August 6, 2021
How to Get More Time
How We Experience TimeTaking a note from experience, memory, and observing my kid, this podcast explores how we can teach ourselves to not only experience having more time but have a more enjoyable time doing it.Episode Highlights00:30 As an adult, time seems to speed up and we have too much to do and not enough time for the stuff we want to do.01:00 Whenever you’re doing something you dread, hate doing, or are avoiding, time seems to slow down to the point you feel trapped.01:30 After spending a lot of agonizing time doing things you hate, you look back and wonder where your time went because it seems like it passed really fast in retrospect.01:37 When you do something you love, time seems to stand still and expand in the same way that the experience expands and opens you up.03:00 When we’re enjoying what we are doing and are fully present, time is expansive.03:30 Why do we experience time taking so long as a kid and then losing that as adults?04:03 I want to experience my life more fully, and I see my daughter doing that as a child and I try to learn how to replicate what she’s doing that makes things so engaging for her.05:00 When we are really engaged in something in our lives, invested in it and not off somewhere else in our minds, time really does seem to slow down. Suddenly, there’s plenty.05:40 The secret to having more time is to somehow get our minds and emotions fully present in the NOW, where time ceases to be relevant, and we just exist.06:00 If you’re not in the past, or off in the future, you get to be present and enjoy the moments that are actually here.06:10 Our minds really love to spin off into the future or the past, and that’s how we get to the end of our day and wonder where the hell did our day go?06:50 There’s so much added judgment on top of our lists of things we believe we have to do that makes our experience of time kind of suck as adults.07:25 What if we could not be so burdened by our stuff and inherit some of the innocence of children?08:27 Time feels more burdensome and oppressive for me when I feel I am racing against the clock for something.08:55 “How much of this stuff is true?” This is the question we need to ask ourselves to unlock the possibility of more time.09:18 Children that experience the expansiveness of time seem to assume that they are not alone in any task that needs completing. Adults who experience the fleetingness of time seem to assume they are the only one who can get it done.09:40 It seems to me that joy is what makes time more expansive.10:00 I am able to be very busy but still feel like I had a lot of time in my day when I am not worried about what else I need to get done but appreciate what actually is getting done.10:10 Which feels better: “Oh god, I have so much to get done?” or “Wow, look how much I got done!” Both can be true, but one feels better.10:50 When I focus on 15 things to get done, none of them get done very well or at all, and the end of my day feels pretty shitty.13:10 Whatever I choose to do now, I am learning to just wholeheartedly dive in and set everything else aside so I can enjoy my life and give my brain a break. It seems to give me a LOT more time, too.14:50 I’m learning how to be present and let time expand for me instead of chasing it and always wishing I had more.15:00 The time we have is the time we have, and we can choose to enjoy it.16:00 Say yes to something. Be there for it. Enjoy it. And then, later, say yes to something else.