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What Is a Parenting Plan? How to Build a Child-Centered Divorce Agreement with Mediator David Fein

When you’re getting divorced with children, there are some decisions that look deceptively simple on paper: Where will the kids sleep? Who takes them to soccer? What happ

Hey Olivia, how do I figure out what I actually deserve when I've spent years talking myself out of wanting anything at all?

"I started believing that the criticism, the feeling small, the walking on eggshells, was just what marriage was. I've caught myself telling friends 'it's not that bad' a

A Divorce Lawyer's 3 Unexpected Tips for Getting Through Divorce

Sometimes, when your life is falling apart, the thing that helps you hold yourself together is something as ordinary as getting dressed. Not because a great outfit can so

How to Survive Shared Custody: 5 Ways to Stay Connected to Your Kids After Divorce

One of the most heartbreaking parts of divorce can happen after the agreements are signed and the custody calendar becomes real: suddenly, you may no longer see your chil

Think You’re Divorcing a Narcissist? What to Do Before You Tell Them

There is a very specific kind of fear that comes with thinking about divorce when you have no idea how your spouse is going to react. Maybe every difficult conversation s

Shifting Perspectives: Why Are We So Afraid of Divorce?

Sometimes the hardest part of divorce isn’t only ending the marriage. It’s realizing how many beliefs you’ve inherited about what ending a marriage is supposed to say abo

Hey Olivia, how do I let myself question the plan of staying together for the kids?

"I've said 'we're staying together for the kids' so many times it's basically become my personality. But my daughter asked me last week why I always look sad when he's ta

Hey Olivia, how do I stop building a timeline of everything I should have known?

"Everyone keeps saying 'you must have known,' and honestly? I didn't. Now I'm replaying every conversation, every weird silence, every time something felt off and I told

Hey Olivia, how do I know the difference between giving up too soon and finally admitting effort isn't the problem?

"I've read the books. I've gone to therapy, solo, since he won't come. Every time something doesn't work, my first thought isn't 'this isn't working,' it's 'I must not be

Hey Olivia, I posted something on TikTok during an angry divorce spiral and now I regret it. Do I delete it?

"I posted something on TikTok during an angry divorce spiral last night, mid-rant, feeling completely justified in the moment. This morning I woke up and read it back and

Hey Olivia, how do I stop sleeping with my spouse now that we're separated?

"Since my husband and I separated, we keep ending up back in bed together. It's not planned. It just happens." In this Hey Olivia listener letter episode, Olivia answers

Hey Olivia, I haven't told anyone I'm thinking about divorce. Does that mean I'm not serious about it?

"I've been thinking about divorce for months, but I haven't told a single person. Does that mean I'm not actually serious about it?" In this Hey Olivia listener letter ep

Hey Olivia, how do I know if this is over, or just a rough patch?

"How do I actually know if what I'm feeling is 'this is over,' or just a rough patch?" In this Hey Olivia listener letter episode, Olivia answers one of the most common q

You Don't Owe Anyone a Reason For Your Decision Yet

Do you feel like you need an airtight, defensible reason before you're even allowed to think about divorce? In this solo episode, Olivia pushes back on that pressure and

Why Your Body Shakes The First Time You Say Divorce Out Loud

Why does your heart race, your hands shake, or your throat tighten the moment you finally say "I'm getting divorced" out loud? In this solo episode, Olivia breaks down th

You Signed Your Divorce Decree — But Do You Actually Know What's In It? Molly Rosenblum, Esq. explains!

There's a piece of paper that ends your marriage and quietly runs your life for years afterward — and almost nobody reads the whole thing. In this episode of Divorce Happ

Hey Olivia, why am I the villain for leaving an abusive marriage?

There's a particular kind of injustice that so many survivors know intimately: you're the one who finally said enough, and somehow you've become the villain of the story.

Hey Olivia, how do I prepare for mediation with an ex who fights me on everything?

Mediation is hard enough when both people are negotiating in good faith. It's a different animal entirely when you're walking into the room across from someone who seems

Hey Olivia, how do I survive watching my spouse date again while cohabitating?

There's a specific kind of heartbreak that doesn't have a name yet — the one where you're still doing his laundry in the same house while he giggles at his phone on the c

The Mediation Series, Part 4: Life After Divorce Mediation

You don’t walk out of a mediation session into a blank space — and yet almost nobody talks about what actually comes next. That’s the gap this episode of the divorce medi