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Self-Represented in Family Court

by Tracey Bee, Pro Se Family Court Strategist

Your lawyer is gone, or the money to keep paying one is running out, but your Family Court case is not over yet and honestly, there seems to be no end in sight. Self-Represented in Family Court is the strategy and trial-preparation podcast for people representing themselves in high-conflict divorce, custody, child support and related contested family law matters. Hosted by Tracey Bee, a former family-law attorney and the founder of The Divorce Solutionist®, this podcast helps you understand what it takes to become a strategically prepared pro se litigant. We specifically focus on topics relevant to  you if your attorney has withdrawn, your retainer has become unsustainable, you cannot afford continued representation or trial is approaching and you do not know what to do next. This is NOT generic legal information, motivational encouragement or another podcast telling you simply to “believe in yourself.” Tracey examines the hidden strategic problems that can have the most impact on what happens in court: What did your attorney complete and what did they leave unfinished?Do you have your entire client file or merely a folder full of random documents?What does the judge still have to decide?What must you prove to obtain the outcome you are requesting?Does your evidence establish a relevant disputed fact or only tell your story?Which witnesses help prove your case, and which may weaken it?What Discovery, procedural or trial-preparation gaps still need attention?Can you realistically handle your hearing or trial without an attorney?Where would targeted legal assistance or support create the greatest value?How should you allocate any money or resources you have left? Episodes explore topics that address Family Court trial preparation, attorney-to-pro-se transition, case strategy, evidence analysis & organization, Discovery, witnesses selection, courtroom procedure, judicial decision-making, direct and cross-examination, settlement, litigation costs and the practical realities of presenting your own case particularly at hearing or trial. You will learn why proving that your ex lied is not necessarily the same as proving your case; why your strongest evidence may never be seen or heard by the judge; why a beautiful trial binder cannot repair a weak case theory; and why the relief you are requesting may be the most vulnerable part of your case. Tracey’s approach is grounded in one central principle: You do NOT need to become a lawyer. You need to become a prepared litigant. Some people can proceed through Family Court with structured preparation and strategic support. Others need targeted attorney involvement or full legal representation. This podcast helps you understand the difference, identify the gaps in your case and make more deliberate decisions before fear, depleted finances or an approaching trial date makes those decisions for you. If your lawyer has withdrawn, you are preparing to transition from represented to pro se, or you are facing a Family Court hearing or trial without counsel, start listening now. Learn more about Tracey’s From Represented to Pro Se™ Case Transition & Trial Readiness Assessment, Trial Strategy Intensives and comprehensive trial-preparation services at TheDivorceSolutionist.com. Educational and strategic information only. This podcast does not provide legal advice, create an attorney-client relationship or replace advice from a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction. Follow me on social media @TheDivorceSolutionist or @FamilyCourtStrategist

Latest episodes

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What Really Makes a Family Court Case High Conflict? | Season 3 Episode 23

862.800.7850 One of the phrases litigants overuse  in Family Court is: "High Conflict. "Someone disagrees with you? They’re high conflict. Someone enforces a boundary

Jun 17
21 min

Is Your Family Law Attorney Solving Problems or Just Billing You? | Episode 22

862.800.7850 Having a lawyer does not automatically mean your case is moving forward. In fact, one of the biggest frustrations people experience in Family Court is won

Jun 10
35 min

Litigation Panic in Family Court: Why Smart People Make Bad Decisions | Episode 21

862.800.7850 Litigation Panic is real. And it affects far more people than most ot us realize. In high-conflict Family Court cases, even highly capable, emotionally r

May 27
24 min

The Truth About Delays in Family Court (What Nobody Tells You) | Season 3 Episode 20

862.800.7850 Delays in Family Court can be discouraging. The continuances. The canceled hearings. The months of silence. The feeling that your case is going nowhere wh

May 20
28 min

Going Pro Se in Family Court? What You Need to Know Before Hiring a Lawyer | Episode 19

862.800.7850 Most people think hybrid legal representation is the “best of both worlds” and guarantees better results in their divorce or custody case.  You represent

May 13
28 min

Pro Se vs Lawyer in Family Court: Which Is Better for Your Case? | Season 3 Episode 18

862.800.7850 One of the biggest decisions you’ll make in your case? Do you represent yourself…or hire a lawyer? It’s not as simple as most think.  Because switching

May 6
38 min

Divorce AI Tools: What NOT to Use in Family Court (Costly Mistakes) | Season 3 Episode 17

862.800.7850 AI tools are everywhere right now, especially in Family Court.  ✔️Helping you organize your case. ✔️Prepare  your documents. ✔️Even “build” your legal arg

Apr 29
43 min

Gray Areas in Family Court: What to Do When There’s No Clear Answer | S3 Episode 16

862.800.7850 Family Court would be easier if every situation had a clear answer. An identifiable rule to follow. A direction on which motion to file. A fair judge to

Apr 22
2 min

Five Alimony Scenarios and Strategies: What Courts Actually Look For | Season 3 Episode 15

862.800.7850 More people are asking for alimony right now than ever before. And it makes sense, based on: Economic uncertainty. Job instability. Rising costs. Financia

Apr 15
11 min

The 5 Types of Clients Lawyers Work With (Which One Are You?) | Season 3 Episode 14

862.800.7850 Season 3 Episode 14 Most people think hiring a lawyer means they can step back and let the professional handle everything… I meant to say EVERYTHING. But

Apr 8
18 min

Choosing Peace in Family Court: When Settling Your Case is the RIGHT Move | Season 3 Episode 13

862.800.7850 Settling your case can feel like the fastest path to having the peace you once enjoyed. Less stress. Less conflict. Less time in court. And sometimes… se

Apr 1
22 min

Financial Abuse Gets WORSE During Divorce: Here's What Works in Court | Season 3 Episode 12

862.800.7850 In this episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, Tracey Bee goes deep on one of the most misunderstood and frustrating dynamics in divorce: Financial a

Mar 25
24 min

The House Mistake Family Courts See Every Day | Season 3 Episode 11

862.800.7850 Can You Keep the House? | Family Court Strategy In this episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, Tracey Bee addresses one of the most emotionally motiv

Mar 18
24 min

Can Bad Timing RUIN Your Family Court Case? | Season 3 Episode 10

862.800.7850 In this episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, Tracey Bee dives into one of the most overlooked elements of family court strategy: timing. Most liti

Mar 11
24 min

Family Court NIGHTMARES! How Judges LABEL Litigants | Season 3 Episode 8

862.800.7850 In this episode of “Self-Represented in Family Court,” Tracey Bee breaks down a reality most litigants don’t realize until it’s too late: Family Court is

Feb 25
30 min

Season 3. Episode 9 You Might be Ready, But You're NOT Prepared

862.800.7850 You are not prepared for Family Court. You might be ready, but you are NOT prepared, at least most of you aren’t. You might have gathered all the proof you

Feb 11
37 min

Your Case is Losing Traction & You Have No Idea Why | Season 3 Episode 7

862.800.7850 In this episode of “Self-Represented in Family Court”, Tracey Bee breaks down a common (and frustrating) reality: your case can lose traction even when you

Feb 4
24 min

Season Break

862.800.7850 This time of year I usually take a break to decompress.  So right now I am working on clearing my mind while at the same time gearing up for 2026. I am s

Dec 10 2025
1 min

Season 3. Ep 6. The Perils of Over-Documenting Evidence

862.800.7850 Most people think the more evidence you bring to court, the better.  But in family court? That approach can destroy your credibility. In this episode, Tra

Nov 26 2025
25 min

Season 3. Ep 5. Reframing: It IS What You Said AND HOW You Said It

862.800.7850 Ever walked out of a courtroom thinking, “What just happened in there?” You told the truth. You stayed calm. You presented your evidence — and somehow, th

Nov 12 2025
27 min

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This was exactly what I needed to hear today. I’m an alienated mother of 2 beautiful daughters. The alienation began right after taking my power back and becoming financially independent therefore no longer needing to sleep with my ex husband to pay my rent. The moment he no longer had that control, he stared using our oldest (11) as a weapon. He started speaking to her about adult issues, including our custody and child support cases. Suddenly, my sweet baby girl, my first born, my heart, hated me and we b wha there was “nothing I could do to fix it. No therapy would help, she didn’t want or need me in her life and that’s final.” I was shattered, as you can imagine. I forgot to mention this was also less than 2 months before I gave birth to their little brother. Meanwhile, our youngest daughter (then age 6) still came during my parenting time, bonded closely to her brother, and continued her close mother/daughter bond as as with me. This continued for nearly 5 years until suddenly I was experiencing déjà vu all over again. However, now I had not only my own broken heart, but the broke heart of a little boy who didn’t know why he couldn’t just see his “sissy girl” anymore. It is disgusting how far narcissists will go to feel like they “won”, feeling of control, no matter the cost, even to their children. Anyway, just wanted to qualify a little bit and let you know how much your podcast has helped validate my experience and motivate me to keep keeping on, no matter how hard and emotionally heavy it is. I can’t and won’t give up on my babies. Thank you again from the bottom of my broken heart. Respectfully, Jess

#MamaJess · Jul 2024

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