The Happiest Lives Podcast

E164: When Love Comes With A Manual

Why do I expect my husband to read my mind? In this first episode of a brand-new series, Jill introduces the idea of the hidden “manual” — the unspoken rules we carry fo

E163: The Conversation

Why does it feel like nothing actually gets resolved even after you've calmed down? You've named the cycle. You've caught the flood before it swept you un

E162: The Story You’re Telling

Why do you keep reacting the same way in conflict — even when you’re trying not to? Most of the time, the fight isn’t really about what it looks like on the surface. It’

E161: Flooded

Why do I shut down — or can’t stop talking — when things get heated? You understood the conversation before it started. You knew what you wanted to say. And then somethi

E160: Why You Keep Having The Same Fight

Why do you keep having the same argument over and over — even when you promise yourself it won’t happen again? If you’ve ever gone to bed after a fight thinking we’ve be

BONUS: What God Is Teaching Me Right Now

How do you trust God when everything in your life seems to be changing? This episode is a little different than my usual teaching episodes. Instead of continuing a serie

E159: Remain in the Spiral

What do you do when anxiety takes over, and you can’t stop the spiral? You know the pattern. Something happens — a shift in your body, a moment of tension in your marria

E158: God in the Laundry

Do the ordinary tasks of my day actually matter to God? You’re doing all of it — the meals, the laundry, the emails, the driving, the remembering. And somewhere in the m

E157: Stop Trying To Act Spiritual

What does it mean to abide in God when your quiet time feels empty and your spiritual life feels flat? You’ve been showing up — reading your Bible, praying, doing all th

E156: Simply Remain

Are you exhausted from chasing outcomes that never quite deliver the peace you’re after? Underneath every goal is a feeling — security, love, peace, worthiness. And that

155: What Church Hurt Is Forming in You- David and Absalom

How do I stop letting church hurt define me? You’ve probably spent a lot of time thinking about what happened. Who was wrong. What should have been done differently. And

154: Why You Can‘t Let It Go (especially when its church)

Have you ever left a church situation feeling like you couldn’t quite shake it — even after time passed? In this episode, Jill sits down with a panel of three women who

E153: Your Pastor Is Human

Have you ever been in a church situation where something felt off, raised it, and had it go nowhere — and now you’re trying to understand why? You can’t have an honest c

E152: Why Church Hurt Is So Hard to Talk About

Why is church hurt so hard to sort through—even when you’re trying to approach it thoughtfully? In this episode, Jill begins a new series exploring the complexity of dis

BONUS EPISODE : Why You Feel So Divided

Why do so many Christian women feel emotionally exhausted, internally divided, and disconnected from themselves even when they deeply love God? In this surprise standalo

E151: Boundaries, Letting Go, and Becoming Friends With Your Adult Children

How do you maintain a close relationship with your adult children while still setting healthy boundaries? In Episode 151 Jill Lillard explores one of the biggest transit

E150: Parent to Child to Adult-to-Adult: Changing the Relationship

Why does the relationship with your adult children sometimes feel tense or unclear? Many parents expect the relationship with their kids to stay mostly the same as they

E149: The Expectations You Have for Your Adult Children

Have you ever wondered why relationships with adult children can suddenly feel tense—even when everyone cares about each other? Often, the conflict isn’t actually about

E148: Letting Your Adult Children Grow Up (Mom Panel)

What happens when your child becomes an adult, and the relationship starts to change? Many parents find themselves in this stage without much guidance. The roles shift.

E147: Striving- Why Grace Changes Everything

When Self-Help Isn’t Helping (Part 4) In this final episode of the series, we bring everything together. Over the past few weeks, we’ve looked at how good ideas like di