And

154: Why You Can‘t Let It Go (especially when its church)

Have you ever left a church situation feeling like you couldn’t quite shake it — even after time passed? In this episode, Jill sits down with a panel of three women who

E153: Your Pastor Is Human

Have you ever been in a church situation where something felt off, raised it, and had it go nowhere — and now you’re trying to understand why? You can’t have an honest c

E152: Why Church Hurt Is So Hard to Talk About

Why is church hurt so hard to sort through—even when you’re trying to approach it thoughtfully? In this episode, Jill begins a new series exploring the complexity of dis