Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

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Episode 778: There Is A Future Without This Love

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who just can't imagine a life without their ex Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more

Oct 16
32 min

Episode 777: Grateful For One Safe Man When So Many Aren't

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to thank the man who kept her safe ten years ago Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hou

Oct 12
41 min

Episode 776: Russian Nesting Dolls of Shame

In this Patreon episode we're releasing on the main feed, Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is feeling renewed shame about something terrible that happened

Oct 9
40 min

Episode 775: Dating While Caring for a Dying Parent

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is having trouble sticking to her relationship when her father is dying Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, m

Oct 7
35 min

Episode 774: How Do I Live in a Body I’m Angry With?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is trying to be in her body while also trying to conceive Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office

Oct 5
35 min

Episode 773: You Don't Have to Move On to Move Forward

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to know if he's still grieving or simply stuck Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours

Oct 2
32 min

Episode 772: My Fiancé Is in Couples Therapy With Her Best Friend…Who Hates Me

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner's best friend maybe hates her Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more!

Sep 30
28 min

Episode 771: My Ex's Mom Texted Me to Get Her Gifts Back

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who stayed friends with their ex's mom and it got weird Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours,

Sep 28
28 min

Episode 770: I Fear I'll Be This Lonely Forever

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is wondering if she'll every have a close community again after the death of her best friend Join us on Patreon for an ex

Sep 25
33 min

Episode 769: How Long Do I Wait for My Partner to Change?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner's anger continues to be an issue Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more

Sep 23
31 min

Episode 768: My Boyfriend of 3 Years Won't Introduce Me to His Mom

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is wondering if her boyfriend is living a double life Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hour

Sep 21
38 min

Episode 767: Don't Just Stay Because It Feels Easier

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who can't make her break up stick Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: ju

Sep 18
30 min

Episode 766: What's Actually Under All My Relationship Anxiety?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is really anxious about the relationship escalator Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours,

Sep 16
31 min

Episode 765: Advice For a Newly Single Baby Gay Pollywog

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to explore their sexuality after a 7-year relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly offi

Sep 14
23 min

Episode 764: We're Back Together But He Won’t Tell His Parents

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is stuck between "relationships take work" and "the right person will make it feel easy" Join us on Patreon for an extra

Sep 11
38 min

Episode 763: Everything I’ve Wanted But I Don’t Feel Wanted

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner's timeline for physical intimacy is moving at a glacial pace Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, mo

Sep 9
29 min

Episode 762: Am I Therapy-Talking My Feelings Away?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is tired of using therapy speak with her brother Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, an

Sep 7
38 min

Episode 761: My Fiancé's Moving Out, My Girlfriend's Moving In

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose expansive new life blew up her old one Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more!

Sep 4
36 min

Episode 760: Got Married, Got a Visa, Got Chlamydia

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is trying to make her visa marriage with a cheating husband work Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly

Sep 2
31 min

Episode 759: Competing With My Husband's Phone For His Attention

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose husband spends literally 8 hours a day on his phone Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hour

Aug 31
33 min

What listeners say

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The truth is I can’t remember when I started listening. Perhaps like a year and a half in, let’s say right before COVID? Wow, we still measure time based on a pandemic. Yes, this is the world we live in. And yet, since that time, somehow, someway, you two have continued to let us glimpse into your friendship and learn from your wisdom, so supportively and graciously given to listeners. For so many YEARS…because what is time? I don’t often leave long reviews, but I consider you all are a MAJOR part of my inner circle. As someone who has always been straight presenting and also questioning, I cannot tell you how valuable it is to have this level of access to you all. That’s a major life choice you’ve been making for years, and I feel so blessed to be able to benefit alongside all your other listeners. Thank YOU.

SetLover · Aug 2026

I have listened to JBU for years now and I truly cannot thank these two enough for the wisdom and comfort they have provided me though good and the bad times. It’s been so therapeutic, often way more helpful than my IRL therapy sessions. I appreciate their thoughtful, empathetic, deeply helpful perspectives and insights. It’s so refreshing and I just love listening to these two so much. Thank you for sharing your energy, time, and gift with us. You make this world a better place.

mdubbbb88 · May 2026

Listening to this podcast has genuinely helped me think more securely about relationships and I recommend it often to friends. The hosts are imperfect people who have been on their own path of emotional growth and security. They do a great job of pulling from their own experiences and personal research to give the best advice they know how to give. Their candor and vulnerability is so genuine and refreshing. Listening to this podcast is like listening to two very insightful friends work through a problem.

Lfdeshane · Mar 2026

I think the hosts are well intentioned but I can feel them holding back on giving their real opinions in order to remain “positive” but it’s just giving toxic positivity rather than hard truths that some people need. One episode is my was clear the boyfriend was out of bounds and being inappropriate but the hosts told the writer that she either needs to manage her emotions and jealousy or it wouldn’t work out? Even though the guy was clearly doing shady things. It felt like they wanted to tell her to break up with him but decided to tell her to change herself instead? It was weird. I think more upfront honesty would be better but then again maybe their audience wants to be told to stay in bad relationships so they feel justified to even though it’s clearly hurting the ones writing in. It’s okay to not always give the benefit of the doubt to the person sabotaging the relationship.

Mermmmm · Feb 2026

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