Shameproof Your Desires

Not Right Now, You’re a Mom: Why Kinky Desires Make Good Moms Feel Like Bad Moms

Do you feel bad mom guilt every time a kinky fantasy pops into your head? You’re not alone. So many moms have a “drawer” where they stuffed their desires the day they bec

Book the Balcony | Romantic Travel, Power Exchange Rituals and Keeping the Passion Alive

What does your life look like once you’re impossible to shame? For Auntie Carmen it looks like a balcony over a lake in Italy at 5:30 in the morning. In part 3 of my trav

I Didn’t Know I Had Kinks | Discovering Kink and Power Exchange After Divorce

When I got divorced, I just wanted intimacy. I had no idea I was a woman with kinks. In this episode I share how the very first person I slept with after my divorce made

Alone at the Trevi Fountain

I once stood in front of the most romantic fountain in Rome all by myself, on a trip with my husband. In this episode I share what that morning taught me about shrinking,

Three Ways Shame Is Running Your Sex Life (And How to Get It Back)

In this episode, Auntie Carmen brings together the three patterns covered in the last three episodes, the good girl lane, fantasies under lock and key, and expanding and

Expanding and Contracting: Why You Keep Retreating the Moment Someone Judges You

In this episode, Auntie Carmen names the pattern she calls Expanding and Contracting, the cycle of getting brave, opening up, and then retreating right back into hiding t

Fantasies Under Lock and Key: Why Keeping Your Desires Secret Is Costing You More Than You Think

Auntie Carmen breaks down why women keep their fantasies locked away, and what becomes possible the moment you finally say them out loud. Keywords: hidden fantasies, sup

The Good Girl Lane: Why You're Still Waiting for Permission You'll Never Get

In this episode, Auntie Carmen names the pattern she calls the Good Girl Lane, the invisible habit of waiting for permission before claiming the sex and desires you actua

The Secret I Kept Even From Myself: Discovering What I Actually Wanted

In this episode, Auntie Carmen picks up where episode eight left off, exploring what happens once desire comes back but you don't yet have language for what you actually

The Good Mom Trap: When Motherhood Became My Excuse to Ignore My Own Desire

In this episode, Auntie Carmen opens up about a belief that quietly ran her life for years: that being a good mom and having real, active sexual desire couldn't exist in

I'm Not a Trad Wife, But I Am in My Dynamic

In this episode, Auntie Carmen picks up where episode six left off and takes listeners inside the real, everyday version of her power exchange marriage. She breaks down t

From Controlled to Collared: My Real Story of Finding Consensual Submission

In this episode, Auntie Carmen goes deep into her origin story, from a controlling first relationship in high school to a sexless ten-year marriage, and finally to the co

Too Much Was Never the Problem

Can you remember the first time someone made you feel like you wanted too much? In this episode, Auntie Carmen, the Kink Midwife, traces the exact moment "too much" got w

Your Line in the Sand

Standing at a turning point, a divorce, a loss, a big life change, and wondering what you actually want now? Auntie Carmen opens the show by asking the question most wome

The Fantasy You've Never Said Out Loud

There's a fantasy you've never said out loud to a single person, and it's been sitting there this whole time, taking up more space than you realize. In this episode, Carm

You Don't Need Permission to Want What You Want

You don't need anyone's okay to want what you want. In this episode, sex and relationship coach Carmen Joseph breaks down why so many women wait for permission to claim t

Welcome to Shameproof Your Desires

Welcome to Shameproof Your Desires! In this opening episode, certified sex and relationship coach Carmen Joseph shares why she renamed the podcast and the realization t

Juicy Bits Announcement

In today's brief episode, Carmen shares a little of what's to come with this podcast.

Micro-Stepping Into Your New Sexual Identity

What happens when you stop waiting for the perfect moment and start saying yes to your own curiosity? In this honest episode of Juicy Bits with Carmen, Carmen shares a r

Why You Don't Enjoy Sex

This episode is your reminder that the permission you've been waiting for isn't coming from a partner, society, your family or even your favorite coach. It starts with yo