Class with Kate

You can't THINK your way out of OVERTHINKING

Hustle culture tells us to suck it up and "just do it," but when you ignore the fire in your heart, your brain has to deal with the smoke. In this first video in my emoti

Parent's Intentions DON'T MATTER

Many parents will say they “didn’t mean” to hurt you, but never actually change their hurtful behavior. When it comes to our children, we have to focus on the impact of o

You Taught Your Kid to SNATCH

Snatching toys doesn’t make your child a "bad kid,” they might’ve learned the behavior from you. If you want to stop this behavior at the root you have to start with your

The Top-Down vs. Bottom-Up Approach

When our kids misbehave, it's important to know why before correcting. With other adults, the complete opposite is true. Here I explain the difference between a "bottom-u

The Opposite of Emotional Abuse: BEND

If you grew up with a parent who only saw you for your behavior and not your inner world, your ignored emotions probably show up in ways you wish they didn’t. You don’t h

Why Carseats Are a Struggle: IT'S CHILDISM

Your kid isn't being "bad" when it's time to get in the carseat, but your mentality towards it is holding you back. Here I introduce you to the term "childism" and name i

Ep. 91 | When to report someone vs just find someone else? Office Hours with Megan and Martha

This concludes our series on BAD COUPLES THERAPY… for now. Here Kate meets with Martha and Megan, who have both experienced bad therapy, to very different degrees. Learn

Ep. 90 | How it looks when your couples therapist doesn’t get it - Office Hours with Renee

Renee comes to Class with Kate after her husband of 20 years had an affair. She wonders what to do and if her husband is really capable of repair. She then adds her exper

Ep. 89 | What does a couples therapist enabling abuse look like? Office Hours with Sarah and Cece

Both Sarah and Renee have been unhappily married to their partners for quite some time. When they have sought out couples therapy, they have gotten no meaningful support.

Ep. 88 | When going to a couples therapist enables abuse

Are all relationships 50/50? For every action, there is an equal reaction, right? That’s how therapists have been trained to treat couples. But what about in cases of abu

Ep. 87 | He Thought He Had an Anger Problem. I Think It's Depression | Office Hours

Content Warning: Discussion of childhood abuse, neglect, physical punishment, and trauma. John came into Office Hours worried about his attitude, his relationships, and

Ep. 86 | I Had Brain Fog Mid-Class... Then I Used BEND Live to Actually Take Care of Myself

This class started with an unexpected problem: Kate couldn't think. What looked like simple brain fog became a live demonstration of what it means to listen to yourself

Ep. 85 | The Missing Piece in Tiffany’s Estrangement With Her Daughter-in-Law

In Part 2 of My DIL Stopped Talking to Me, Kate sits down one-on-one with Tiffany to go deeper into her estrangement from her son and daughter-in-law. As the conversatio

Ep. 84 | An Estranged MIL Meets Women Who've Been in Her Daughter-in-Law's Shoes

What happens when an estranged mother-in-law sits down with women who have lived through estrangement from the other side? In this episode of Office Hours, Tiffany share

Ep. 83 | The Shocking Thing Toxic MILs and Their Sons Have in Common

Everyone talks about the manosphere. But what if there's an adultosphere too? In this episode, Kate explores how childism—the belief that adults deserve more power and r

Ep. 82 | Can An Incel Husband REALLY Change? - Office Hours with Allison

Trigger warning: sexual abuse, religious trauma, coercion, emotional abuse. Allison married young inside a high-control religious culture and spent years believing her h

Ep. 81 | When Your Marriage Feels Lonely: Grief, In-Laws & Not Knowing Your Place - Office Hours with Iris and Taylor

Taylor and Iris come into Office Hours with two different marriage struggles that uncover the same deeper pain: feeling unseen. Iris is navigating difficult in-law dynam

Ep. 80 | Why You “Check Out” (And Don’t Even Realize It)

Ever gone numb during conflict? Forgotten entire conversations? Felt disconnected from yourself, your partner, or your life? You may be dissociating — and most people don

Ep. 79 | Your Family Won’t Change… Now What? | Office Hours with Chuck

Chuck is estranged from his mom and brother and keeps asking the same painful question: How do I have a relationship with people who won’t change? But Kate challenges so

Ep. 78 | When Your Parents Won’t Heal: Breaking Generational Trauma While Raising Kids | Office Hours with Fay & Amelia

Fay and Amelia are two mothers facing the same devastating realization: the pain their parents caused didn’t end in childhood. It followed them into marriage, parenting,