Becoming You Again

Money Shame After Divorce

That sick, quiet fear at 2 a.m. when you realize you don’t fully know what’s in the accounts, what “marital assets” even means, or how to build a budget on your own? I’m

Money Anxiety After Divorce And How To Face It

Your thumb hovers over the banking app but your brain questions what if it's negative? What if you don't have enough to cover until the end of month? And in tha

Stop People Pleasing With One Sentence

Your phone buzzes with a request and you say “sure” before you even feel your own reaction. If you’re divorcing or rebuilding after divorce, that automatic yes can look l

Burn The Haystack Dating Method: An Interview with Jennie Young

You're ready to start dating after divorce. You join the dating apps, you start to read profiles and immediately feel lost. You start to question, is this normal? Is

You Are Allowed To Feel Good

“Good in bed” sounds flattering until you notice what it’s really measuring. We’ve all heard it used like a performance review: skilled, enthusiastic, attentive and focus

Sex and Intimacy After Divorce

Nobody prepares you for the moment after divorce when dating turns into real physical intimacy and your body doesn’t know how to respond. The logistics get plenty of airt

Are You Ready To Date After Divorce

Everyone has a timeline for when a woman should date after divorce and it somehow manages to be both too long and not long enough. I’m done with the rules, because the tr

Nervous System Grounding After Divorce

Your mind might be ready to move on, but your body may still feel like it’s on high alert. We’re slowing down and doing something practical: a guided nervous system groun

Calm Co-Parenting With A High-Conflict Ex

In the last episode in The Ex-Files series I'm talking about what changes when you are co-parenting with a high-conflict ex where “communicate openly” and “be flexib

Emotional Detachment After Divorce 2.0

Your ex doesn’t have to change for you to feel steady again. If a late pickup, a snippy text, or a comment in front of the kids emotionally hijacks your entire day, it ca

Healing After Betrayal: When Trust Was Broken

Betrayal during a marriage can make you question your own mind, your memories, and your ability to trust what’s right in front of you. If infidelity, lying, hiding, or a

The Ex-Files Ep 1: When Your Ex Moves On

Your ex starts dating again and you're surprised by your reaction of finding yourself crying in the car, obsessing at night, or feeling that tight, panicky drop in y

Why You Didn't Leave Sooner Makes Sense

“Why didn’t I leave sooner?” can feel like a realistic question but the most real thing about it is how full of shame and self judgement that question is. We turn hindsig

Be Audacious After Divorce

“I just don’t want to be miserable anymore” sounds reasonable after divorce, but it can also trap you in a life where you never really stretch yourself or create somethin

Rebuilding Safety And Self Worth After Divorce

If you’ve ever caught yourself checking someone’s face, tone, or mood to decide whether you’re “okay,” you’re not overreacting and you’re not broken. In this episode I ta

A Quick Somatic Tool For Divorce Stress

Your body isn’t “being dramatic” after divorce, it’s doing its best to protect you. When your nervous system gets stuck in fight-or-flight or shutdown, you can feel tense

Perfectionist Fantasies After Divorce And How To Break Them

Perfectionist fantasies of what tomorrow will bring during divorce can feel useful - like we're moving toward something. Your brain whispers, “Once the decree is sig

From Body Judgment to Body Neutrality: A Path Back to Yourself

There's a moment after divorce when you realize at some point, someone new might see you naked can hit like a wave after divorce. If your first thought is I need to

Four Lies That Keep Divorced Women Stuck

Your brain can turn divorce into a courtroom where every thought sounds like evidence and every feeling becomes a verdict. We’re slowing that whole process down and letti

Finding Yourself After Self-Abandonment

That moment when you finally get quiet and realize you don’t know what you want anymore can feel terrifying and weirdly ordinary at the same time. Today I’m going to shin