Jackie Faber: Inside My Journey

S2 E4: Perception Changes Everything

What if healing doesn’t always mean changing the people around you but changing the meaning your nervous system gives to their behavior? In this episode of Inside My Jou

S2 E3: The Moment We Give Our Safety Away: How I Learned to Recognize Self-Abandonment

In this episode, I’m unpacking the moment we give our safety away. For me, that usually happened when something inside of me became uncomfortable and my attention immedi

S2 E2: What Is Self-Safety? Why Emotional Safety Isn’t Something Someone Gives You

What if emotional safety is not something another person gives you? In this episode of Inside My Journey, I’m exploring the difference between relational safety and what

S2 E1: Why I Started Questioning Healthy Relationship Advice

After taking the summer off, I’m back for Season 2 of Inside My Journey — and I’ve changed the way I think about relationships. For years, conventional “healthy relation

S1 E19: The Deepest Form Of Intimacy

If you remove sex from a relationship, all you have left is friendship. At least that's what people keep telling me. Over the last few weeks, I've found myself fascinat

S1 E18: I Didn't Heal My Anxious Attachment — I Dissolved the Pattern

For years, I deeply identified with anxious attachment. I believed distance meant danger. Space meant rejection. Uncertainty meant abandonment. And because of that, eve

S1 E17: Why I Couldn’t Finish My Book Until I Changed

Today is a really big day for me because my book, Permission to Be, is officially out on Amazon. But this episode isn’t just about the release of the book. It’s about th

S1 E16: What If Most Harmful Behavior Is Unconscious?

There was a time when I viewed harmful behavior almost entirely through the lens of unconscious survival. Then I entered online abuse discourse… and suddenly everything

S1 E15: I Stopped Managing Everyone's Feelings

In this episode, I talk about one of the biggest patterns I’ve uncovered within my relationships: over-functioning. For years, I thought I was being loving. Supportive.

S1 E14: Why “Impact Over Intent” Is Creating Dysfunction in Your Relationships

We’ve been taught to prioritize impact over intent. To be aware. To take responsibility. To make sure what you say lands well. And on the surface… that sounds healthy.

S1 E13: When You Stop People Pleasing… and Start Seeing It Everywhere

You stop people pleasing… and suddenly you start seeing it everywhere. You notice who can’t say no. You notice who overextends. You notice who says yes… and then feels r

S1 E12: When Telling Your Story Can Keep You Stuck (Healing vs Rehearsing)

You’ve told your story. So why do you still feel stuck? In this episode, I break down something no one in the healing space is talking about: The difference between pro

S1 E11: When You Lose the Ability to Self-Abandon

A client inside the Self-Safety Lab sent me a video this week about self-trust and internal safety. The creator said something I’ve been speaking about a lot lately—that

S1 E10: Most “Empathy” Is Just Reinforcing the Pattern (And No One Talks About It)

We’re told that empathy means meeting people where they are. Validating. Understanding. Holding space. And I actually agree with that… but lately I’ve been running into

S1 E9: Why Sex Starts to Feel Like Performance (And Why It Doesn’t Just Go Away)

I wasn’t planning on recording this episode. But something came up in my own relationship this week that I couldn’t ignore. I found myself in a dynamic with zero pressu

S1 E8: Why Relationships Feel Hard (It’s Not What You Think)

Relationships aren’t actually hard. What’s hard is staying with yourself when something gets activated inside of them. In this episode, I break down the real reason rela

S1 E7: The Unfolding: Recognizing What Was Already There

Sometimes the thing we’re searching for isn’t something we need to create — it’s something we need to recognize. In this episode, I share the story of how a relationship

S1 E6: When Your Mind Can’t Keep Up With Your Awareness

There’s a stage of awakening no one really prepares you for. It’s not bliss. It’s not clarity. It’s not “I found myself.” It’s the moment your consciousness expands so

S1 E5: Why Some Healing Advice Feels Invalidating (And When It Finally Makes Sense)

There are certain concepts in healing that used to infuriate me. “You have to love yourself first.” “Stop outsourcing your safety.” “Let them show you who they are.” At

S1 E4: Unconditional Love Is Not Enough: The Missing Piece in Spiritual Relationships

Love is one of the most talked about — and most misunderstood — concepts in spirituality. Many of us were raised believing love is something we earn, perform for, or rec