It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People

Stop Arguing About the Past: The SWYP Method

High conflict arguments follow a script: relitigate the past, assign blame, get nowhere. Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, and Megan Hunter, MBA, introduce SWYP, a three-step method

Two Ways to Handle One High Conflict Case with Dr. Anthony Mazzella

When someone in a high conflict relationship insists their partner is entirely uncaring, is that the whole truth — or a sign of something else going on underneath? This e

Worth Repeating: Protecting Your Job When Home Life Turns High Conflict

In this classic episode from the archives, Bill and Megan tackle a version of high conflict that doesn't always get airtime: what happens when the conflict isn't at work,

Worth Repeating: Why Some People Go Zero to Sixty with Anger (And Others Don't)

One of our favorite deep dives, revisited: why do some people go from calm to enraged in seconds flat, while others barely flinch? Bill and Megan dig into the science — a

Worth Repeating: A Retired Judge's Playbook for Family Court Success

In this classic episode from the archives, Bill and Megan sit down with retired Judge Bruce R. Cohen, who spent 24 years as a family law attorney and nearly 20 years on t

Worth Repeating: Parental Alienation, False Abuse Claims, and When to Stop Fighting in Family Court

One of our most-asked-about topics, revisited: two listeners write in about parental alienation and when to stop fighting in family court. Bill and Megan's answers hold u

From Case-by-Case to Conflict-Smart: High Conflict at Work, Part 4 of 4

High conflict behavior at work rarely stays contained to one person or one incident — it spreads across teams, drains HR's time, and quietly drives turnover and burnout l

From Reacting to Responding: High Conflict at Work, Part 3 of 4

High conflict behavior doesn't just disrupt your team—it follows leaders home, costs organizations hundreds of thousands of dollars, and gets worse when managers react wi

What HR Keeps Missing: High Conflict at Work, Part 2 of 4

High conflict at work rarely announces itself. By the time it becomes a formal HR complaint or a leadership crisis, the patterns were visible much earlier—and the tools m

Why Workplace Conflict Is Surging: High Conflict at Work, Part 1 of 4

Workplace conflict is costing US businesses $359 billion a year—and behind a disproportionate share of that damage is high conflict behavior: the kind that ignores limits

Accepting the Limits of a High Conflict Relationship

High conflict relationships can leave you grieving something most people don't recognize as a real loss — not just the person, but the relationship you always hoped you c

How to Leave a High Conflict Relationship Without Escalating

Fear of retaliation keeps many people trapped in high conflict relationships long after they know they need to leave. Emotional explosions, smear campaigns, threats invol

How Validation Calms the Brain: The Science of EAR Statements

When someone in a high conflict situation gets upset, the instinct is to explain, correct, or reason with them — and that almost always makes things worse. The reason isn

When It's Not Your Fault: Blame, Backlash, and Setting Limits

When a high conflict person says it's all your fault, most reasonable people do something predictable — they start wondering what they did wrong. That instinct toward sel

When No One Believes You About High Conflict

High conflict cases have a well-documented credibility problem: the person with high conflict personality traits walks into the lawyer’s office, the HR department, or the

When Addiction Meets Custody: Building a Plan That Holds, Part 2

When addiction and high conflict personality traits both show up in a custody case, the usual advice stops working. Vague parenting plans become weapons. Standard timelin

When Addiction and Antisocial Behavior Collide in Custody

High conflict custody cases are hard enough—but when one parent also demonstrates antisocial personality traits alongside addiction and a pattern of long-term deception,

Why Your Child Absorbs Your Emotions

In high conflict divorce, children don’t just witness a parent’s distress—they absorb it, often without knowing where the feeling is coming from. Bill Eddy and Megan Hunt

Passive Aggressive Behavior: Is It High Conflict?

Passive aggressive behavior is one of the most common—and most maddening—dynamics in high conflict situations. In this episode, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter of the High Con

Conflict Creators: Why Drama Gets Into Our Heads

Why are so many people drawn to media figures who thrive on conflict, drama, and promises of secret revelations? Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter of the High Conflict Institute