In Bed with Science: a Sex Podcast

Stop Trying to Recreate the Honeymoon Phase — Do This Instead (Why Desire Fades in Long-Term Relationships)

When couples have been together for years, boredom can start to feel like something you have to accept. You love each other, but somewhere along the way, you start wonder

A Doctor Asks a Sex Therapist: Married at First Sight, Low Desire & What She Really Does All Day

This week's episode is a little different. I sat down with my cousin — Dr. Chloe Vites, a GP (doctor) based in the UK — and let her ask me all the questions people usuall

Non-Monogamy vs Monogamy: Who's Really Happier?

We've been taught that monogamy is the default because it's more satisfying, more "natural". But what if that's not actually what the research says? In this episode, I d

I Tried Everything And It Was Never Enough | Mismatched Libidos

A listener wrote in describing herself as a "well-scraped peanut butter jar" — nothing left to give sexually, and tired of trying. She'd had sex four days a week, spent

The Hidden Reason You’re Struggling to Orgasm With Your Partner

Difficulty orgasming isn’t always about you. At least, not in the way you might think. In this minisode of In Bed with Science, I’m talking about one of the less discuss

AI Vs. Therapy for Low Libido: I Put It To The Test

AI is being turned to as a replacement for therapy. As a sex therapist who specialises in low libido, I wanted to know - can it actually help with something as nuanced as

‘Men Will Have Sex With Anything’? A Sex Therapist Breaks Down the Harmful Myth

We've all heard it before: "Men always want sex". They’re simple and always raring to go. As a sex therapist specialising in low libido and mismatched desire, I know the

Low Sex Drive in Women & Mindfulness, with Dr. Lori Brotto

Low desire in women is often treated as a hormonal problem or a relationship one. But what if the problem isn’t low libido persay, but rather a lost connection to your b

Why We Have Sex We Don't Want (& How To Approach it)

Sometimes low libido doesn’t look like avoiding sex. Sometimes it looks like having sex you didn’t really want in the first place. In this episode, I talk about somethin

ADHD, Autism & Sex: Why Sex Feels So Hard, with Dr. Bowen Marshall

For many neurodivergent people, sex becomes draining or disconnected over time, even when there’s desire and care underneath it all. Sex can start to feel like something

“We Used to Have Such Great Sex”: Can Sexual Nostalgia Help Desire?

“We used to have such great sex" is one of the most common things I hear from clients as a sex therapist and coach. Along with this confession usually comes grief, shame

Sex & Performance Anxiety: What Helps with Dr. Evie Kirana

If you want sex to feel good again and not have to think about whether you're hard or softening, or whether you're going to have an orgasm soon — this episode gives you c

Sex & Performance Anxiety: What’s Really Going On with Dr. David Rowland

If you’ve ever felt your body shut down the moment sex begins (your arousal just disappears, or you become consumed with worries about your performance), this episode wil

"Does It Even Work?": 'Female Viagra' for Low Libido with Dr. Glen Spielmans

A quick fix for low libido in women - sounds like a dream, right? Even for me as a sex therapist! In this episode, I talk with researcher Dr. Glen Spielmans about bremel

When Planned Sex Works & When It Doesn’t: What the Science Really Says

If the idea of planning sex makes you panic, this episode is for you. And if you’re curious whether planning could help your sex life and relationship thrive - it’s for

Low Libido in Men—How Hidden Emotions Push Couples Apart with Grace Wang

Up to 40% of men experience low desire. But it's rarely talked about—in society or relationships. In this episode, I talk with researcher Grace Wang about what really h

Taking My Own Advice: Slowing Down To Show Up Better

This episode is a bit of a departure from the regular stuff! A personal update and a few important reminders about sex, desire, and overall well-being. Interested in my

How to Talk About Sexual Preferences Without Killing the Mood

How can you tell if a new partner shares your turn-ons — without making it awkward? In this episode, I answer a listener question about casual sex, power dynamics, and t

Should You Tell Your Partner About Your Sexual Fantasies?

Sharing what turns you on with a partner can be scary. But it can also be hot, and emotionally rewarding. This episode dives into one of the most common but rarely spok

Low Desire and The Mental Load: The Hidden Link with Dr. Simone Buzwell

Do you ever feel like your sex drive is just… gone — and you don’t know why? In this interview episode, I talk with researcher Dr. Simone Buzwell about how relationship