Lost Boys

I love this conversation and as a feminist who has been very man - hatey and blame-y in the past, I am very open to learning about how that is not the answer, and fully humanizing men. However, I’m curious where gay or queer men fall here? Are they included in all of these stats? Or is this a straight male issue? Perhaps you could have some queer male voices for that conversation. Also I want every man in my life to listen to this. HOW DO WE MAKE THIS HAPPEN?? Women will listen, but how do we get this into the ears of men who need it?

I grew up in a very patriarchal Jamaican family. I’m 54 now but still must speak to my older male relative before making a major decision. When I was younger this set up really bothered me but has I’ve lived and learned I’m grateful. My brothers, sisters, cousins and myself have all found success. We all chose a variety of jobs are home owners, and found happiness in life. Having the wisdom of my father, his brothers, the men on my mom side I think made the difference in all our lives. My dad is gone now but his words and example will be apart of my life for the rest of my natural life. My work ethic, how to be a parent, a sibling, a friend. People now live in their own bubble, they’re not honest which is why people are so shock when someone in their lives kill themselves. I can pick up the phone at any hour to any of my brothers, male cousins, and they’re there for me, emotionally, financially whatever I need. I thank god for my tribe.

Loving this show and the candor and humility of the hosts. Some humble bragging but it’s likely unavoidable. Deirdre really added another element of responsibility as well. My gen x friends and I always talk about the stark differences in how we were raised versus how we raised our kids. I would argue that Gen X is the last generation who were raised like their kids in an old school manner. We were raised on bmx bikes snowball fights and afternoon cartoons. And to your question about what changed, look into the Jacob Wetterling effect. We talk about it a lot. To us in MN that was a fundamental shift in how parents addressed oversight of their kids.

I’m grateful for this podcast. I have 4 wonderful grandsons and all 4 are really struggling to find their place in the world. I am glad to hear someone is paying attention and speaking up for our young men.

I have listened to several episodes of these two guys theorizing about why young men today are aimless and doing badly, and it’s not going anywhere. I work with several young men who are in their early 20’s, right out of college, and they are doing very well thank you very much. They put in the work during college to earn good grades, they have completed the CFA program, they do CrossFit, they have girlfriends or wives, and they are making well over $150 thousand per year, and they have a life plan. They are rockstars. You know what these young men didn’t have? BAD PARENTING. How about an episode about how BAD PARENTING is the root cause of aimless young men in America today? Stop dancing around the issue here and talk about how the real problem is BAD PARENTING.