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Smart Family Podcast
Smart Family Podcast
Do you ever feel like being at home isn’t what you thought it would be? Somehow, it just seems to fall short. You try so hard to juggle the moving pieces and keep everyone happy, but you feel like you’re surviving instead of thriving. There’s so much advice about parenting and adult relationships, it’s hard to focus on what you really need to know. Let us help you. We started The Smart Family Podcast with you in mind. We exist to offer you high quality, practical advice to help you strengthen your marriage and boost your parenting to the next level. We’ll help you understand the latest research. We’ll bring you easy-to-digest conversations with experts on family life. We’ll save you time by doing the leg work for you, so you can thrive at home.
August 24, 2020
SFP 021 | Raising Kids with an Instinct for Racial Justice; Lifestyle and Anti-racism; Related Parenting Best Practices and Pitfalls - with Dr Bryan Loritts and Ashlee Eiland
Ever wonder how you're going to move beyond exposing your kids to educational materials, when you look around and see no Black people in your neighbourhood? How do we as parents act as change agents to instill attitudes of anti-racism in the next generation? Today we have that conversation with Ashlee Eiland and Dr. Bryan Loritts - both pastors and both generously willing to talk to us about what they've experienced and observed as best practices and potential pitfalls for parents who care about racial equality.
August 5, 2020
SFP 020 | Modelling Sincere Apologies For Your Kids; Avoid Missing the Point with Your Apologies; and Why Sometimes Sorry Isn't Enough - With Dr Jennifer Thomas
Have you ever left an argument with your husband or wife feeling unsatisfied - that their apology was lame? On the other hand, has your spouse ever accused you of saying "I'm sorry" but not really meaning it? Yet, we know that not making amends leaves us open to being blocked in our marriage by walls that are built of unresolved hurts. In this eipsode we talk to Dr Jennifer Thomas - a psychologist who has studied and written extensively about the relational skill of apologizing. Dr Thomas explains how we all speak a different apology language; how we need to practice this regularly with our partners; and model and teach this to our kids.
July 22, 2020
SFP 019 | Screen Time, Social Media, Technology and Your Kids - WIth Jeff and Wendy Henderson
Should I monitor my teenager's texts? Should I buy my 11 year-old a smartphone? How much screen time should my son get? If these questions resonate with you, then this episode with Jeff and Wendy Henderson will offer some practical guidance. It's not easy being a parent in a tech-filled world. There are so many good things about technology and the various social media platforms, but kids and teenagers are especially vulnerable to the pitfalls and dangers they present as well. As gifted speakers and authors, but foremost as parents themselves, Jeff and Wendy Henderson have a heart for families and communities and they strongly believe that kids need our guidance to help them navigate this world of technology. Their practical common-sense advice on this topic will help move your family to better place in cyberspace.
July 8, 2020
SFP 018 | With Dr Gary Chapman - On How COVID-19 Has Affected Relationships; Five Simple Ways To Strengthen Your Marriage Today; And Why Taking The First Step To Improving Your Marriage Is So Hard But So Important
The pandemic has been a crisis on so many levels. Not surprisingly, it has had a real impact on our closest relationships as well - for better or for worse. Today Dr Gary Chapman - author of The Five Love Languages - teaches us five simple ways we can strengthen our marriages, even when it feels like we are stuck at home together. There's actually no better time than this to really work on our marriages and our parenting relationships. From years of experience counselling couples, Dr Chapman shares his wealth of advice with us to "guide our various ships through the same storm" so we can emerge on the other side of this pandemic with healthier relationships than ever before.
June 24, 2020
SFP 017 | Avoiding Toxic Conflict as a Couple; How to Make Family Fights Safe for Kids; Dodging the Lasting Impacts of Poor Communication - With Lisa Emms Wice
Do you lie awake at night wondering whether the fighting between you will impact your kids? Do you feel stuck at an impasse over a marriage or parenting issue and not sure what to do next? Experienced mediator Lisa Emms Wice has helped countless people up their peacemaking skills. She shares her wealth of wisdom for couples and parents alike. Lisa is a wiz at helping couples move past their impasses, especially when there are children's issues involved. Take some tips from Lisa and turn what might have been an ugly scene into a better experience for everyone.
June 17, 2020
SFP 016 | With Dr. Kara Powell - On The Paradox Of Teens Growing Up More Quickly and More Slowly At the Same Time; Why Anxiety in Teenagers is Increasing; And A Super Practical Approach To Partnering With Our Teens
If you are a parent about to enter, or in the middle of, the teenage years - this episode is for you. We have an open and honest conversation with Dr. Kara Powell - Executive Director of the Fuller Youth Institute. Kara has done extensive research into teenagers and anxiety. Although she approaches the issue from a spiritual perspective, her insights apply to teenagers and parenting in any situation. This episode will encourage and inspire you but, most importantly, make you hopeful for the next generation as you learn to parent them in an anxiety-provoking culture.
June 3, 2020
SFP 015 | On Perinatal Mental Health - How Depression and Anxiety Can Steal Away The Joy of Motherhood; How Fathers Also Struggle With Mental Health in The Perinatal Period; And How Perinatal Mental Health Is About So Much More Than Postpartum Depression
Expecting a baby and giving birth is supposed to be a happy occasion and a time of love and bonding. For so many parents however, it is a time of struggle and deep emotional pain, like being in a fog. The accompanying guilt and loss of function can rob a mother or father of the opportunity to nurture and bond with their newborn baby and strengthen family relationships. Yet perinatal mental health is often overlooked, despite the fact that it is the most common health complication of the perinatal period. Today we shine a light on this issue with two women - Jaime Charlebois and Patricia Tomasi - who have not only lived through their own experiences but have also become advocates and experts for this cause. If you've had a baby and are struggling with mood or anxiety, or know someone who is, this episode will bring hope and validation.
May 20, 2020
SFP 014 | With Dr Tom Phelan - Why 1-2-3 Magic as a Strategy is Effective; How Routines Promote Positive Behaviours; And Why Having Fun One-on-One with each Child is Important
There have been many books written about effective discipline in children but few as popular as Dr Tom Phelan's 1-2-3 Magic. In this episode we talk with Dr Phelan and draw upon his decades of experience helping families. We discover that 1-2-3 Magic is about much more than simply counting. We delve into why this simple technique works - how it allows children to know when they have not met an expectation, then gives them the opportunity to turn it around before facing a consequence. But Dr Phelan's method is about so much more - promoting positive (or "start") behaviours and developing a healthy long-term relationship with your child. If you've ever been frustrated by constant negative interactions with your child and want to turn it around so that you love being home, this episode is for you.
May 13, 2020
SFP 013 | With Ian Morgan Cron (Part 2) - How Knowing Your Enneagram Number Can Improve Your Parenting; Your Child's Personality Development; and What Parents of Certain Enneagram Types Need to Be Mindful Of
As parents, we get a front row seat as our children develop and mature. We go through all the highs (and some lows, too) as their individual personalities come to light, and sometimes clash with our own. In this episode we discover how childrens' personalities are shaped and how they are influenced by our personalities. In this second part of our discussion with author and Enneagram teacher Ian Morgan Cron, we delve into how our personalities intersect with our children's and why knowing what motivates us is so important to becoming an effective and self-aware parent. We review the nine pesonalities of the Enneagram and highlight some personality types which may represent a challenge for parenting. Listen as Ian Morgan Cron explains how knowing yourself better can help you to know (and parent) your children better.
May 6, 2020
SFP 012 | With Ian Morgan Cron (Part 1) - How The Enneagram Can Help You Grow Closer As A Couple; The Enneagram as a Tool for Personal Growth; Why Understanding How You Respond in Crisis Is Vital
Have these days of COVID-19 social isolation taken a toll on your marriage? Is your stress seeping through the cracks? Even though now we're starting to take steps out of 'shelter in place', being in close quarters may have left you feeling distressed over what went down. Author and psychotherapist Ian Morgan Cron is an expert in using the practical personal growth tool called the Enneagram to help people see more clearly both the strength and the shadow side of their personality. It also helps partners develop more insight and compassion for each other. Ian Morgan Cron is passionate about helping people understand their hidden motivations and identify their own next step toward emotional health. Want a close and satisfying marriage - one that holds up during crisis times? Hear what Ian Morgan Cron has to say in this episode.
April 29, 2020
SFP 011 | With Ron Deal On The Key Ingredients to Making a Blended Family Strong; How to Nurture a Relationship With A Stepchild; and Why Forcing A Relationship Too Quickly Can Lead to Disappointment
While forming a relationship with a new spouse is natural and exciting, doing so with your spouse's children may seem more daunting. After all, your remarriage is an arranged marriage for your children. Today's guest brings hope that there is so much potential for positive and life-giving relationships in your blended family. Family therapist, author and speaker Ron Deal offers some incredible insights to help you avoid some of the common pitfalls and help your blended family not only adjust but thrive. If you are entering, or are part of a blended family (or know someone who is), this episode offers you the direction and some practical tools to help you develop long-lasting and loving family ties.
April 15, 2020
SFP 010 | With Dr JoAnne Pedro-Carroll - Helping Your Kids During and After Divorce; How to Avoid Putting Children In the Middle; and How to Co-parent for Resilience
You're divorcing or you suspect you will be, and whether or not your kids will be okay still keeps you up at night. If that's you or someone you're close to, don't miss today's episode. Dr. JoAnne Pedro-Carroll has spent decades of her career working with and researching the responses of kids to divorce and advising parents on wise ways to help them adjust. She has an enormous respect for parents who have done the hard work to do such things as overcome conflict, become civil and caring toward each other as exes, and maintain strong, loving ties with their kids. As she points out, kids have common fears such as whether their parents will still love them, or whether they caused the divorce. She unpacks for us the approaches and messages parents can adopt to avoid putting their kids in the middle.
April 1, 2020
SFP 009 | Shaunti Feldhahn on How to Stop Fighting Over Money; Understand More About Money Conflict and Your Fears; And Start Having Real Conversations About Your Finances
Is it hard for you and your partner to talk about money or budgeting without getting into an argument? Have you had so much tension you just don't talk about it anymore? Our guest Shaunti Feldhahn, social researcher, author and speaker, has a lot to say to shine some light on the issues running under the surface of couples' money woes. She sums it up like this: "It's not about the money". In this episode, Dr. Rob, Toni and Shaunti talk about the common factors you may not be fully aware of, that trip up the vast majority of couples when it comes to managing their finances together.
March 18, 2020
SFP 008 | With David Thomas on Understanding How Boys Develop; And How To Talk With (and Listen To) Boys at Every Stage
Do you ever scratch your head as you observe a boy's behaviour? If so, you will appreciate the insights of David Thomas, author and speaker with decades of family counselling experience. With a practice focused specifically on boys, David understands the unique nature of boys, the stages of their development, and most importantly - what is normal behaviour? He also shares with us some really practical tips on how to talk to boys.
March 12, 2020
SFP 007|BONUS episode: Coronavirus and Your Kids: Advice from Dr Rob
With all of the constantly evolving information out there about coronavirus - it's hard for parents to stay on top of it. But what are our kids thinking about all of this? Are they worried? Scared? How can we help them cut through the noise to make sense of what is going on around them? In this bonus episode Dr Rob Meeder will give you some practical advice about coronavirus - specifically how it relates to kids - and how you, as parents, can have meaningful and supportive conversations about this with your kids. Although these are uncertain times, they are also opportunities for us to build up our kids and strengthen our family bonds.
March 4, 2020
SFP 006| "Why Anxiety in Girls Has Become So Common; The Link With Social Media; How Parents Can Make Anxiety Better (or Worse!)"
You recognize the potential in your daughter, and you see she cares about how well she's doing. The flip side of her desire to succeed makes her prone to becoming anxious. In today's episode, Sissy Goff, an author, speaker and experienced counsellor whose practice is focused on girls and teens, shares insights about the rising epidemic of anxiety, impacting girls at younger and younger ages. We examine the scope of the issue, possible reasons, and what you as a parent can do to help.
February 26, 2020
SFP 005 | BONUS Episode: Carey Nieuwhof interviews our co-hosts Dr. Rob and Toni on Avoiding Some of the Trips and Traps of Parenting: Anxiety in Kids, Healthy Tech Limits and Parent Conflict
Last month, Carey Nieuwhof sat down with your co-hosts Toni Nieuwhof and Dr Rob Meeder for the Carey Nieuwhof Leadership Podcast to bring you what they've been learning from their experiences with family law and paediatrics. This episode brings you practical insights about parenting, marriage and mental health. Rob and Toni talk about the heart behind launching the Smart Family Podcast. We hope you'll find it helpful and fun!
February 12, 2020
SFP 004 | Dr Craig Brannan on How Shame has a Negative Impact on Marriage; How Vulnerability Helps Couples with Intimacy; and How Craig Uses Humility to Strengthen his Family Ties
"Ever wonder why your marriage seems stuck or intimacy seems to be absent? In this episode, counsellor and relationship expert Craig Brannan explains how shame may be preventing you from experiencing marriage at a deeper level. Want to learn how a healthy
February 12, 2020
SFP 003 | Dr Michael Sytsma on Keeping Your Sex Life Strong When Your Kids are Young; Honest Communication Helps Couples with Babies Stay Intimately Connected
It's common for couples to struggle with their sex life once the first baby comes along. What do you do if physical intimacy seems like one more chore on the list? Maybe you've hit a season where you and your partner don't seem to be on the same page abou
February 5, 2020
SFP 002 | With Michael Gurian - Brain Science Explains Why Boys and Girls Learn Differently; Hacks on Enhancing School Success for Boys and STEM for Girls; and Nurturing Aggression but not Violence
Do boys and girls learn differently? Why is it that bright young girls struggle with math, and smart young boys find it a challenge to write a story? Dr Michael Gurian, psychologist and counsellor who applies brain science in his practice, answers these q