40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.

Tyler Wasson: Loneliness Is Lying To You

Tyler Wasson spent years running from every uncomfortable silence, awkward date, and rejection, convinced escape was the only way to survive them. Then he found Acceptanc

Stop Reacting, Start Listening: Joshua Johnson on What Gay Men Get Wrong About Difficult Conversations

Most gay men do not have a conflict problem. They have a conversation problem. Joshua Johnson spent 25 years in journalism learning why people cannot talk to each other,

David Lauterstein: Why Fun is Not The Same As Happy

David Lauterstein co-founded Nasty Pig, one of the most unapologetically sex-positive brands in queer history. Everyone expected his first book to be about that. Instead

Frank Spinelli on Shame, Trauma, and Why Gay Men Over 40 Are Reading the Wrong Map

Gay men over 40 have been running from shame their entire lives. Frank Spinelli says that is exactly the wrong move. As a physician, survivor, and author of The Shame Com

Dr. Myron Krys: Successful, Wanted, And Still Alone

Dr. Myron Krys calls himself and loneliness bedfellows. He knows it from the inside, and he sees it every day in his therapy practice with gay men who look like they have

Colin Belcourt: Queer Shame, Self-Erasure, and Stop Cleaning Up Your Story

Gay men are experts at editing themselves. At work. In relationships. Inside the queer community itself. Colin Belcourt wrote a book about what gets cut out and why it ne

Brad Ryan: 63 National Parks, One Grandmother, and the Healing Gay Men Stop Believing In

His father rejected him. His grandmother changed everything. Brad Ryan spent seven and a half years driving across America with his 85-year-old grandmother, visiting all

Stop Negotiating Which Version of You Shows Up – Skip Sams

Skip Sams spent years deciding which version of himself was allowed into which room. Corporate leader in one. Recovering addict in another. HIV positive kept quiet in mos

Your Body Is Lying to You About Sex: Fran Frye Breaks Down What’s Really Happening For Gay Men

Something goes wrong in bed and gay men immediately blame desire, performance, or themselves. Sex educator and trauma specialist Fran Frye says they're diagnosing the wro

The Quiet Parts Out Loud: Huck Smith on Gay Dating, Bar Culture, and Becoming Real

Gay bars are dying. Dating apps are killing real connection. And gay men over 40 are carrying stories they have never let themselves tell out loud. Huck Smith started pos

Stop Swiping, Start Connecting: Court Vox on Attraction, Intimacy, and What Gay Men Over 40 Get Wrong About Desire

Gay men over 40 know how to find sex. What most of them have never been taught is how to find connection. Court Vox is a certified sex and intimacy coach, founder of The

The Warning Signs Are Here: Dr. Nas Mohamed on LGBTQ Rights, Authoritarianism, and Gay Complacency

Dr. Nas Mohamed grew up in Qatar where homosexuality is criminalized, arranged marriages were expected, and silence was the only safe option. He chose medical school over

Steven C. Law Spent 45 Years Loving the Same Man. Here Is What He Wants Gay Men Over 40 to Know.

Most gay men were never shown what lasting love actually looks like. Steven C. Law lived it for 45 years and then wrote a book to make sure nobody forgets what it cost to

Katherine Wela Bogen on What Gay Men Get Wrong About Bisexuality and Why It Costs All of Them

Gay men know what it cost to come out. Bisexual people paid that same price and then got rejected by the community that was supposed to finally understand. Katherine Wela

He Was HIV Positive and Ran Toward Ground Zero Anyway: Neil Adams on Michael Dorian and the Story That Would Not Stay Untold

On September 11, 2001, a gay man living with HIV made a decision that had nothing to do with self-preservation. He ran toward the World Trade Center and spent 24 hours in

HIV Is Not Over: Andrew Spieldenner and Alex Garner on Stigma, Survival, and What Gay Men Over 40 Need to Hear

You lived through it. You lost people. And somewhere along the way you decided HIV was somebody else's problem now. It is not. Andrew Spieldenner and Alex Garner from MPa

Morgan Rich Says the Version of Masculinity You Were Handed Was Never Going to Fit. Here Is What Does.

Most men were handed a version of masculinity that had no room for grief, sensitivity, or showing up as anything other than hard. Gay men got that version and then got to

Randy Jones Has Been Gay for 30 Years and Still Asks Himself If He Is Gay Enough

Thirty years with the same man. Kids. A suburban life. A career built on celebrating the best in people. And a question that never fully goes away: am I gay enough? Ran

Jeff Nally Lost His Husband Without Warning. Here Is What Nobody Tells You About Being a Gay Widower.

Nobody hands you a roadmap when your husband dies. Jeff Nally knows that firsthand. Sixteen months after losing Bob unexpectedly to a brain hemorrhage, the executive coac

Corporate Rejected Joseph Federico. He Said Fine And Bet On Himself!

Most gay men know they are meant for something more than the corporate box they squeezed themselves into. Getting out is another story entirely. Joseph Federico, The Mark