The Architect Speaks - For Those Who Can No Longer Be Who They Were

Why the Nicest People Are the Angriest | Ep 548

Why are the nicest people so often the angriest? A man finds out his wife has been unfaithful, and the strongest word he can find for it is disappointed. A woman who pick

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Thank you to everyone listening. I appreciate you and trust you gain great value listening to this podcast. I try every week to bring you the best of the work wrapped in

Why You Resent the People Who Did the Most for You | Ep 547

Why can you resent the very people who did the most for you? Your mother rings, and within two minutes she's mentioned how much she gave up for you. You put the phone dow

Why Loving Parents Behave So Badly in a Divorce | Ep 546

Why do decent, loving parents behave so badly when they separate? Almost every separating couple with children starts in the same place, at a kitchen table, promising to

Why Dark Psychology Won't Stop You Being Manipulated | Ep 545

Why doesn't learning everything about manipulators stop you being manipulated? Dark psychology promises that if you learn every tactic, spot the narcissist in the first f

Does Manifestation Work? The Science of Manifestation | Ep 544

Why can you do everything manifestation asks of you and still wake up in the same life? I keep seeing the phrase "the science of manifestation" on book covers and course

An Announcement: Two Episodes a Week | Ep 543

After seventeen months and more than five hundred and forty episodes, The Architect Speaks is moving to two episodes a week. In this short episode I explain why. A daily

Why Am I Afraid of My Boss? The Lord Who Is Now Your Boss | Ep 542

Why are you still afraid of your boss? You laugh at the joke that wasn't funny. Your stomach drops when a meeting invite turns up with no agenda. You answer emails on a S

Who This Work Is For: The Three Patterns That Keep Turning Up | Ep 541

Three patterns turn up again and again in the people who find this work: keeping the peace by silencing yourself, over-giving to earn your place, and never feeling good e

Why Nice People Suddenly Explode: It's True What They Say About the Quiet Ones | Ep 540

Why do nice people suddenly explode? It's so often the quietest, most agreeable person in the room who blows up without warning, over something small, in a way nobody saw

Betraying yourself or just losing comfort? How to tell the difference | Ep 539

After a real change, the heavy feeling that arrives can mean two very different things, and they show up in the same place in your chest. One is the discomfort of betrayi

How to Tell If Someone Is Manipulating You: Manufactured vs Revealed | Ep 538

How do you tell if someone is manipulating you when what they give you feels this good? In this episode I take apart two ways a feeling gets manufactured in you and sold

Was Merlin the Wizard a Real Person? The Madman in the Forest | Ep 537

Was Merlin the wizard a real person? The legend grew out of a man the old stories of the north call Lailoken, and the Welsh call Myrddin Wyllt, Myrddin the Wild. He saw s

Why You Feel Empty After Giving Everything (Coherent vs Incoherent Sacrifice) | Ep 536

You can give everything you’ve got to your family, your work and your relationship, and still end up feeling empty. In twenty years as a therapist I watched this happen t

Who Was the Real King Arthur? Rightwise King Born | Ep 535

Who was the real King Arthur? A Welsh history from around the year 830 calls him a war leader who fought twelve battles, and never calls him a king. The sword in the ston

Your Conscience or Theirs? How to Tell the Difference | The Managed Sacred, Part 2 of 2 | Ep 534

Have you ever made a decision about your own life and found you couldn't feel good about it until somebody else told you it was the right one? Most people call that being

Is Excalibur the Sword in the Stone? The Sword That Was Never Yours | Ep 533

Is Excalibur the sword in the stone? In Malory they are two different swords. The sword King Arthur pulls from the stone snaps in a fight he didn't need to have, and Exca

Supernatural: Why Sam and Dean Winchester Could Never Let Each Other Go | Ep 532

Supernatural ran for fifteen seasons and 327 episodes, and six years after the finale people are still asking for a sixteenth. Why did it last so long? The prequel kept t

Why You Feel Guilty Before You've Done Anything | The Managed Sacred, Part 1 of 2 | Ep 531

When was the last time you felt guilty before you'd even finished the thought? Most people call that their conscience. This is where a lot of it came from. The Inherited

Robin Hood, Hugh Jackman and The Uprising: Why the Outlaw Keeps Coming Back | Ep 530

Robin Hood has come back three times in less than a year: the MGM+ series Robin Hood, Hugh Jackman in The Death of Robin Hood, and Andrew Garfield in The Uprising. The la